Is it wrong?

I am one of those people who even if I like someone will push them to give everyone else a chance.. example I am in love with this guy and he loves me and he just figured out this girl likes him and I told him to go for it.. I don't know why I do it I just always have... Is it wrong? I think that if I do that then it's up to them to decide what and or who they want because I can't decide for him.

Well your partially right^^

you can't decide who they are and are not going to be with. its gotta be their choice.

but if you love this guy, and he loves you. why in the world would you let him go to another girl.

my opinion;; you don't love him. because i know if you love a guy you would NOT let him go to another girl. let alone encourage it.

if you like a guy, dont push him to other girls because that just makes you look as if your not interested. and well thats a bad thing.

so if you like a guy [or love] then go after tham for yourself, dont let another girl get ahold of what you want

;)

Well...as it has always been said...love finds u...and not the other way round!! so if there is this guy u like, or say u havea crush on him, don't show him that ur head over heels for him, but don't also push him away, it's just gonna mean ur not into him!!! so even tho, he might like u back, he might feel that u don't like him (which may not be the case) and therfore he'll pull away!!!

in some sense, what ur saying is kinda right!! i mean, u shudn't force the guy to only like and love u....any guy has his options, but don't pull urself totally away, it may just make things worse for u, makin u regret at the end what u've done, and he wud know nothin about it!!!

all am tryin to say, is give it it's TIME...this is a very important factor!!! don't push him away, but also don't pull him right on top of u!!! just give it the time, and act smart...try to show him that u like him, but do it indirectly!! guys always like a mystreious girl....so don't be easy and don't be too predictable!!!

If my girlfriend said go for it, I would feel a little hurt, you may not mean anything wrong but well picturing this way. It may seem like you dont like him as much as he may like you. I wouldnt say go for it, i would discuss it and see how he truly feels first about you and this girl.

Well, I don't understand why someone would do that. If you like him then you would obviously want to be with him right? So don't tell him to go for the other girl. Like the person above me said, talk to him about it and see where things go.

I've been in that situation before, and it hurts a lot. If you should him you like him and he showed interest, but didn't pursue, then he is probably not interested or he is too scared to ask you out and is trying to make you jealous. If you know he likes you, then he may just be afraid to ask you out and you saying something like "but you are like a brother to me". That's the most hated phrase to guys. Usually, the more we love someone, the harder it is to ask them out. If you take the first step, like get close to him and touch him or even give him a kiss and say your sorry, that would be enough to get him to know. We don't understand signals and all that. I've heard girls say, but I was flipping my hair all over by you. You never got that. Nope. I had a girl steel my cell phone because she wanted me to go to her room. She never talked to me again when I didn't show up. I didn't even know where my cell phone is. Sometimes it makes a lot easier if you are more forward. Games don't pay with guys because we don't know the rules.

Well..I don't think its wrong if you want to be rejected. When you tell them that...alot of times (not all times) when you tell a guy to do that...that makes them feel like you dont want them. I have learned from this experience..lol in the most painful ways...dont put yourself in that situation. I personally think that the guy should do all that although..such as ask you out and make the first move..but other than that i think youre doing pretty goodl

I dont think you would say it was wrong. you just want him to be happy maybe. i am a little bit the same way. maybe u are afraid of committing and u want reassurance that they will choose you.

i think we have all been there before. its not wrong, its just the way our minds work.

Okay so thank you for all of your responses.. you see it's complicated because he is 3 hours away and though I love him to pieces I want him to be happy and I show him how much I love him whenever I can and he does the same.. He likes to be totally honest with me and therefor telling me about said girl we talked and he said in order to like her it would be forced so why would he do that when he loves me.. so it's all fixed thank you for all your advice though I see where you all are comming from.. Thanks again
Beck