What do i do?

My mother has a best friend she has known since she was a lil girl. she considers her a sister and i consider her an aunt.

She has a son whom i have grown up with. we have been like brother and sister almost but the whole time i cant get it out of my mind that he isnt really of any relationship to me.

we used to share a bed when we were lil, eat together, almost read eachothers minds. we were inseperable. and still are close.

The problem is i have feelings beyond family for him.
but i feel almost like it is wrong because of the closeness of our families, of us. i am always at his house. and i know he thinks of me as a cousin. but i have always wanted more.

how do i deal with these feelings?
how do i stop thinking of him that way?

I truly think you should tell him. James is right..just because you guys grew up close doesnt mean you shouldnt have feelings for him. No one would ever get anywhere without taking a risk. So that is why I think you should tell him.
Or you could always stick around and let it play out. Your feelings could just be a spir of the moment. You CAN get over someone. I know you can. You just have to be in touch with your emotions.

I kinda dont want him to know i like him.
i have kept this to myself for years.
i try to keep my distance. and it is killing me.
"i am a winner at a losing game" (dk the song it came from) but that is how i feel.
i am so confused!

Hi honey,
god
iknow exactly how you feel
and your not losing in the gamelol
one day maybe he may realize that the feelings you have for him are the same as his and you can let things fly from there
give it time
i know you felel like it's a long wait
but time tells all

Lol well...if you don't want to tell him. Then theres nothing you can do except to move on and find someone else. If you are meant to be, then it will happen.

I do want to tell him but then again i dont.

he thinks of me as a COUSIN...thats how he intraduses me!
I can his mother AUNT.

but i cant help feeling this for him.....and i dont know what i should do.

i fear that if i told him he would get upset or freak out cuz of the cousin thing and never talk to me again.
and if that happened i wouldnt be able to take it.
i would ..........i dont know what i would do to be truthful.

Ok...nvm I take that back. I think that you should just talk to him. Lure him in. I suggest to start talking about all the great times that you guys have had and then go from there. Very, very slowly, lead him to the subject of you and him. Lol that is my advice. You don't have to take it. lol just a suggestion!

Im scared tho.

how do i do that?
what do i say?
how do i even start the convo?

Umm, be subtle and bring up a topic he likes
act yourself but make him see that you aren't his"cousin" you know and then see where it flows from there, but first find out or kind a look at how he moves around you, just because he considers you as a cousin doesn't mean totally that is true.

REALLY?!?!?!
is it even possible that he doesnt truely think of me that way?
im not sure if i can.
just thinking about it makes it hard to breath, function, breath. i dont know if i am strong enough to do it.

If it helps, my boyfriend and I were bestest friends before he asked me to the dance...

And I know his family really well and his brothers consider me their sister...

But that didnt stop us from being together... U should totally go for it. :))

Thats does ease my mind somewhat .

i just fear what could happen.
if i do
if i dont

Here...just stop thinking about all the ifs. Quickly, tell me exactly what your brain wants you to do..not your heart...your brain.

My brain?
its telling me to shut up, get over it.
that it is better to have him in my life as a COUSIN than not at all.
that if i say something i will ruin everything we have right now. nothing will be the same.

Ok...lol not the answer I wanted. But I think if you REALLY don't want to tell him, then don't. But if it ever gets to the point where you can't control your feelings anymore, then eventually he is going to find out. Lol you are hearing from a girl with experience! But I truly wish you the best of luck with this dear. This situation is hard. So I really do have high hopes for this.

Im sry i didnt answer correctly.
lol

wow
this is sooo hard!

but on top of that.
i have this guy i have been talking to online and i am totaly falling for him.....and i know it.. but how can i do that....
god i am like a slut or something... or maybe i am just tring to push my feelings on to this one so i dont love my not so family cousin.... i am so confused!

Your are not a slut just because you might have feeling for more then 1 guy..
what you realy have to ask your self is: which obne do you LOVE not like. is you genually have feeings for thing realy colse friend them you should tell him because the is a chance that he feels the same way abo8ut you. life is worth living and if you dont try then you dont want to be looking back and saying what if...
do you get what i mean????
good luck

You're not a slut.

Personally, I think you need to tell him. I mean, he may not feel the same way, but he just might. Maybe he's thinking the exact same thing -- "crap. what if she doesn't feel like I do?" I think that if you care that much about someone, you should tell them. Who knows? You two could end up married with 10 kids. Exaggeration, of course.

About the internet guy -- Hell, I think you should tell him, too. If, of course, your feelings are strong enough. And it's been said -- you might be trying to push your feelings for the other guy out of your mind or whatever.

What I think you should do is just sit down with a close friend -- obviously, NOT one of these two guys, and talk to him/her about it. Or, take some time for yourself, ya know? You need to evaluate your feelings.

My PM box is always open if you need someone to talk to. :]

Lol
thanks for the whole YOUR NOT A SLUT thing u guys..lol
i know im not...i just feel kinda like one.

i think i will take the time to think it through...run through every possible sanarieo (sp?) and then decide what to do.....or maybe i will tell him today, cuz i am going to see him later...like i do everyday. *smiles*

i just hope it works out.
that he understands....and doesnt freak out....
cross your fingers for me.
=/

Yep...they pretty much covered it all. Just take some time to think about everything! Lol you are not a slut for liking more than one guy. Haha I think you should tell him:)

I think i will today.
a matter a fact
i will

wish me luck
and lend me your strangth
lol

thanks for everything.
i'll let you know how it works out.

Well
ok
so i told him
and i regret it so much

he pretty much asked if we could forget i even said anything cuz it is better the way things were.

im pretty much crushed. and embarasses.

and want to hide under a rock...or in a cave...anyway away form here...him....this whole ordeal.

thanks for all the help. even tho it ended up hurting more that not.
lol
thats the way the cookie crumbles right?

i'll see you guys later
i hope
lol
i know...morbid hu??
lol

Well, you tried. Now you don't have to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if". You'll be fine, give yourself some time to get over it, and in a few months it won't be a big deal at all.

Ouch..omg I'm so sorry. I really thought it would work. I totally understand the feeling. My pm box is ALWAYS open if you need to talk.

Yah.
thanks again.
im sry it didnt work too.
but it was prob. for the best.
right??

Yah. your right.
i just feel way too down right now to feel proud.

Amanda is totally and completely right. You should be extremely proud of yourself. Heck, that boy doesn't deserve you if he's going to be like that! You deserve better I bet. So walk with your head up girl! You're awesome! Right!? lol

^^ Agreed.

Lol
u guys are great.
i will just need time to let go of it.
i am extremly upset over it right now.
i feel like i have been kicked around....and truthfuly i could care less if somthing horrible happened like the world ending or something. lol
i am extremely morbid today.
sry
lol

Don't be sorry. You just recently got burned. And it is going to take some time to relieve the sores. I totally get your feelings and I know how that feels. But when you do start to feel better about it, you will realize what a great person you are and eventually amazing guy (way more amazing than the other) will realize that too!