A very complicated girl.. care to help?

So ya there was this girl who has a bf.. then i won her as my own... coz her bf would always cheat on her and mistreats her badly... so wen they broke up she went out with me.. but wen we made it official on facebook.. her ex suddenly reacts and threw sympathizing words.. he reminisced on everything she did for him.. the girl was touched coz he finally realize how much she loves him and appreciated her.. for one night of sympathizing she gave in and just left me as if i was nothing... she forgot all the things i did for her within a blink of an eye... i nvr did anything wrong =[

Cut your losses and don't look back, if she is willing to just dump you because her cheating ex had a few nice words to say once he found out she had a new bf, she is not worth your time.

I know! just because he said some nice few words.. it doesn't mean he changed already.. she really believes that he changed by just realizing things she has done for him.. that doesn't really make sense.. i was only trying to protect her but she doesn't listen... i'm not hurt coz i loved her so much, i'm hurt coz she just forgot me like that.. what she doesn't know.. is he's still cheating on her.. and i will blindfold myself as if i dn't see anything.. let pain teach her about being fast in deciding...
i've already move on i think.. coz all i'm feeling is sadness for her not for me... i'm really not those regular guys who easily gets hurt... hehe tnx for listening

Yea i know.. the thing is.. i never defended myself so i won't get her confused.. i could've tried to persuade her but i just made the sacrifice coz she easily gets confused... it's not easy to be the good guy... i really tried my best to make her happy.. she was always happy with me... but i guess she's more used to him since they've been dating for a year and a half.. i hope she'll kno sooner or later that her decision was wrong... he's still the same guy... i dont wanna wait.. i've moved on... i just wanna watch the show... but i feel bad for her

Honestly, I see this as a good thing for you both.
Her being with this guy will make her realize how bad of a person this guy is. He just can't really do relationships. She'll figure out all of the things she doesn't like in a relationship...
Then she'll see that you did all of the right things when you two were together. How she should be treated.
After she realizes all of this, I'm pretty sure they'll break it off for good.

By the time this all happens, however, I hope that you would have moved on with your life. You sound like too good of a person to be with a girl that'd drop you in a split second for a guy who would give her up in a second too.
She cut you off for a jerk. You don't deserve that. Go out and find a girl who will apperciate every thing you do for her. Good luck.

The guy is really an ass.... and wat she did to me was unforgivable.. but if i get hired on the workplace she's working... what shud i do? shud i just ignore her existence? coz that'll be harsh and she deserves it.. she treated me as if i was nothing, so y shud i treat her differently? or i'll pretend to be frnds with her as if i'm ok with it...
one thing i learn is... love is blind... ppl get blinded to think that wat they're feeling is love or wat they're seeing is love... love only exists wen two ppl r loving each other and exerting effort to make it work and last forever... i really wish i could find a girl who will always love me and take care of me like i do to her...

She doesnt deserve someone like you...
You should just forget her and move on... you deserve someone who will appreciate what you do...

Yep, we've all said it. She's definatly not worth it. If she's gunna blow you off like that, then you should not give her the time of day.

Yep, we've all said it. She's definatly not worth it. If she's gunna blow you off like that, then you should not give her the time of day.

Aww... gosh, you're so sweet. I'm not really sure how she could have done that to you. Any girl would be lucky to have you, and you deserve to know that.

But no, if you do get hired where she works at.. don't ignore her. I mean, don't get too wrapped up or involved with her either. Be friendly, talk a little bit, but I wouldn't take it any further than that.

Yeah.. i guess you guys are right.. i deserve someone better.. i can't believe how this world is full of deception... i never saw those lies behind those kisses... i thot ppl kiss wen they love someone... good thing i had my guard up all the time or else i would've gone crazy... i already anticipated this to happend... but i didn't think it would be so fast....
yea i think ur right... ignoring her would make her think that i'm a sore loser... i'm full of revenge.. i can do it if i want to.. but i'll let her bf do it for me... *sigh* back from scratch again... wat a LIFe!

In philippines we call it "balimbing" which means she's like a table tennis ball..she keeps on jumping from here to there and there to here....

Yes. It would be best not to sink to her's or her boyfriend's level. You're better than that. And you'll find better than her. Just give it a little time.

What's done is done. Now you know what you deserve and I believe it's time for you to move on and find even better.

Everyones already said it move on shes not worth it...you'll surely find sumone better

Ya.. she just old me last night that even though she was with me, she still couldn't move on... she just used me... everything she showed was fake... i swear... i can't really believe she could do such a thing... i really can't forgive her.... everything i saw was all a pretend! she sure fooled me... i just filled out the things her bf couldn't do and then she leaves me.. seriously, i can't really accept such deception... i wish someone would come and save me from this depressing life...

