Teenage love

Opinions?

I don't think it's based on age, I think it's more the maturity level.

^^Ditto

There are different forms of love, but usually at younger ages it's just a fleeting feeling. You'll know when it's real love and only then.

Like everyone said, it depends on the individuals maturity. However, to generalize and say "teenagers don't know what love is" is fair enough, because it's generally true. What you think is love now may only be a portion of what you'll come to feel for someone when you're older and more mature. I think everybody looks back at the first person they 'loved' and realizes how mistaken they are. I doubt that anyone who's about 30 or over can honestly tell me they really loved that boy they dated when they were 14, 15, 16. And grandparents really don't count because things were different then (they were more mature).

I think its just based on maturity!

We all assume we know what love is and what love feels like, were infatuated by the concept itself and teens in most cases are very naive and swayed. If something doesn't pan out, we assume we didn't know what love was before... but that we certainly know now without a doubt we are in real love with our current partners because we are so much more mature. lol... though when that doesn't pan out, again we will realize how immature we were, how much more realistic this new love is and how much we've grown. Which begs the question... have we really grown at all? or is love just an endless act of self arrogance? People wandering around believing whole heartedly in their maturity and expectations of love... when really, regardless of age or wisdom, we all forfeit love like it meant nothing, like kids.

Nobody knows when it comes, nobody knows when it goes. If every time you're with someone you assume your new definition of love has been met, than how special is that new somebody? Just about as special as the last, you've just convinced yourself you're right again and haven't had the time to prove yourself wrong. You've ran in a huge circle. On the other hand, maybe there is no right or wrong. Maybe we weren't wrong and we've just found a bunch of ways that weren't right.

Still if our ideal of love is ever changing as we mature, to suit these new boyfriends or girlfriends than you must also realize that inevitably it will one day change and evolve beyond them as well and that real mature true love doesn't exist except in moments, in the present... not in future or past.

To find true love we must first embrace the fact we are alone, without fear or doubt staring loneliness in the eyes. This mirage of love exists only in our heads, the same place we hold the moments and memories of our true loves, in that aspect we are never alone. However, to love someone completely and to hold them high above all else should humble us... with our feet on the ground and our love held high we have only to realize that we don't deserve them, yet most of us with this disheartening realization give up. Instead of accepting the fact we simply weren't good enough we jump from one conclusion to the next... I was wrong, I was to immature and didn't know what love was, I truly love this new person because they love me back. We excuse all our faults and cease to grow. The fear of being alone, of not being loved back... has overcome the very thing we want so badly to feel ourselves. Love.

If you love someone, it shouldn't matter whether or not you are together or apart, in your head and in your heart is where you will find them always. True love is selfless and expects nothing in return and so to ask for love in return is the most selfish thing a person can do. Love is forever... would you wait forever alone just for a taste of true love? And when you finally had all that you desire would you do anything for it or just watch it float on with nothing left but excuses. Would you wait forever for it to come back... believing blindly that there is nothing else like it and no one else for you? If you could muster up all the will and devotion, the strength to carry on alone... only than do you truly deserve to be loved and yet you may never get what you deserve, because maybe that other person just isn't as mature as you are. lol

Love is supposedly perfect, its the best feeling ever and makes the world go round. So why on earth do we persist on redefining something so flawless? Whats the point in saying you love someone if not only to hear them say it back? Surely if they don't we're not going to stick around.

I could go on and on, about how nobody is perfect and so love should be exempt from our vocabulary. About how if love existed in most cases we'd all be alone... but its just easier and more comforting to pretend we all know what love is and that we all deserve it rather than trying to disprove things that haven't happened yet. Instead I'll put myself in the spotlight.

I'm the most immature person on the planet at 22, because I like you think I know what love is, but I don't. I've said all this and yet I have someone I say "I love you" to everyday. Knowing that maybe I am incapable of the act itself... and when she says it back, I have a hard time believing that she loves me the same way I do her. Yet I know full well that maybe I am still undeserving of love... and thats why when we were apart it made it that much easier to deal with because she deserved better. I was alone and braced myself to be that way until I stopped loving her... which I also knew probably would never happen. She was so mean and careless... and yet I loved her completely more and more everyday... and I waited until finally she came back. If she leaves again will I wait? Yes... I won't even give another girl a chance because I have that much faith in love and even if I never feel true love, its enough to taste the dream itself. In a different light, maybe I'm the biggest fool of all who's made the biggest mistake by not redefining love. I believe without a doubt I've found it... I don't want to mature anymore if it means letting her go, I'd rather be alone as I was before and I don't need love in return to know that I love her.

So you see, even me who thinks he has it all figured out... doesn't, everyone else who claims to be mature, isn't, and if someone tells you that you don't know what love is trust that they don't know anymore or less than you do. Love as best you can and expect nothing in return and so even the smallest of things will invoke the biggest of smiles. If we lived forever, constantly maturing... we'd continuously realize we were never in love, until we came to the conclusion it doesn't exist or we'd spend an eternity believing a lie. Maybe teenagers know more than adults, adults have just convinced themselves they're smarter and so it takes them longer to realize they were wrong and thats maturity.

You know what you feel. Age is not a factor. you can be in love when you are 5 years old or 500 years old. Its all based on the connection with the person and how YOU feel.

you can be in love no matter what age you are.

I agree with Viola....
Its about the maturity level. I was 10 yrs old then when I felt that crazy little thing called love. And it's really hard for me to cope up with that thing. I made many mistakes but I treasure all those experiences. Just enjoy your age!