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Well...me and this boy i have been dating for almost 5 months now....for some reason...i have this wall up....i try to open up to him...but im afraid of getting hurt...bc ive gotten attached to him...i love him....he makes me so happy...but i keep a wall up....i kow i should open up...but this girl he use to date....he still talks to her( idc that he does) but one night he told me that he still missed her....and idk ever since that i cant open up to him....anymore....bc when he told me that....thats when i had really started to open up and he goes and does that to me but........what do i do...when i know im in love with him

Hunni. Every time you commit yourself in a relationship, you're ALWAYS going to risk getting hurt. That's just how things are. We can't change that but that shouldn't stop you for going for what you want. And you wanna be with this guy, correct?

I would talk to him about this. Tell him your feelings and what you can't seem to open up anymore. He deserves to know. I think he would understand better if you did. Maybe you two will be able to work things out.

But to be honest, just because he misses her, doesn't necessarily mean you need to worry. I have been with guys and still missed my ex-boyfriend Tyler. That doesn't mean I would break up with them and go back to him or anything. It just means we had a good relationship and I just missed talking to him and being around him.

Well that sucks a lot. if some1 still has feelings 4 their ex and goes and dates another ex, you get all lovey over him, but he's not all there 4 u. that sucks a lot. he needs 2 get over here cuz he's with u not her. and u need 2 tell him how u feel and wats up in ur head! cuz he'll switch around.

no1 should ever do that 2 some1.

Wow that would be so hard.... honestly i think its best that wall is up..because if it doesnt work out then it would be hard to go through...maybe you should give it time, talk to him about how you feel about him saying that to you..maybe you'll feel better

Just tell him straight up whats going on in ur head man. if he is a good guy, he will be understanding and compassionate. As for the whole missing his ex thing, dont take it too personally because im dating this boy now and i still miss my ex sometimes but its nothing more than the memories man. Dont read too much into it because it could just be something small.

Maybe that means it's not meant to be. But another thing is, in a relationship communication is so so important and if you can't talk to him about your feelings then what's the point?

And, if your letting him missing his ex get in the way of your relationship and being happy together, you have a problem. I say discuss it and see where it goes.