I can't believe what she did!!!

Me and my mother are going on vacation Saturday for 2 weeks. Like 3 weeks ago she told my b/f that if he took care of our pet rabbitt while we are on vacation she would let him and his cousin borrow her car for the whole 2 weeks. Then like 3 days ago she told him that she was too uncomfortable with him and his cousin borrowing the car. He was upset because he had his whole 2 weeks planned (going with his cousin to an ammusment park, driving himself to and from work and driving to my house to take care of my pet rabbitt). She appologised. Then 2 days ago I found out that instead she is giving the car to one of her friends that she trusts. I think tht is kind of unfair because she promised my b/f first and then she made him feel bad by ripping it out from under him and then giving it to someone else. I feel uncomfortable with her decision, not because her friend is a bad driver because she is not but because of what she did. She should have never promised my b/f if she wasn't 100% sure and she should have just given it to her friend in the first place. I told her how I felt and she said that it was her car so it was her decision and if she wanted to rip it away from my b/f that was her choice. I asked her if we could meet half way so neither of us felt bad and she said "Absolutely not" She said that it was her car and if I felt uncomfortable with her decision it was just too bad for me. Should I just suck it up and feel miserable?

I don't get why you feel miserable, it was not your car or your decision, although you might feel disappointed that she changed her mind, it is her choice.

^^ i agree.

im sure when you grow older and hve childeren of your own, you'll understand what she's talking about.

I know you this we're wrong, but when we grown up. Im sure alot of us will understand more, than what we understand now.

Yeah, but I just wanted her to compromise at least a little so we both felt ok with everything, but she flat out said 'no' to me. She said "This isn't your car so you have no say what I do with it" Then she told me that the only way I could have a say is if I pay the car insurance for the rest of my life and I do not have the money to do so. But then I asked her if my b/f could use our house while we were away and she said 'yes' and she also said that I could do whatever with the house I wanted and she wouldn't care. But then I asked her why she didn't care about the house and why she would let me do whatever I wanted because just like the car the house was not mine because I did not pay for it, and she said "it's diffrent" and I asked her how it was diffrent, but she didn't have any answer for me.

I wouldn't worry so much about it, parents are just like that sometimes. Shanik

It's different because she said it is lol That's the benefit of being a parent. I would leave my kids in the house before I let them touch my car and my dad wouldn't let me touch his car or be alone in the house lol YOu just need to get over yourself and accept it isn't your choice whether you believe it is fair or not.

I can't that parents still do that nowadays... if she promised him then she should keep up to her promise, or at least give him something else instead... talk to your mum about it in a nice way, if she still doesn't do nothin bout it then don't worry it's not your falt. If you want to make your bf happy then do something nice for him when you get back or buy him something that he would like.

We've talked it out and as much as he thinks it's unfaiur we've all dropped it and are trying to move on.

This happened to me my mother promised me i could use her car for a week while she went away to uni for a major assignment but then the day before she broke her promise because she got worried because the car wasnt insured in my name and she was worried that i might get a prang in it as i just got my P's in april and she hasnt had a recent service on it so she gave it to my grandfather to look after as he had his licence for so many yrs. About her saying yes with the house its a less chance that something could go wrong becuase a house doesnt move, have tyres, and chew petrol, or is riskfull to smash like a car does. do you think that this could be a simular reason why your mother broke the promise it might not be that she doesnt trust your bf or anything but maybe you should think of other things with the car and not just your mothers promise. Think about it
Cars are more riskfull then a house.
cheers