How can i help her?

One of my good friend's mum was diagnosed with cancer early this year and has been undergoing kemo and radiation and all the treatments to hopefully get rid of it.
But my friend (as expected) has been having a hard time with it. She has always been a little sad since i have known her, and has gone through so much in her life.
I know she is hurting but she hardly ever talks about it. I also know that she cuts herself, and we talk about it sometimes because i do too, but never about stopping. and I want us to stop. And I especially want her to stop because i love her so much and I hate to see her hurting herself.
Everytime I ask about how her mum is and try to talk to her about it, she usually changes the subject. I dont know what I can do to help her anymore. She is one of the best friends I have ever had, and understands me so well, and has helped me through so much, I just want to do the same for her, but I dont know how. Any ideas?

Just tell her how you feel deep inside...y do u cut ur self itz not gonna solve none of ur problemz is it??
tell her lifes to short to b cuttin herself...i think u should stop and then when u do tell her how different it is after...

No its not going to solve any problems, but its like this temporary release from everything else that is happening....mainly stuff at home, like nothing i ever do is good enough and my mum always wants me to be just like my sister was, (she died 2 years ago) coz she was really really smart and had everything on track and i can never live up to what my mum wants me too, and whenever i get upset or angry i turn to cutting, which i know isnt going to solve anything but as weird as it sounds it makes me feel better temporarily...i have tried to stop but its so hard and i feel like i cant cope without it, but i want to so badly...

thanks for ur advice you guys have been a good help...
xx

I am a cutter. a bad one i must say. so i know the agony of it all. to try to erase the pain. however encourage her to not cut in such a sad moment, she will only put her mother thru more pain than she deserves with this cancer. once she gets thru this. she can move on to stoping completly. and with a good friend like you at her side. you can reach that.

Let her know you are there for her. explain to her how you dont want her to suffer and u want to help her thru this. dont ever give up on her no mater how long it takes to get her to relize you care. someonetimes people need an extr push more than once to get them to relize they shouldnt hurt themselves.

Best of luck to you. and her.

i'll keep her mother in my prayers<3