Wating.

So i fell in love with him about 4 months ago. and he is pretty much the defintion of amazing. he really cares about me. and i know that. he chose to be with someone else. because of his circumstances. his brother told him... that if wanted to be able to go anywhere or do anything. that he had to be with her. because he thinks that she is the one for him. but he called me... after all this had happend. and he said amber. i know that things are different. now. and i know that i have a girlfriend. but don't you think for one second that that feeling isn't still there. because it is. when im with you. and when im talking to you. that is all that matters. you are sooo beautiful. and everytime i look at you. i wonder what the hell am i doing with her. and then the other nite.... he straight up told me not to go. to stay here. and like. trust me. if i really wanted to go. he would let me. like if i found someone else or whatever. but i know that he cares. i'm just affriad. do you all think that i should wait. or just go ahead and move on with my life?

So in other words, this guy lets his brotehr decide his happiness for him and allows others to control his life? Wow...

Or on the other hand, he's using her, because again like what was said "that if wanted to be able to go anywhere or do anything. that he had to be with her."

Really you want to wait for someone like this? Maybe he is a wonderful guy, maybe his eyes are brilliant and his words tell you everything you need to hear, maybe he verbally gives you everything that you desire...
it's easy to talk you know...apparentl actions come one in a million and mean nothing to people these days..it must all be in a word..
"wait"...seriously, don't do that, he's not attempting for you, don't wait for the action, just take your own.

~WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

He picked another girl over you. And now he's leading you on behind her back. If he leaves his girlfriend for you, then he'll do the same to you behind you back.

Stop talking to him. You're his back-up, in case something goes wrong with his girlfriend. You don't want to be that girl, it's not fair to you or the girl he's dating.

Jaime is spot on, as usual ; )

Yes, this guy is just letting small things get in the way of your love. If he really cares for you as he said, he wouldn't give a freak what his brother says. That's not his dad or mom. I don't know why he's letting his brother choose who he can and can't love. It's just not right.

It is HIS life. Not his brother's. He has to be a man, step up to the plate, and defend himself and you. His brother doesn't know you. Or at least, the true you. So he has no right to judge you whatsoever.

But honestly I don't think you should even be with a guy who would let that get in the way of your relationship. He is with another girl. He LET it happen. It's not even right he's going behind her back to be with you. I would stay friends with him, maybe, but nothing serious. Not with a guy like this.

So what would you do if he held a special place in his heart for you. Litterally for years. Just recently let her go even though we split years ago. She's still there somewhere, just not as strongly. I found that there was life after divorce. Even though things didn't work out as I'd hoped, we remained friendly, and yet I wouldn't have traded the experience for anything in the world.

I agree with Jamie and Persona. A guy sort of did the same thing to me, with the whole, picking another girl over me thing. Things went bad with their relationship and then he came to me. I, (stupidly), went out with him. There's just too much drama and I'm breaking up with him tomorrow. It seriously is just not worth it. Trust me. I speak from experience.

No reason to wait. This guy sounds like he needs to make up his own mind about his life and not let others do it for him.