The Most Confusing Guy EVER

Okay, so my ex-boyfriend Ray is starting to drive me up the wall. We have know each other for about 2 years. We were really close friends until we started dating. That was over a year ago. We dated for about 3 months. We got into an argument one day though and I didn't hear from him at all for about 5 months. He started texting me and stuff again and was apologizing for what had happened. He told me that the day we got into that argument, he got so mad and took it out on his dad. That caused his dad to sign some papers and just sent him off to bootcamp. So he couldn't really get in contact and tell me.

I forgave him and we became friends again. We still didn't talk a lot. Maybe a text or two every now and then. But nothing serious. Well, one day, he started sending me texts saying he missed me. I asked, as a friend? He told me no. He asked me to come on aim and talk to him. So I did. And he started bringing up things we did when we were dating. He told me,"Kayla, seriously. I've felt so empty inside lately. Shit has never been the same since we broke up. I hate every second I spend knowing you're not mine anymore." So he ended up calling me.. we talked forever. Randomly he started telling me that he loved me, even if I didn't feel the same way.

Before I knew it, we were back together. Things were great at first, but soon it all fell apart. He started being a jerk, no longer acting sweet any more. Giving me no attention whatsoever. We started to argue a lot. He started working 11 - 14 hour days so I never saw him any more. (He has two jobs). He has to pay for rent, car payments, and needs to pay his cell phone bill because they shut it off. So we couldn't even text. We pretty much just broke up over all of that.

He started telling me to move on, flirt with whoever, and he wasn't going to stop me. So I took his advice and was sort of talking to this guy named Bradley. Ray got jealous. At first he was telling me he hated me, I said I cared but my actions spoke for me, but then he started trying to get me away from him, and started saying things to Bradley like,"You'll never have her". He was putting <3's into all of his messages to me. Saying he wished he could kiss me right now. It was lame not having me by his side any more....

Gah. I dunno what to do. He won't make up his damn mind. Today he told me,"I love you Kayla. Always and forever." I'm not really sure what to do. I really care for him, I wanna be there for him, but I don't know how or if I can.

Why do you have to wait for him to make up his mind? Be a woman and make up your own. You either want someone who runs hot and cold and disrespects you or you want a real relationship.

Agree^^

you dont need someone to make desciond for you, you make your own.

If hes making you feel like this, honestly move on. Find a guy that isnt a 'rainy day boyfriend'. im sure you know what that is. But honestly, stand up for yourself. Dont let him control who your with.

He says he still loves you. Then he'll always be there. Rain or Shine. If he TRULY loves you though, he'll be happy that your happy.

I agree with the other two comments..
I can completely understand why your feeling confused but why are you waiting around for him to decide if he wants you coz this bradley dude could be a stable relationship for you and you could be missing it.. ONLY you know how you truely feel yeah??? so instead of him making your mind up for you take a deep breath and stand up and be counted and dont let him do it!

i know this sounds bit stupid but who is the one you think of before you fall asleep and think of when wake up?? and are they gd thoughts or bad???
because that is how you truely know what you what!! and yeah if ray truely likes and loves you then if you say its finish for ever im with bradley so either be my friend only and dont course trouble if you cant then dont be at all!!!!

plan and simple.. is he truely worth it???

You guys are absolutely right.
I guess it's just really hard for me because we've been through so much together. He is an idiot but it's hard not to feel the way I do about him.

And before I fall asleep at night.. it's usually him I think about. But the thoughts are a mixture of good and bad things.

Don't fall for it again,he sounds to immature for u

Dont fall for it kayla. Hes just going to hurt you again. This Bradley guy is probably way better for you and your ex sounds soooo immature...please.. for your sake...please dont fall for it.

Thanks guys..
Really, it is apperciated.
I know Ray is immature. He is. I'm not sure when he's going to grow up either and realize how many things he is doing is wrong.

Alright, I won't go back to him =) But now Bradley is out of the picture too.. but maybe I should thank Ray. Because the next day, after I broke up with Bradley, he was already with some other girl and telling her he loved her, etc. They were together for like... 2 days. Then she broke up with him too. Now he's with another girl. lol.. talk about a man-whore. But anyways. That's probably the only positive outcome of this entire thing.

Thats awesome! depressing that so many other girls will go through that crap now...but you are free from him! And that is awesome! Actually you are free from both...but yea! You will def find some great guy out there kayla and I know you will! :) Good luck

Im pleased we all help you.. plus maybe it just showed that ray nad bradley are losers and you prob be able to see the nest div a mile off who is no good for you.. thing is this is true but corny when your looking for love you wont see it because your lking for it but when your not looking for it then youll see it take care

Mmmhmm, you guys are exactly right.
And really, thanks again. It meant so much to me.
I guess it's just hard letting go when you're grown so close and attached to someone. You know?
But he is no good for me. I gotta watch out for myself =)

Exactly! And yes, we ALL know exactly what you are going through! And I think I speak for all of us when I say just STAY STRONG. :) and my pm box is always open if you need to talk more.

I'm glad to hear it =)
And mine is open for you and anyone else if you need it.
Thank you, I will try my hardest to stay strong and not let him get to me like that again.
I haven't talked to him since then anyways. I know he has been on myspace and stuff but not on aim. Can't call him or text cause I dunno if his phone is still shut off.

Ah well =)