So confused. Need advice...

Okay, so I have two problems...

1). I have no idea what to do about my boyfriend. I really care about him and everything and we've been dating for almost 4 months. But he's always working or I am, so I only get to see him on the weekends or every other. Anyway, he is jealous of my guys friends, and the majority of my friends are guys. He even accused my best guy friend (who is also my boyfriend's friend) of wanting to "steal" me away from him. That's only ONE of the things that is bothering me. Sometimes it seems like I'm having to walk on eggshells when I'm talking to him. I'm careful not to mention any of my guy friends or one of my girlfriends (who is my boyfriends ex girlfriend). I'm afraid of losing his friendship and the good time that we have when we're together. I truly do care about him, its just, it seems like he's suffocating me. Controling me. He never does the little things that really matter. Like telling me I'm pretty, or just holding me. I don't know. Just the little things like that. He never makes the initiative to call me anymore, I'm always having to call him, or not talk to him for a week. The 23 of June was my birthday and he didn't even call to say happy birthday or anything. When we're together, its like all he wants is to get in my pants. (I lost my virginity to him, only done it once.) I don't know. There's just a lot of those little things that are bothering me...

Okay, and my second problem..

2). The other night I pulled an all-nighter at my brother's house with one of his friends (who is also my friend). We stayed up until 5.40AM playing video games and just talking. He's a really sweet guy and I like him. And I have the feeling he likes me, but I'm not sure. The problem: he's 21 and I just turned 16. I don't know if I'm attracted to him because he's a sweet guy and actually listens and cares, or if it's because I can't have him or if it's because I'm grasping at attention from another guy because my boyfriend isn't giving the attention to me that I need.

But it's all a mess and I need some MAJOR advice.

Okay about your boyfriend seriously, well its obvious that your boyfriend is insecure about you and your guys friends probably because hes really into you. Plz understand this first. Secondly of all, have you already told your boyfriend how he's making you feel? You cant try avoiding the situation and trying to keep peace and a relationship. Just tell him how he makes you feel. He needs to trust you more because you simply cant just toss your friends aside. Their your friends and they just so happen to be guys. He if trully cares about you he will accept this fact and will simply try to live with the fact. So just let him know that you care but that hes suffocating you.

Okay well jobs are jobs but if you two trully care about each other it wont matter if you only get to see each other 1 once every two weeks at most. And well I dont know what to say about him trying to get into your pants. He may just have simply fallen in love with you really fast. He could care alot. If hes too sexual though, just try to lighten the situation by trying to aviod being put in that situation.

Well now you could like the 21 year old one guy simple because your having trouble with your current boyfriend. Plz keep that in mind. But if you truly like this guy and if he truly likes you than go for it. However realize if this happens you have only enforced your boyfriends thinking that your guy friends are trying to steal you from him. your heart is your heart and just follow it. Dont allow fear to control it however. A relationship is tough, but standing through is worth it.

I hope my advice helped.

Thanks a lot for the advice. I really appreciate it. But how do I go about talking to my boyfriend about it? Everytime I try to talk to him about something serious, he either won't talk about it, or shrugs it off or something like that, or gets mad. And I've tried to stay away from being put in the situation of the sexual stuff, but everytime I mention something else to do, he doesn't want to or something. It's like our relationship has become just about the sexual stuff and nothing else. I need the mental and friendship side of the relationship as well as the other stuff. Ugh. I don't know. It's a huge mess.

Thanks for the advice. I've made up my mind to break up with him.. I'm just not sure If I can..

You can.