Should i still talk to him?

Ok long story short. We broke up because he is 18 and im barely 16. He said he'd wait for me and we would get together in December but now i found so many things about him that i didnt know(he smokes weed, calls other girls, gets home at 3 in the morning). I love him alot but im starting to realize he isnt the person i though he was. Now im crying constantly over him and he called me the other night saying he wants me to be like his friends who call him and hang out with him but i just think it will alot harder to get over him if i do that. i need help.

You're right it will be harder to get over him if you do that, so don't. Tell him you can't, he is just not the person you thought he was and you need to move on. Atleast you know now before you waste all that time being blind to what is right in front of you.

Nope. No. Absolutly not. Listen, sure he was a guy great guy. What is he now? Someone you just recently found out was not the guy you thought he was. If you didn't know he did drugs, then what else do you not know about him? Think about it. You need to move on. He sounds like a major deadbeat. Get out of it while you can hun. Because it sounds like if you keep playing into that, its going to get a whole lot harder before it gets easier. I'm sorry, you sound like a wonderful person, but you need to move on.

Aw thank you. you guys are really sweet. I know i dont want to get back with him or even be his friend but we both have the same friends from when we were together.
and when i go to parties he is there or his friends talk about him sometimes. they know its over between us but i cant say "no dont talk about him to me or dont invite him." Whats happens is that he does not know that i know all these things about him.
Like yesterday i found out after he calle dme telling me how much he still loves me he called one of my friends and he told her that he was never going to get back with me. so i just deleted him number from my phone and blocked him from everything.
i hope that works.
but thank you so much for your advice. if you have any more advice on what else i can do to cut him out please tell. me

Loves never an easy thing to walk away from becuz every one seems to crave it need it but very few have it. the thing is love is all about connecting to ur other half and cin if they truly make u better. but hows one to do that if they dont even know the person? the truth as hard as it is to swallow if u dont really know him ur not in love with him..ur in love with the person u thought he was..its better to move on and find love with someone real that rather fall for something that isnt..just my 2 cents lol

I never actually thought of it that way. i did love everything he was when we were together. hard wroking, romantic, funny, sweet, caring. but he ended up being a jerk, obsessed with his job, forgetful, neglagent.
I just hope i do find someone that is the same all the time. unlike him who doesnt give a crap about me.
I get so angry at guys for being jerks and dumbasses.

Well honey they r all like dat at certain times the trick is to show them how stupid they are and make them swallow it in shame

I am going to make him swallow it in shame. have any idead on how i can do that?

Yes, drugs are bad. And thats great if you want to try to help him. And i'm sure you could change him. But the thing is, she said that she really doesn't like who he is. I think the answer presents itself actually. Look i don't disagree with James. Actually I don't disagree with anyone on here because I think in some respect, we are all right. So what I am truly trying to say is, call him....sure. But only if you want to. If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. Simple. Right? lol

Like I said....James, I agree. But then I don't. Look its great if you want to try to convince him to stop. But what you have to consider is how dangerous it could get. Yes, he's important. But so are you. Just make sure you know what you get into before actually doing it.

I know the whole partying thing is his deal its just thats not the person he showed me when we first met. i told him i liked to party and go out every once in a while. and he said he didnt like it. He is a hypocrit. because he didnt like the fact that i drink and dance with my friends so i stopped but then he started doing it.

Lately hes been calling me at 3-4 in the morning. im asleep so i dont answer and when i call him back he says he has to work or is busy. and when i do answer he doesnt talk he wants me to talk.
i dont get him. like the weed think is ok now that i think about it because i have friends who do it. (i dont by the way so yay) but its the lying and the sneeking around that i dont like. I mean why should he sneek around anyways. i told him treat me like your friend not your ex. but he doenst listen i dont know what to say anymore.

Jame i do want to be his friend but its hard when he makes everything awkward. i try to help him with his disorders but all he says is i dont understand when in fact everything i say to him has reason and meaning. i know what i talk about when i give him advice but he thinks im stupid or something. its frustrating

I just wish he wouldnt treat me like he is.
i think its wrong. hes addictions fine i get them i want to help him but he wont let me then what can i do?
I wasnt giving up on him when i found out more about him. i really wasnt. i was just shocked you know. but then i took it better and decided it wasnt such a big deal.
i would like to think there is some hope in helping him or just being his friend but its up to him to decide his actions. im just scared to get hurt in the process. he is a great friend ill tell you that but sometimes the way he thinks isnt right.
thanks james for the advice i am keeping it in mind to call him.

I hope you are right. I don't want to lose the great friendship and love I have for him. I just pray to God that he realizes what he is doing before he hits rock bottom. I hope to catch him before he falls.

I will stay strong for him and for my own self. I feel that if i don't I will not only let him down but myself.

Thanks James and you are awsome in helping people.

Lol. i will, something crazy happens in my life all the time. thank you

Well in case you are wondering what i ended up doing.

He called me while i was helping kids out with their drama scene and i didnt know it was him and i picked up.
He asked me to go out with him for lunch. I hate to say no to ppl so i said yes and he picked me up at 12 in the afternoon.
First we went to the park and we talked about us.
we concluded that we will wait until i turn 17 this december and we would get back together but we will date. we arnt together we are simply dating.
I asked him about all the things his friends have told me and he sais they were all lies that they came up with because they didnt want us together because two of his guy friends like me and all the girls like him.
Both the guys and girld planned on making us believe something that wasnt true. Some things were true but they were small or they were made bigger than they really are.
yea he smoked weed when he was 14! not now.
He doenst call other girls because hes at work all the time and if he does its because they call him.
He even took me to his work to show me the past month of work hes done and the hours put in.
Overall we ended that conversation and went to Wendy's and we chilled out in his car because it was too hot outside.

I guess i learned something. Make sure all the stories are straight before you start assuming things. He did apologize for the discomfort his friends brought me and he was going to make it up to me by taking me to his house and meeting his family.
he wants to prove that he does love me so hes taking the big step by having me over to dinner soon.
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR THE ADVICE BECAUSE OF ALL OF YOU I WAS ABLE TO FIND OUT THE TRUTH AND NOW I GUESS IM HAPPY AGAIN!

Congrads dear:) I'm glad we all helped.