Should he know everything?

K so i been going out with jerome for almost a year it will be a year next month
me n him seem great together to me we do atleast
i love him n he says he loves me too n i believe him

he told me everything about him but i havent really opend up...ive done stupid things in my past, n a lot of stuff happend, n i got hurt way to much..
im just scared if i tell him everything then he might see that im not the perfect girl and that i have a lot of issues....n im scared that might push him away again n i really dont want to be hurt again....
what should i do?

Well i say you should open up to him, and if he doesnt think your a "perect girl" then he's not for you... (sorry if that sounded mean...)

or dont tell him the things that he might take as you being unperfect and act like that the unperfect time never happened...

sorry if i sound like a jerk... im not trying to be ^.^ hope i helped a little.

Thanks for the advice
its funny he always tells me that nothing can stop him from loving me and me n him been thru so much...
i dont know why im so scared
im thinking hard bout telln him evything

If you love and trust him, then I think you should tell him. He shouldn't hold your past against you if he loves you (like you say he does).

Thanks n i hope he does cuz imma tell him i think he should know me like i know him....i just hope it wont mess anything up...

I understand what your saying...

my life:
i have done a lot that im not and never will be proud of... and now im with someone i know everything about but she doesnt know a thing about me, she just heard the stories about me and theres not a day that goes by that she will ask about one of the stories and i tell her that i dont want to talk about it...

sorry about all that... but im saying tell him everything or dont let the stories get out ^.^

like the first one i hope that i helped.

Ok new issue!!! he bn talkn to my bestfrined cuz dey friends n i dont mind but she said somdin really bad to him bout me n he just txt me talkn bout all dis he found out n well hes like i cant believe u didnt tell me and well i just said im sorry just never the right time....but hes really pissed off n i was supose to c him tonight n he cancelld.........ahhhhh........hes not mad bout wat it was dat he herd just mad i didnt tell him.......im so confused wat to do omg!

You have been together for a year and he has talked to you about his past, if you really trust him you should open up about yours.

I will imma call him 2 night tell him i need to c him hopfuly hell com ova n we can talk....i just hope all goes good i really dont want to lose him i love him so much

-sigh-
it will blow over i say talk to your bestie about why she said anything wrong and then your boy when your ready...

and hes mad because you didnt tell him about it first... not to sound mean but i dont think thats the case... but i think too much.

trust me everything will be fine
hope i dont sound crazy and helped a little

I think to much to but thats just me n i did talk to ha n she just said that it sliped....she really didnt mean to but wit him the sooner the better cuz when he wants to know something he wont give up n it will drive me krazy

That's the thing about secrets, unless you are the only one who knows and you know how to keep your mouth shut, someone will eventually find out, better it comes from your own mouth than someone else's.

Hun, noones perfect. everyone has some baggage. some have a lot, others a little.

i put it this way, if there are some things you feel he needs to knwo, than tell him.
ut life before him dosent matter =)

its the past, and thats where it needs to be left.

life started with him.and will end well..with him if you let it =)

He's dating you. Not the crazy things you've done. I say that it doesn't matter. You can tell him, and if he takes it the wrong way, then thats his problem. And seriously, who's going to really know whether you share with him that stuff? He told you his secrets because he wanted to. You don't have to say anything. I hope I helped you out.

Iight so i told him and well i dont even kno if we still going out!!!!! i havnt talkd to him since that night! my birthday was yesterday n he didnt call or noting its like he fell off the face of the earth....what do i do!

Ok, once again James, I agree but then I don't. Ok so she told him. Big woop! He should have taken it fine if he truly cared about her. I think the guy is a jerk if hes going to let your past get in the way of your relationship. He sounds like an idiot if he's going to be like that.

On the other hand, I have no idea what your crazy stories were. Who knows? It could have been something that you just don't tell your boyfriend. So it could go either way.

But whatever way it goes, he took it how he took it and you can't change much from here. The thing I am getting at is you now are free. This is a good thing, it just depends on whether you look at the glass half full or half empty. You now have the right to find a new guy who will care for you no matter what you tell him.
I hope I don't sound like an idiot. lol
Good luck.

The issue wit me bn "free" is that i dont want to b i been with this boy for a year i cant i dont see were imma go with out him...im not look @ myslef as free...me n him r just havn som issues....he txt me dis morring just saying good morring baby....so i gues he still mine idk ill find out when he gets out of work!

Aww i'm glad that its ok. Lol I guess we all jumped waaay too soon. Thats great that you guys are good now. If you need anything else, my pm box is always open.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and two months and I tell him everything there is to know about me and he does the same with me and we love each other. It makes trust and if your boyfriend loves you then he will take you as you are past and everything.

OPen up to him and show him who u really are. If he "loves" u he will accept everything and anything about you, and not just the "perfect" things. Besides we are all human and we all have stupid mistakes we made in our past, and if he thinks thats weird maybe their is something abnormal about him.

Open your heart and he will open his eyes and absorb all of it and appreciate all of u instead of just what u let him see