Huge guy problems

Hi everyone.. i have a huge problem.

I am in another state for the summer watching my cousions.. well i have a boyfriend back in missouri. Well, while i have been down here i have been going to a youth group. Well i have met a guy that has acted like he likes me and has kinda hinted at it. This other guy is alil older than me... its not much differance... But well i really want to start something with this other guy. But i dont want to mess stuff up at home, becuase I'm only here for the summer. I can't decide what i want to do.. I need help please help

Jess

This is ridiculous. i can't believe you're even thinking about this. honestly, dump your boyfriend, you don't deserve him. you want to find a way to cheat with a guy who would be breaking the law because you're a minor, whilst keeping your unknowing innocent bf at home in the dark?

you shouldn't even have a boyfriend.
sick.
ugh.

oh and please don't be vain; this isn't a problem, let alone a huge one.

Yes it is.. i am wanting to keep my boyfriend.. not cheat on him... though i am really liking the look of this other guy.. i am trying to get advice on which way i should go.. And he is older and i am mature for my age so yes..

Okay, like frenchboys said. Break up with your boyfriend at home. He deserves better. Geeze. If you have a boyfriend why would you even put yourself in the position to start liking someone else? Hmm.

So what do so what is it you want to "do" with this other man that you don't consider cheating?

I didn't put my self in any postion of liking some one it just kinda happened i just started talking to him and well we became friends and then the other day he said somthing to me and i relized how much i really cared about him..

I dont want to cheat at all i either want to break up with my bf or i want to stay with him i dont want there to me a in the middle.. i just want the older guy and i know if i go for him i will only have him for the summer and i want to stay with my boy friend but i know i cant do both

Hmm. Smart idea would be to just be by yourself cos you can't make up your mind.

And if your going to post before someone responds just click "edit post" and write it in the same one. It's annoying. Sigh.

Hmm. I am feeling a bit snappy today. Lala.

I can freaking tell.. i posted this to get help not to have to explain myself. i am a freaking teenager i have problems and i am all alone in another state with out my friends. ithought maybe this would be a help.

Haha. Don't get angry at me. Your profile says your a guy. So does that mean your gay? I don't get it.

I'm not trying to be mean, I was just saying. If you can't choose, maybe you need to be by yourself. If you know you will only have the older guy for the summer (Which is illegal), then I wouldn't choose him. And you are not doing your boyfriend back home any good by liking another guy. So just forget about both of them. That is what I say.

Oh and how long have you and your boyfriend been together?

Almost 3 months... im not a guy i guess i messed up when i put it in. Well, i started liking thins guy when me and my bf were fighting. he wasnt talking to me and well the older guy just was wonderful to me and well treated me amazing even though all of my veiws are not his own..

You last sentence doesn't make sense at all. But Amanda said it all. Period point blank. Haha.

They can be peeved at me all they want i am 16 years old and i have had a pretty bad year. I dont have to have a boyfriend, thats not the problem at all. I was looking for a friend when i met this guy. It just so happened that what started as friends is now were in this weird unusual place where we like each other and i dont know what to do. I am trying to figure out to the best of my abilitys what i need to do. My bf has been a really jerk about my past here latly and i am trying to figure out if maybe that is what i need to expect from him from now on. I just need someone for one minite to help me.

You can't have the best of both worlds.

You either want your boyfriend or this other guy - you can't have both.

If you choose your boyfriend, then make that clear to the other man so he knows where he stands.

If you choose the other man, you need to be honest with your boyfriend.

If you decide to see both (It doesn't matter if it is just during the summer), you will end up hurting both guys at the same time - you can't hide these things forever, you always get found out. Once you get found out, you'll be seen as a cheater even if you didn't kiss the other man or anything. Seeing the other man or even thinking of being with him shows that you do not love your boyfriend.

Do you really want to be labelled that?

I think you just need some time to think everything over. If I were you I would dump the bf and just think for awhile.

If you care for your boyfriend enough to be a decent person, you will just be friends with this guy. fine, like him all you want, but don't act on this. if you really are going to leave your boyfriend for some guy you will only see this summer, then go ahead. but dont lead either on. its stupid.

My boyfriend was in the same situation last summer with me..

Although he didn't cheat, he did break up with me.. And then when i came home he tried to make things better between us... Unfortanally things could never be the same!!!

If you have any feelings for you boyfriend and you want to be with him.. Then DO NOT do anything that you are going to regret.. Because things can NEVER be the same.

Oh man, this problem is absolutely colossal. Jeez.

Dump your boyfriend, you don't deserve him. And don't start anything with anybody else, because to put it frankly you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. Sorry to be blunt- good luck with everything.