Teenagers' love unacceptable?

It is injustice to say that teenage love is unacceptable...is it? or is it favorable?

There's nothing wrong with teenage love. You just have to be realistic about it. The "love" you feel towards a boy when you're 13, 14, 15 is only a portion of the love you will likely come to feel towards someone when you are older and more mature.

Enjoy it and have fun with it- young love really is an amazing and insightful experience. Just remember that you need to be realistic. No matter how you feel at the time, you likely have not found your life partner so you don't want to make sacrifices that could affect your friends or your future.

I don't expect many young people to understand, but that's okay. It comes with time.

For me as a teen of course im in favor of that. but most of the elders hate it, what i mean is they just dont accept it...maybe because we are still too young to engage in a serious relationship...but that depends on how you manage your relationship over your partner...

Ohw...a joke? you've got to be kidding...? aren't you?,...

I think there can be love as a teen, but there are too many teens running around declaring there in "love" but do this with every single person they go out with, there are realli onli so many times a person can fall in love.
Sometimes it is real, but you can kind of understand where older people are coming from because the majority of teh time it isnt. Most teens use the word Love to casually.
Kitty

I do agree that the word 'Love' is tossed around too casually. To me I don't believe many when they say it anymore because it truely has lost a lot of meaning from being over-used. Teenage love (I am only 15) is just another reason for gossip and drama.. I see this alot.

But on that note.. Do whatever you think is right.. not what everyone esle thinks is right

Brooke

Ok well to be honest my first love and olni love was wen I was 14-15, here's my point. In this world there is (whether we c it or not). A lot of pressure on love. Everyone feels that they have to have the story book ending, the movie romance. I think its because ppl c how wonderful it looks to be in love. Teenagers are prone to not wanting to be alone that they rush into love quickly and end up doin things they regret, and unfortunate some of the teens use that to their advantage. But for the few of us (me) that had our heads in the books knows what u wanna get out of life and trys not to rush yrs by their the ones who c tha betta half of it. They c that their is someone out there for u someone that is honestly in love wit u not ur body.it happens wen u Don't go lookin for it. Trust me even if he was older it was love and no we never even had sex to prove it. Do I believe in teen love? Yes becuz I felt it..do I think its HARD to c REAL teen love nowadays ABSOLUTLY, just cuz u havnt felt it dosnt me its not real trust me.

I think that no matter what age u are u can love. Age is really just a number, i think when u are a teenager it might be easier to mistake infatuation with love. but i also think that teenage love is more simple, and complex at the same time. i think that when we are younger we are less scared to risk it all and when we get older i feel that people think too much about all the what ifs and stuff that they would rather just sit love out completely then take a chance because they dont want to get hurt. I would say whatever type of love you find, good for you. whether you are 5, 15, or 85. Love is beautiful

What teen has not thought they were in love at one point in their life? But now that I look back to all of it. I believe teenage relationships are very meaningless. I mean that. Haha because alot of times teens confuse love with lust. And that can get very stupid and immature. Anyone who disagrees with me, i'm sorry but I really do believe that. There are exceptions like high school sweethearts who get married and all that, but its just that I have seen so many stupid teen relationships that last about 3 days.

I have mixed feelings on this. I think you can be inlove when your a teenager, as i had a relationship at 15 with my first love who will always remain special to me, but the reality is now that ive had mature relationships what i felt for my first love was no where near what i feel for my partner now, some people would say it was an infactuation at 15 but it was definatly love, just not on the same scale. i totally agree that the word love is thrown around to often people just say it without thinking these days and that is a shame, because when you are inlove those three words "i love you" used to mean alot. i think when your a teenager though it is important to experience relationships and what you think might be love as it prepares you for when you do have "real" relationship, my first love made me appreciate what i have now with my partner and the difference in my feelings for both partners. I dont think theres anything wrong with teenage relationships but they arent in comparision to what a mature seriuos relationship can make you feel like.

Idk what to say

I think people throw love around too much. though people probably think i do too. because i am 17 and have been/am in love, or so i believe. my on again off again ex i am in love with. have been since i met him 3 years ago. no matter how much he has hurt me...no matter the fact that he's broke my heart 5 times...i still love him...i'd go back to him in half a heartbeat...but. because i am 17 people assume its just another crush. and who knows...maybe its just a very prolonged crush...but ive had crushes lasting several years, and this doesnt feel the same...thats just me though.

so in summary, i dont think its unreasonable...but a lot of people are like "OMGZ! i ttly love him so much and we've been dating for likes..OMG! 3 hours!" =| that annoys me.

