They say im flip flopping...

I have a great guy friend who i started dating back in october. We were together for a month, but things just weren't working. it wasn't the we fought or anything, but he had just gotten out of a relationship, and he just wasn't sure that he was completly over his ex. so we decided to split.

we staied good friends and still hung out and had fun. I started dating a great guy named devon. I had known him before he moved away and recently got in to contact with him. we were together for about 5 months when i found out that he had lied to me, and that made me change the way i looked at him, and it changed how i felt in a way, that i really didn't understand and we just decided that we needed some time apart to figure out things.

while me and devon were broke up, my ex and me were hanging out wuite a bit and talking alot aobut things with me and devon. we ended up kissing one day, and neither of us had realized we still had feelings for the other untill that kiss. he asked if i could try things with him again, and i agreed.

we both felt that somthing just wasn't right with us, and we talked about it. we both felt that my heart was still in a relationship with Devon, so we agreed that it just wasn't the right time for us to try things.

me and devon worked thrugh things, and got back together. I didn't feel that things were the same. and soon he changed. he was selfish and hate full, he blamed me for our break up, and accused me of cheating. (i have never cheated) everytime we would get into a fight, it was over somthing he said or did, and when i would try and talk to him, it'd jsut get worse. i had thought about leaving again, 2 or 3 times, but everytime he'd ask for one more chance and swear to change.

this past time, i told him enough was enough,a nd that we need to break up and take some time becuase i dont have the same feelings. i figure if we are broke up and i have the heart wrenching that somthing is wrong and i miss him terribly then we should try again. he agreed

my prolbem is, i dont feel that. its a feeling, yea i miss him, but not in the way of a relationship. just like i'd miss a friend i haven't seen in a while. well last night my ex and i were spending some time at the fair, and with friends (we share ALOT of the same friends) and when he got ready to leave he asked me to come outside. when i did he gave me a hug, and then kissed me. nothing long just a peck on the lips, but when he did, i wanted nothing ,more then to be wraped in his arms, having him back. devon has been the last thing on my mind.

i ahve talked to friend but they tell me im flip floppy. I dont see it as being that.

*any advice would help =)

--bianca

Lol well you're friends have it right, you are flip flopping, you keep hopping back and forth betweeen these 2 guys, how about before you start any relationship, you actually decide what you want, so you don't have to break up every other day.

That would be called flip-flopping. If you don't see it, we do. I think that you should ditch both of them. It sounds extreme but you will find that it will work best. Obviously those two guys can't go any farther than "now that we've dated for the 6th time..." Catch my drift? If you give up both of them and for real be done with them, then that gives you a great oppurtunity to move on and find someone who you will not WANT to flip-flop to someone else. Good luck.