****brothers best friend**** ?????????????????

There is this guy that i really like.. but there is a big problem.. he is my older brothers best friend... we all went away on a camping tripp and we stayed yup together when every 1 else had gone to bed, we got talking. i ended up telling him that i like him and he told me he loved my back. over the past few months we were getting really colse. and he had spoken to my brother about asking me out and all.
then one night i was sitting at the dinner table with my family and i got a text message, i saw who is was from and straight away a smile came to me face.
but when i read the message my smile fell.. i read the message and it said "i am not going to do anything to loose a mate like your brother, its jut if we just be mates, im sorry if i hurt your feelings but its for the best."
i have no idea what i did wrong.
to make things worse my mum keeps asiking me about him. and then a few weeks after that i was speaking to him because we;re still friends and all and he proceeds to tell me that he still loves me and said again what would you do if i ask tyou out.. i didnt give him and answer because i dont know what i would dio!!

This is a hard situation. Apparently the guy you like fears losing your brother as friend which you probably know already. But he also seems to still want you. He may also though be willing to go against his fear depending on your response. I dont know what your response should be. If you truly like him and believe i would go for it. however if u believe it is too much trouble than do not. What you really need to decide is are you willing to go through all the stress and the possibilities of trouble.

This is a tough situation.... but i kind of had the same thing going on... i dated one of my very good friends brother and she was afraid that if we broke up me and her would no longer talk.... at 1st i kept telling him no, but then i knew i liked him so i gave in and started dating him... we were together 2 1/2 months and then it ended... but i had told my friend from the beginning that even if me and him ended it... our friendship was not going to be effected by it whatso ever... and it didnt... me and him actually stayed friends... the only way things change is if either of you make things change... i kept that from happening...
i dont regret being with him because i knew if i didnt give it a try i would be wondering what if????
get what i mean?!?!
good luck!!

That is a really hard situation. But I think that you should as your brother about it. Maybe he will understand, maybe he won't. Theres only one way to find out. See i was once in that situation. I liked my best friends brother. Oofta is was hard. He liked me back and everything and kept saying he "loved" me. But I just couldnt do it. She is my best friend and I could never lose her. So I gave him up. But it doesnt always have to work out that way. I made my decision and you can make yours.

Even if your brother does approve the relationship, there can still be that fear of "what if things don't work out?" Atleast he is showing that he has some loyalty and respect that's a good thing. I say talk to both of them and let them both know where you stand and hopefully things work out for you in the end. If not the guy atleast sounds like he knows how to be a good friend and you still never know where that road might lead.

Thanks guys! :)