There is nothing wrong with being in love. You just have to make sure that you truly are in love. How? For one don't just throw the word around casually, not every bf/gf you were with means you were in love or the one you are with (that you just started dating) means that you love them. There are also different forms of love like brotherly/sisterly love or love for your friend(s). To know if you're truly in love may take time; months or years, to truly recognize it. You may not find true love as a teenager, it may be when you're in your 20's, 30's or even older. You may not even know you are in love because you may not be fully knowledgeable with such things or may have a bad influence (role model) who may not be the greatest example to follow... There are many things to consider.

I met my boyfriend when I was 16 (he was 16 too). I wouldn't say I was in love with him when we first started dating but I did have feelings for him which I followed that were similar; happiness for one from just being with him, jealousy when other girls tried to flirt with him, etc. We hung out beforehand as friends & over time grew closer, closer than I was with my other best friends. Being together just felt right & when we officially were a couple there was no need to ask one another because we just were. We've been together for more than 2yrs now, I can honestly & openly say that I love him. Everyday it grows stronger & truer, as love does.

I don't think that it's unacceptable. I've been in love before, even though I am only 17. And I do currently love someone, who happens to be my best friend. And we've only known each other for.. about a year and a half. But I don't personally think that anyone can really look at a couple, young as they may be, and say, "Oh. They're too young to actually love each other." But I do agree with many statements above that say "I love you" is thrown around too much. It is.

"so in summary, i dont think its unreasonable...but a lot of people are like "OMGZ! i ttly love him so much and we've been dating for likes..OMG! 3 hours!" =| that annoys me."

^^ I agree 100% with that.

I dont think its unacceptable, but i think we are incapable, i have been with my bf for 2 years, and i say i love you and all the rest, but deep down i really dont and i know he doesnt either, but maybe thats just us and we are comfortable with that or if we are incapable, can you answer that for me lol

I think as long as no one is making any drastic decisions then its ok... I mean when you are like 12 or 13 i am sorry, but its not true love... i call it puppy love...
For alot of adults its unacceptable... but its nice.. to have someone and like someone... as long as no drastic changes are made then its ok...

"so in summary, i dont think its unreasonable...but a lot of people are like "OMGZ! i ttly love him so much and we've been dating for likes..OMG! 3 hours!" =| that annoys me."

Wasted: I'm not trying to be rude but I'm genuinely curious. You said you are in love with someone... is that the boy you dated for like 3 weeks? Does it really make that much of a difference if it's three weeks or three hours?

I think that love is different for everyone, really. there's no set age, no line you cross in order to be in love. however, you might convince yourself that you're in love when you really aren't... but, hey, I really do believe it is possible!

Im 14 and my parents think that just be-cuz im young i cant fall in love...my parents dont kno how i feel...people give there opinions and they sumtimez give advices but they cant judge me by my age...age is just a number...and true love is only found once..i do believe in teenage love..but love from the past was used from the heart..and not by the way u look...

When I was young I hated adults telling me I didn't know what love was yet, looking back I didn't lol You fall in love with love and the idea of what could be instead of what is. There will always be people that throw the word around and there will always be those who try to point out they do it. It would be nice if one generation learned from the last a little more often, but it is all part of growing and learning. If more youngster's want to have their love take seriously they should probably take the word seriously, saying after 1 day or getting engaged after 2 weeks, is a little impetuous and doesn't encourage anyone to take you seriously.

To the person that questioned me. theres a difference. we've dated on and off for 2 years. that last time was 3 weeks. now we've been dating 2 days...it may not seem different to you because you are not me. but i have known/loved him for the entire two years. every second of it. while i know he only uses me because he knows that i care for him more then anything/anyone, i would rather be used by him then not have him. because i love him with all my heart.

but, its rather hard to understand. no one i know understands me. thats ok. you dont have to. =|

"i know he only uses me because he knows that i care for him more then anything/anyone, i would rather be used by him then not have him. because i love him with all my heart."

That's bad, self destructive love sweetie.

I know that, but i wouldnt trade it for anything...
like i said, its hard to understand..
no one ever does. =/

"I believe that most teen "love" is a joke"

..^i agree with this.. i believe that MOST teenage love is not even serious.. im 15! im teenager too so i know.. most teens around think that they are in love all the time! just because they think this guy is cute or whatever.. they would say they're inlove.. its an exaggeration of infatuation to love.. true, love is uneasy to understand.. you wont easily know wether ur inlove or your not.. but.. its just that for most teens..they would just welcme a relationship just for experience or whatever.. they arent even serious..

