Heartbreaker

I have boyfriends. I like some of them. I use some of them and I know it's wrong. I love a guy while i like others. And I put it in the back of my heart so it wouldn't stick and pop up. Now I'm dating someone who I really do truly like. I just don't know how to tell him things. I want to tell him he is clingy and immature. Annoying but so sweet and cute and smart. I want him to be perfect for me. But am i wanting too much? I don't want to ditch him. When things get tough with guys I zoom away. I am the heart breaker, but unless I find out a way to talk to the guy I'm dating, I will be the heartbreakee with a boyfriend who knows nothing of it.
I know I have strong standards, but he meets more than normal guys. I need advice.

please and thank you

Lexie

Seriously, you have standards? Wow...

Anyways, you truly like this guy? No you most likely like the beginning idea of him and what you don't like you're quick to want to change to make him what you want him to be.

You started out with "I have boyfriends" so how many do you have? And no you don't know it's wrong to use people, because you continue to do it.

My advise for you, why dont' you leave this guy, he deserves someone who likes him for him, not someone who has to controll every aspect of him and erase what he is to better suit their image.

"I am a criminal.
I am a thief.
I stole your heart
and left it out to bleed.
I am a prisoner.
I am a spy.
I found out your secrets
and used them to make you cry.
I am a murderer
I am a terrorist
I killed your hope
your dreams, love that existed

I am a heart-breaker. "

This was my poem "Heartbreaker". If you are one, it is time to STOP it. Stop using people as a toy you can play. Trust me: One day you are going to pay a high price for hurting people.. You made me feel sad. :(

Love people as they are or love not. But don't hurt them or try change them.

I only have one boyfriend. most of the time i do like them but it just isn't gonna work. i don't know how to explain it.
It is hard to date someone so similiar yet different. It scares me because if I fall in love with him, my life would be exposed. Idk what to do. I really like him, but he's not my "type" and he sort of annoys me.
I'm not a true heartbreaker. I only broe someones heart once and I had a very good reason.
and
I know it sucks to be played and used. I have been a lot. But most of the time the guy knows it. I mean i tell them i don't personally like them and normally its the same. I just dont know. Im scared to fall in love with this one guy because he is so different than me.
does that help any?

These peoples' advice is great. ^ Here's some more.

Stop messing around with boys, and find some hobbies that are fitting for a 13 year old girl.

What sibyllene said, basically.

If you can't commit, don't hook up. You obviously can't commit, even if you want to. And you're young, so it really doesn't matter. I used to go out with guys just to dump them or have some fun and then trash them because I got bored. Trust me, it'll come back to bite you in the arse one day and you're not gonna like it.

Go live your life, instead of thinking about boys. You're scared? Don't drag them down with you. As you grow up, maybe the fear will lessen. Dating a ton of guys and hurting them isn't exactly aiding in curing that fear, now is it?

Thats helpful
but i dont want to break up with him
because i dont want to hurt him
and then our friendship would be messed up any how.
but thanks

No, you don't want to hurt him, just change him into your view...

class act right there. I'm amazed that you even have the nerve to call it a friendship.

What's this guys number I'll call him and tell him what's what, HE deserves someone honest to tell him the Truth...

hmmm, what a concept...

I haven't tried to change him. i just wish he were different. but i don't want him to change. part of me wants him to stay this way. and part wants him to be perfect. but i know hes not and i still like him.
and we were best friends for a year before we started dating. i dont want to mess that up. or hurt him.

Seriously what's his number?

I won't tell you
because he won't listen
and
i would tell him the entire truth, but I'm grounded and he hasn't got a computer.
i swear i will tell him when i can.

Tell him what exactly? Do 'you' even know what you're going to tell him or what should be said?

Im gonna tell him that i like him
but i have a few issues with him
but that i dont want him to be perfect
and that i keep wanting to perfect him
in my mind on accident
and im sorry
and i hope he understands

Heavens, just be honest with him about what you like and what you don't...

AND...

Don't make it all about him, ask him things about you, ask him if he has any isssues with how you are and how you two can BOTH work on making it better, how you can both find a comfort...

Hay I know the odds of you two staying together in the long run...but while you're with him, you both deserve some honesty.

I found my celll
and told him
but im waiting for him to reply
and he isnt
and its scaring me
because i did ask him things about him
and wat he didnt like and stuff.