Doing TOO much??

Is it possible to try TOO hard to make a relationship better?

i feel like i'm doing too much and that it's driving my boyfriend further away.

is it possible?

I would say it is definitely possible.

Hmm...What do you mean you feel like your doing too much?? I don't think that is possible at all!! I spoil my bf and he loves it!!! =D I would do anything for him and he would do anything for me! If you feel like your doing to much maybe you should confront him and just come right out and ask if your getting on his nerves or whatever

When things are going wrong, we can certainly panic and start smothering the relationship.

Absolutly. It happens all the time in relationships. And alot of times, when it happens, it happens because one person isn't doing enough or just not trying hard to fix something. So just take some time to ask yourself...are you happy?. You need to be happy in a relationship and happy with what you are doing. If you aren't then somethings not right. IF your not happy doing too much, then talk to him. Lol if that made sense at all. Good luck.

^^Agreed...great post James

Definitely its possible. just be urself and dont push anything on him

I agree with pretty much everyone in this post.
Yeah, it's definitely possible.
Sometimes you just hold on so tight when the other person really doesn't want you holding that close..
A lot of people like a little thing called space. ^.^
I know I do, but I do love spending time with that special person.
I guess you just really have to keep things balanced in your relationship.

Of course. Relationships take two people to make them work. If the balance scale of the relationship is tipped heavily on either side, it's going to strain. You've got to work together, you can't make it work all by yourself. Trying to do so will result in a bad ending more often than not.

Well i mean sometimes it feels like i'm doing all the work. like i'm the one asking if he wants to go out and do something or go somewhere. or i'm the one that calls or texts. and sometimes i don't even get any responses. i text him to let him know that i'm here and still exist but sometimes i think that's too much. and i hardly get to see him. we live like 30-40 minutes away. maybe i get to see him like once or twice a week (if i'm lucky) because the distance is kinda an obstacle. and then when i don't say anything to him at all, that's when he texts me asking where have i been or why hasn't he heard from me... i don't know.

Yes & no. If you don't really love that person & they really don't love you either, or you don't love them but they love you & visa versa, then don't bother trying to make it work because to make a relationship work you need participation from both of them & yourself. If you both love one another then DO all you can to make your relationship work because if you both are truly in love it's worth fighting for. If your not; like I mentioned in examples above, don't bother to toy with someone like that, or don't allow yourself to be toyed by yourself or them.