(my opinion^^)

"I know that, but i wouldnt trade it for anything..."

lol I know no one ever understands, I wasted my whole high school experience on a loser like this, it's just easier if you believe no one understands. Looking back I can't believe how dumb I was. he attempted to contact me a couple years ago which was also sad lol He hasn't changed and I am happier than I have ever been with someone who shares my love and doesn't just feed off of it. One day you'll understand.

I think that it is possible for teenagers to be in love. After 3 weeks? No. I am almost 15 and my boyfriend have been together for 11 months. We have known eachother since the 3rd grade and have been best friends for years. We finally made things official and I am confident when I say I love him.

From my personal experience, when you love someone you know them inside and out. They make you smile like no other person in this world. You are able to be your self and let go while you are with them. My boyfriend and I didn't say I love you until we had been together for almost 4 months. You can't love someone you don't know. You may love who you think they are, love the way they look but you don't truly love them. It takes time to fall in love.

Teenagers will eventually learn this. I sound kinda stupid saying that considering I am only a teenager myself. But back to the original question, most teenagers think they are in love when they aren't. But there are always exceptions...

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I don't think that teenage love is made up. Like TPAM said, most people are in love with the idea of being in love. Some may have reasons behind it, others may not. I have friends who jump from guy to guy and it's such a sad thing to see. My boyfriend and I have been together 11 months. I couldn't imagine the day him and I broke up kissing and telling someone else I love him. That's just... stupid.

When teenagers ask for advice they always say "Don't mind my age, I know it's real." How can they possibly say that. They must already know something is wrong because they are saying that in the first place. *shrugs*

Im kinda parted on the subject
i think it can happen
but can
im undecided

There is nothing wrong with that cause love can come when your four years old so if your really in love, love whoever and when ever you want

Uh, love screws us over whatever our age.
We aren't immune to it just because we are "grown ups"

Age doesn't mean you are 'grown.' It's all about experience. I truly believe that you have to experience the hardships of life that make us grow up before you can honestly say something is TRUE love. What I mean is, when you are 14-15 etc...you've never had to worry about paying rent or other bills. Supporting yourself, a job...all the things that seem to get tagged on with being a grown up. One can be 'grown up' but still essentially inexperienced with 'real life.' Things that can break us really have a defining part of making us who we are. This isn't to say that because you are young that you are inexperienced. There are lots of kids that have had to grow up before they should have due to 'real life.'

What I'm saying basically is that you are still growing into who you really are. It's much harder to be the same person you were when you were 15 versus 25. I'm not going to say a teenager can't be in love--that's not what I'm saying at all. Love is something only you can define. If you want to call it love, I'm not at liberty to dispute it. But what I am saying is that it's much harder to keep that same love as you continue to grow and change. It may not be strong enough to withstand the hardships and stresses of life, but it's still possible that it can. It's purely a case by case circumstantial kind of thing.

However, I do agree that the word love is so watered down now that it's TRUE meaning is probably lost on most that use it.

I'm 21 and I can honestly say that I've never experienced love. I've experienced what I THOUGHT was love and I called it love at the time. But as I'm older, I know that I just wanted to be in love so I made myself believe what I had was just that.

Love knows No age!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Even a 3 yr old kid knows how to love...
Who said that teenage love is forbidden???
I'm going to put him in jail!!! he he he

"it's idiotic to assume they could love another person with "all their heart"

And why not???? I'm a teenager and I love someone with all my heart. All of us has feelings....And to experience being in love in an early age is not dumb! It's just extraordinary, I think!

I really don't think it's an age thing. it's a maturity thing. if you actually know what it is, then sure, i mean some people spend the rest of their lives with their high school sweethearts, so why not? but some people, on the other end of the spectrum, use the word as much as possible and are just flat out afraid to be alone. it all depends on you as a person. that's it

I think there is nothing wrong with teenagers'love
love has no age so you can feel it at any age no matter how young you are!!!!
my first love was when I was 8!!!perhaps you will say it's not mature but I had a strong sense of love I was so innocent;I did some foolish and childish acts but it was really sweet and I have good memories of this experience sure the old we grow the more mature we become.

I agree with megan...i think that if u love someone u really do love them but the way that they think they love may be different than how they truly feel...make since? like right now i AM in love with my boyfriend and i would do basically anything for him (accept have sex i would like to wait until im married) and hes okay with that he agreed with me and we havent brought up the topic since...but the thing is as we grow and develope into our own person we might change and not love each other as much as we thought we did...make since?...i hope that doesnt happen right now because i love him but if he or i change a lot then he or i may not love each other the way we thought we did becasue we're not completely adults or mature...