I [was] just like her. & the guy i dumped a few guy[s] for, just became my ex *AGAIN* last friday. its been more than a year, and his ass never changed. i dont think about my ex's anymore cause they never fought for me, even when i told them id go back to him. they never defended themselves.

you should point out his mistakes to her, and she'll realize that you're better than him. if ull just keep ur mouth shut about it, then she'd think you're not persuasive enough. to girls, its always nice to feel wanted. if she wont realize your worth, then move on. *cause you're not just nothing*

I [was] just like her. & the guy i dumped a few guy[s] for, just became my ex *AGAIN* last friday. its been more than a year, and his ass never changed. i dont think about my ex's anymore cause they never fought for me, even when i told them id go back to him. they never defended themselves.

you should point out his mistakes to her, and she'll realize that you're better than him. if ull just keep ur mouth shut about it, then she'd think you're not persuasive enough. to girls, its always nice to feel wanted. if she wont realize your worth, then move on. *cause you're not just nothing*

Waht d person said above..is right nn then forget her, if she wont figure it out then she lieky aint going to figure it out in the future till it collapes on her when he repeats wat he did..but try you never no...

Well.. I say after she just ditched him like that for a jerk I wouldn't wanna point out anything to her. Nor would I even start getting into serious conversations like that with her. She'll just think he's jealous and wanting to make her boyfriend look bad because she left him for this guy. That's how I would see it if I was her, anyways. And to be honest he sounds like a much better guy then that.

You'll find someone who'll save you. I promise you will. Things just take a little time. She'll find you someday.

Yea true... but u know what.. she still tries to talk to me and she talks to me as if i'm ok with everything... and when i asked her "y do u still talk to me?" and she says "bcoz i miss talking to u and i still like you" i'm so pissed at this girl... she's so inconsiderate of other's feelings.. she can't understand that i'm mad at her bcoz she left me like i'm nothing.. i swear... she disturbs me.. i wanna play along with her.. but i don't wanna sink in her level just like one of the advices here... godd.. i hate her more!

Im prob going to sound like a little child here...but show her you cant take what she;s doing... give hr the silent treatment or something...might teach her a good lesson...she prob thinks she can get whatever she wants out of you when things go wrong with him...n the drop you like a door mt when things are fine a gain...really you do deserve better...

^ I agree.
But I don't think you should give her the silent treatment. I would just straight up tell her I wasn't okay with every thing and if she still liked me then she shouldn't have ever left in the first place.
If you honestly still want her in your life, tell her you'll just be friends. Not good friends either. Just a friend you chit chat with a little bit and nothing more. She doesn't even deserve you in her life anymore after what happened. But I'll stick with what I said before. Sweetie, don't sink to her level. You're better than that =) Just let her know it bothers you but you wouldn't ever go back to her.

Ye the whole silent treamemnt thing might be too harsh,srry rethought what i said.. and wud be almost sinkin down to she level...i take that back abit.....nn ^^i agree with her...a friend nothin more justa firend....yu seem reall nicec...you really do deseve betta

Well.. i've been straightforward about how i felt already... i already let out all my anger on her... but still.. i can't blame her for everything coz yea.. her bf is such a sinister guy who does desperate things to make his gfs feel pity on him.. i heard that he made up a story that her mom had a heart attack before to make her come back to him when they broke up before.. and she doesn't kno that it's made up... his ex told me about it.... she knows him more than anyone since they've been dating for so long back then.. he would really do anything to bring his gfs back to him when they catch him cheating on them coz he doesn't like it when the girls breaks up with him.. he just wants them back so he could break up with them... see how F***** in the head he is? who uses their mom's life to bring back someone? he's such a sick pscyho freak.. thats y i feel really bad for her...

Well atleast you were straightforward with her...
&& yeah he is as from what you said...using your moms life to get a girl back...thats pretty low..and weird. n shallow. dat boyz really messed up.now i would acaully feel bad for her...
but you gotta be strong and no from right and wrong...hopefully she''ll soon figure out whats right..hopefully pretty soon...ehh and did you tell her that he's lying or what....cuz if you did...after all this she might not beleive you &&jsut think your jealous or something likethat...what to do now...*sigh* i myself doesnt even no...be her firend that pretty mych all you can do...n forget your feeelings for her....your a nice boy you deserve way better..n i dont see why you should feel sorry for her...it was her choice to go back to him right?

Yeah, it was her choice. It sounds like by now, she should know better than to actually believe his lies. But I guess she's so sunk in with him and has her head in the clouds that she can't see false from reality anymore.

If you really feel that bad for her, then maybe you should try to talk his ex into having a heart to heart chat with this girl about him... have them inform her of his lies and to at least be more careful and causious. If it works and they break up, I'm pretty sure she'll gonna come crawling back to you. It's your job not to fall for it though.

Good luck =)

Agreeed....uuur right...^^ =]

as i acually read this over i went thro the same thing...the only thing i did...was i havemt talked to him..my friends talkd to me about him...and i realised that he wasnt worth it all.i ditched alot of great guys for him....cuz evertime i went back to him i got hurt...an hour of sympathy had me going which was all lies...she'll realize it soon or later like i did hopefully...i deleted him from everything that i have...and i havemt talked to him in months...i
the above post is right...have someone talk to her...she;ll really realize it...telll her all his lies...she'll come back thinkin you;ll be ther for her...dont tho...its not worth it...cuz in the end u'll end up gettin hurt again

i think she'll realize it soon... good luck...

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And I agree with you, dear.

Thanks guy for giving me ur honest advices... i'm ok now.. my pride was just hurt... =D thanks!

Mmk no worries :)