So confused.. advice?

  • rebeccasarah
    16 years ago

    Ok first of all, theres this boy, and I liked him soo much, and I thought there might've been the smallest chance that he liked me too.. until he started talking to me about the girl he had liked. (Dont get your hopes up, it was quite obvious it wasnt me ..)
    So my friend introduced me to a friend of his, over the internet, in hope of getting my mind off of my crush, and lets just say it worked. This guy 'seems' to be nice, funny, sweet, smart, understanding, he cares and listens to me constantly, hes very honest, and I am really starting to like him, and I'm not saying I think he could be one of those online creepers or anything, because my friend really does know him, but I'm scared hes not made up of what he 'seems' to be online. I dont want to end up hurt again, if hes not, but these feelings i have for him are too strong to be unnoticed.
    Oh and he lives a few hours away.. so its not like hes only 10 minute drive, to see if hes for real or not. Which only makes my situation all the more complicated.

    Help? What should I do?

  • Kaila
    16 years ago

    There are so many ways to go about giving you advice for this..

    first, i could tell you that just the distance alone is enough to say dont bother with it... my bf lives only 45 min away and i only see him about 1 or 2 times a month.. it not only makes it harder on us but its constant worrying so unless you are sure you really like this guy i wouldnt bother.. you will just end up hurting either get broken into pieces or you will hurt because you miss the one you love so much..

    second, give it a chance cuz he could in fact be the one.. get a webcam or something so you can see him and watch his body language.. anyone can type cute stuff but you have to be able to see the way they look at you and the way they carry themselves and if you dont ever see him then its hard to judge.. also, start talking on the phone more often cuz tone of voice helps you get to know someone too..

    third, just let things flow and see where it goes.. life and love have a funny way of working things out and if you just sit back and let things fall into place you will winde up happy and stress free..

    to be honest id go with option one.. :) i dont know all the details so i cant really tell you which one will be best for you
    i hope i could help :)
    <3

  • Jaime
    16 years ago

    People are different online, whether they admit it or not. Everybody is that way. Don't get too attached until you start seeing him in person, that's my advice.

  • rebeccasarah
    16 years ago

    Thanks guys, you're completely right. I dunno what I was thinking..

    But thanks a bunch.

  • Lori
    16 years ago

    I don't think this is a very good idea. He is online and you have no idea who he is, or could be. You think you know. But the question is do you? I don't recommend you seeing him. But it IS a 10 minute drive. But if you do decide to go see him, bring a friend with you. That I def recommend.