Love. Hate. & Then, there's Him.

So I was talking my BFF Becca today and she says she's fighting to keep her boyfriend by her side.She loves him to the ends of the Eart -BUT- he started using drugs agian, fter he swore to her he ould never do it agian. He also mde a promise not to drink, because of how angry he gets.But she's scared he'll break that promise too. He's also flirted with another girl before, but only once, and they almost broke-up, but she stuck beside him. I've noticed over the past few months he's become a better man to her. But all of his 'gang activity' and how he's using drugs agian. She's scared he'll oly end up hurting her like all the others have.But she told me she'd rather be dead than be without him. She wants avice from me, but this is all I have so far;;

Obviously you love this guy, otherwise you wouldn't still be with him after all his crap. But you cab't let him walk all over you like some sort of dormatt. You need to let him know if he goes throws away everything you two have tried so hard to accomplish, then he won't be able to be in your life anymore.

Love is love no matter what right;;

well shes my age [15] and he's well, 19.

& they've also been through alot for that. Her parents hate him, and i was been there when they found out. [it waas NOT pretty] but they've made it through so much. And I know they really are meant for eachother.

But I don't know what much else to tell her to help her.

Im scared he'l hurt her, but I want to see her happy.

Can anyone help me out here?

You pretty much said it all.

Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, fear will overtake the relationship and that fear will run everything. But in this case, I suggest sticking by her as she stands by him--if she wants to--it's not like a guy's never broken a promise before, and she's scared he'll end up hurting her, but unless he actually hurts her or scares her to the point where he might as well have hurt her, then it's time to take a break.

My best friend brought up a drinking habit, and he'd drunk dial A LOT. He was twenty-one at the time, and he was also training for an extremely respectable job, so I got mad at him and gave him an ultimatum: Stop drinking (in your case, stop doing drugs) or I'll never speak to you again. I would suggest that, but your friend's boyfriend sounds like that would make him snap, and I don't want her at harm.

You want her happy, but the question is, is she happy right now? Despite the fear. Because if she isn't, that might just say everything.

It's never easy dealing with a boyfriend doing drugs, or even drinking, especially if your against it.
All you can really do for your friend is be there for her. Sure they have been through a lot but the way it sounds things are about to get pretty rough. If she loves this guy so much and stays with him then thats her decission and she is the one taking that risk because eventually drugs will become his life. There wont really be time for her. Not to mention she is only 15, anything could happen. Very rarely do you spend forever with who ever your dating when your 15.