Pregnancy

Alright. I know once I post this...im going to get responses talking about im too young and shit...but oh well. i know that.
I really want to have a baby. i love kids..and im with the person i want to get pregnant by.
i want to have his kids. i love him and if he gets me pregnant than im not going to have to worry about him leaving me...
we have talked about it before.
but its really starting to hit me now.
wat am i suppose to do

Look, I know what you mean about being a mom. I want it more than anything in the world. the guy I'm with wants to have kids with me. But there are so many factors you have to bring in. Will you be able to financially support your kids? Do you have somewhere to live? Do you want to go to college? Travel the world? Live life as a dare devil? and you shouldn't have to depend on you getting pregnant to keep your boyfriend around. He should stay around because he loves you and not because you guys had a kid together. look, just take a few years to really make sure you've done everything you want to do, because a baby takes up all your life. Say goodbye to everything. I have a younger sister who is three and she's like my daughter and let me tell you, having her around has made me put a hold on my own kids thing, even though I want some really badly. Just wait until you know you can support yourself, a husband and a child.

Lmao you just made the most ridiculous statement ever. Just the fact that you think you won't get dumped because you have kids together, says your not ready for a relationship or children. Grow up and don't submit a child to your warped view of family.

First of all you know what i meant by that..so dont comment my topic by being rude..you wouldnt like it if i did that to you...

I want to have a baby, too, but I'm not right now. I mean, I'm only 16! I'm waiting until I have a husband, we're both out of college, and we both have jobs. Look at it this way: If you're married, you don't have to worry about him "dumping" you. I think that it is absolutely ridiculous to want a baby in your teen years. I understand if it was an accident, or a rape, but getting pregnant just so you can have a baby or make your boyfriend stay with you, is stupid and skanky, in my opinion.
I'm reminded of my favorite quote:
"Sex won't make him yours, and a baby won't make him stay."

Beautiful Chaos is right. Don't take offense- in a discussion forum everyone is entitled to their opinion.

I love kids too. I'm 19, I'm in a very serious relationship, and I still say I'm way too young to even think about it. You don't even want it for the right reasons! You're going to try and trap your boyfriend into staying with you? There's something clearly wrong with that.

I can tell from your first post alone (even if I ignore the fact that you're 15- which is another whole reason in itself) that you are not yet mature enough to have a child. Don't do it. Five years from now you'll look back and realize how incredibly immature and naive you are, and you'll be thankful if you didn't do it.

I don't mean to offend you, so please don't take it that way. You aren't supposed to know everything at 15- that's why we have these discussions on here. Take care.

I know how you feel. i am 17 and thought i was pregnant two different times. i was excited by it. but am now quite relieved im not. because 1) my ex PROMISED me that he'd never leave me again, and once i told him i MIGHT be pregnant, bam. he left. he promised. promises are easily broken. 2) i have hardly any money...you have to think about that. babies cost thousands of dollars. diapers, clothes, food, bottles, pacifiers, etc. 3) i have no where to live with a baby. yes, you could still live with your parents, but my grandma made it clear that if i get pregnant i cannot live here anymore...

you REALLY need to think this over. because my mom had me when she was 16, and its safe to say my moms life has been shit until very recently. her and my step dad are happy, but they're extremely poor...

just think about everything. finish school...then worry about children.

"im going to get responses talking about im too young and shit.."

If you don't want to hear the answers don't ask the question. Your opening and your one response is enough for anyone who is logical to see you are not ready by far. Everyone thinks it would be so cute to have a baby when they are your age because they don't understand what it means to actually have a child.

You are 15. The 'you're too young' comment isn't necessary, it's obvious. And the fact that you think your boyfriend will stick around because he promised he would if you got pregnant means nothing. people are fickle in their teens and even into their twenties. there shouldn't be any reason for him to stay except that he loves you and wants to be with you. Sorry to burst your bubble of love but your relationship sounds unstable and immature to me.

I am a mother of twin four year olds. I had them a couple months after I turned 14. Listen to me and take this seriously, I love my kids with all my heart. They are my world. I wouldn't trade this life for anything. But there are so many things I wish I could have done. I wanted to finish high school for one instead of GEDing out. I wish I was on better terms with my parents and family. I wish I could support my kids better and provide a better life for them. I wish I traveled more. I wish I had time to go to college full time. But guess what, having kids has put my life on hold. I can't do that until my kids get older. I know parenthood sounds glamourous, but after waking up at odd hours in the morning/night, changing diapers and feeding non stop, you're going to lose your mind, espcially if you are too young to really step up and take responsibility of your kids. You're going to want to go out, but you can't because you've got a baby. just take my advice. Wait a few years. I swear parenting is fun, but only fun if you are really ready mentally, physically, financially and emotionally. And it's hard to be all of those until you've matured as a person.

Yeah Umm I don't even care to read what everyone's opinion on this is ..But my opinion is your about to screw your life up if you get pregnant..lol..Getting pregnant out of wedlock already would put a big strain on your relationship with the father..don't expect him to stick around..maybe he will..but if he does..by a few years he'll hate your guts and just be there for his baby if he even stays around..But even married couples are getting divorced over stuff like this..your probally not financially stable at all..and babies cost waaay too much. that alone will drive you two apart..ring or no ring..it's not a good idea until you develop some stability for a baby to grow up in. The worst thing you can do is raise a child in a broken home..that's not fair at all.