Alright, a little help would mean a lot :P

Alright, I have a problem and I'm not feeling very good about it but I need to know if its normal :P Alright, I know its not very supported but I'm in a online relationship that I've been in for 8 and 1/2 months now, we both absolutely love eachother and as soon as work allows he's coming up *which should be in the next week or two* but I'm finding myself getting extremely jealous and possessive over him and thats not me or how I normally act with a boyfriend :P I mean I'm not getting really controlling just...I'm feeling very insecure and lonely and have problems over any girl that he's around :P I trust him completely and I'm not worried about him cheating or anything like that just...this isn't my normal behavior so is it normal to get really possessive and jealous when your boyfriend lives in another country where you can't be with him yet? I just don't like this and I can't stop feeling this way. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that the date he was coming up has been moved twice and I don't know when he'll be able to make it up now, that adds to the stress, but is this normal?

I would say it's normal, you live , obviously, quite a ways from one another. LDR's are hard, but they can be worth it. It is okay to have feelings of jealousy, just don't let them control you.

Oh yea that's definatly normal. Your probably just very nervous that he's coming home and you've been dating through a computer the whole time so being with him in person is probably adding to the stress. Just relax and try to think of all the positive things. It'll make you feel better. I live with my b/f and feel like that constantly. Just remember that he's with you...so you must be doing something right. Just breathe.

Well honestly...it is normal...but if you don't want alot of pain..I would say online relationships are not the way to go...but what can I say? Its love :) And just remember....its YOU hes dating...not her. So there must be something about you that makes him love you :) so just relax and take it one day at a time.

*smiles* Thank you very much, all three of you, for your input :) Its nice to hear advice from people that aren't involved in it one way or another. I know he loves me and I have no reason to being going all jealous and possessive on him but its hard since I'm in the states and he lives in another country and most of the women don't respect my claim I guess you could say because I'm not there in person :P Guess I'm insecure that one of these days he's going to get tired of waiting for me or one of those girls will just offer when hes feeling weak or lonely, I completely trust him but its still something I'm working with :P Oh yeah, I've learned the hard way that if I wanted a easy and less painful relationship then this isn't the way to go about it but like you said, its love and theres not much you can do to choose who you love lol Anyway, thank you very much :) Guess I needed to be reassured that I wasn't going crazy or setting myself up to push him away :P *chuckles a bit* Yeah, the fact that he's coming up soon could be having a huge thing to do with making me insecure too, I'm scared to death but I want all the waiting to be over finally too lol

Thank you Jess, it did help quite a bit to hear from someone thats going through the same thing right now. The very best of luck to both of you, I hope it all goes great :) We're not as far apart as you two are, I'm in the states and he lives in Mexico but he has to travel a lot for work so quite a lot of the time he's halfway around the globe from me *like right now*, its always tough to have distance between you and the person you love :P *smiles* Yes, I know I'm very lucky and very blessed, he's a wonderful and amazing man who treats me amazingly good and we both support and anchor eachother :) We always talk everything through as well just...I guess I'm trying not to talk about it to much with him right now because he's working and feels bad that he's not here when he said he would be and he already almost dropped this trip because he promised me he'd be here but its an important trip so I couldn't let him...I just try not to express how insecure and lonely I'm feeling to much right now because I don't want him to feel worse or decide that it isn't worth it and drop this trip halfway through since it would effect more people then just him and me :P Is that a bad thing for me to be doing? I hate not talking about everything with him but I also know him and how hearing how I'm feeling like that would make him react :P I'm just so lost right now :P But anyway, thank you very much for the input and the very best of luck to you :)