"Friend Dates"

Maybe I'm just being paranoid, or perhaps I am borderline retarded and cant see the obvious due to my feelings for this person... but my girlfriend is constantly going on what she calls friend dates with these dudes. Dates such as going to see a movie, or to dinner and a movie and so on and so forth. One of the guys she used to "be" with in a romantic relationship, the other has asked her out and admitted to having feelings for her. If I went to a movie alone with a girl she would be hurt and jealous... I am aware of this, yet she seems to think is perfectly fine for her to do so. I am uncomfortable with it and she knows this, if it were guys who were actually interested in friendship and nothing more I'd let that shit fly and wouldn't think twice... but given the circumstances its bothering me.

Are these "friend dates" a normal thing and I'm tripping balls for no reason or is there something more to it? Any and all advice is appreciated.

Yea they r normal but wile she is on her "friend dates"call aand ask to talk to her friend and make sure its the girl ok. :)

Given that these people are or have shown interest in her, it is no surprise it is bothersome. In the end though, it comes down to trust and respect, do you trust her and does she respect you? And if she is going out with her guy friends, there should be no problems with you going out with any of your friends who just happen to be girls. If it is not okay you kind of have to question that double standard.

No, this kind of "friend dates" are not normal. I see no point to meet people who had crushed on me if I am aware my darling does not like it. Even he would be okay I would not go on meeting people who had these feelings to me because it always creates confusion and there is a change everything ends up to a drama.

I hate to say this but I think your sweeheart is not one of the most unselfish person in this planet.. :/

Hanging out with your friends is fine... but she's not really respecting you, when you have a legitimate concern about it. And she's not really respecting the guys, either, because she's leading them on. If she cared about their feelings in the long run, there are ways to kindly but firmly turn down their advances, and she's inviting them, rather. It sounds like she's relishing the attention. Mm.

It's the whole double standard thing that gets me. How can she expect you not to have a problem with something that she has a problem with?

Someone up there^ said she just wants the attention, and I think that's exactly the case. It's one thing to hang out with friends, even friends of the opposite sex, but it seems like she's really pushing the boundaries a bit.

You're not wrong, so talk to her and set her straight. Just make it very clear why you think it's wrong (romantic histories, etc).