Advice, do you think that hold your emotions in is good or bad?

Do you think that holding your emotions in is good or bad and why cause i need some help i never vent

It depends on your view, but holding them in prevents you being hurt sometimes, but so can holding them in. I hold them in, and it does hurt, but i wont take the chance, the chance to give them the benefit of the doubt, and trust them. I cant open up. But, if you have someone you can open up to, then do it. It will help. But, if you dont, feel free to vent to me.

Thanks i will i hate holding my feelings in it hurts like well i just grad from beauty school and everyone there would rip you up if they didnt like your style or if they didnt like you they were all just so judgmental i got sh!t thrown at my everyday and now i dont really have any friends and personally i dont even really know who i am anymore i know that i want to do hair and thats all i know im constantly changing my style and everything i get told by my family if they think my out is stupid or punky or emo but i actually like those looks i mean i like alota diff styles im going on about randomness now so if you want to open up and vent to vent to me too you can

People can be so stupid sometimes. The reason people judge is because they aren't happy with the way they are, so they make others feel bad. But, even with that, you'd think they'd be mature enough not to throw stuff at you. I have no idea who I really am. Theres the happy person i pretend to be, and the person I am when im not around people. That is the depressed person, the one who hides in waiting for something, or someone, willing to dig her out.
If you know that you want to do hair, then just go for it. The people around you could either be holding you back or pushing you forward, and it can go either way. They could be throwing stuff at you because of fear, they like what your doing and are jealous. Its the most likely.
My family judges me. I wear black, get constantly asked if im goth and emo from my brothers friends, and i go, so what? I like black, get over it. My parents complain and whine that i wear too much black. Oh, boohoo, im supposed to care right? My dad yelled at me once because my hair got darker, its not like I did anything to it. It good your into different styles, its a way to describe you.

For the most part bad, because it comes pouring out on you all at once sometime.

but you have 2 keep some emotions in, for other people's sake. like i have emotions where i just want to hurt someone really bad but lol i HAVE to bottle those up.

Thats insane that your dad yelled at you for your hair one time i came home from beauty school with black hair pink peek-a-boos on the sides and and a really sharp long graduated boob cut he hated it but he cant do anything about cause its my choice so you should tell your parents that too that it your choice what you do when comes to hair or anything because its your life that you're living no theirs and you are going to do what you choose to do and dress how you want and they aer just gonna have to deal with it and if they have a rude or neg comment to keep it themselves!!!

Yea, see, i didnt do anything to my hair. Its naturally dark. But my dad is a drunk so he was probably seeing things. But, its my dad's way or no way, you can't get around it. And Im stuck in this house for another three years, so I have to deal.

I know how you feel im almost 20 and my parents still try to control me but they have given me more freedom but if you need to vent im here for you

Currently, im happier than I have been in the longest time. Amazingly so. But, if i have enough of my dad, i think hes working the next two weeks(yes!) then I wont have reason to vent until after that. But thanks.

Your welcome

Holding things inside can be your ultimate downfall. who knows? what is someone is feeling the exact way you are underneath your nose? u would never know. you could have a friend dying on the sinde as yu could be and you wouldnt be able to help b.c u didnt vent yourself. venting is a way to express. i vent all the time and some people ditch me for it. well screw them eh? b.c if the word didnt vent. people would die. theyre would be less frriends and societry would be even more scrwed up then it already is. Let your feelings go free. now, i'm not daying post your life story to some stranger. but vent to a trusting friend. or a family member. someone who u kno will hold your words to heart and grant you wisdom.

I love to vent. and i love to listen to people vent.

Messege if your feeling down.
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Well I do most of the time to risk my friends. And then I just vent out to my diary or my mom. :D

I for sure dont vent to my parents or anyone in my family only one person that i know thats my bff well and the ppl on here

I think its bad... because i did it for so many years... and its pretty sad.... the outcome wasnt really good... you should always talk to someone if your happy,mad,sad etc.... You will save yourself alot of heartache... and alot of tears....

Yeah i think its bad, because holding them in all the time just makes them more and more intense and one day you will finally explode with all these emotions that you never let out...
talk to someone about how you feel, its a hell of a lot better for your well-being in the long run...

I tend to hold them in and ignore them most of the time because... well I call it emotional abuse from others. They've made me feel guilty for expressing them and sometimes blackmail me or don't listen to me so I forced myself to stop feeling. But now I do have someone I can talk to about some things and other times I know for a fact that if someone push me to that point... I will explode. And honestly... I CAN'T WAIT!... because I'm tired of people walking all over me.

But in actuality... it's definitely NOT healthy.

Yea, i hold it all in because whenever i start talking, and want someone there to help, or at least listen, they just change the subject. Ive learned to just hold everything in, and i know its not healthy. But, im sick of people using my emotions to mess with me, and use them against me. Its not right, and im sick of it. I just hold it in, no matter how bad.

^^^ same here i hold everything in i cant help it its so hard for me even to tell someone how i feel about them, i feel that if i tell anyone i know my dark side they'll label me because deep down inside im a very emtional person in a good way like i dunno what to say right now its hard for me even to say it on here i guess because when i finally want to tell somebody something i cant .... ive got the chills now... but do you ever feel like that, that if you say something to someone that they'll use it as a backup for them selves? or say that you said bla bla bla and other sh!t like that? im just scared to be me and i still think that i need to find myself if tyou know what i mean?

I wish that i could hold everything in, because whenever i talk about things, my bf starts to worry about me more. and he's the only one i really talk to about things going on in my life.

Yeah i know what you mean when you express your feelings to someone once and they use it against you other times...
thats like with my mum, after she found out i had cut myself she now uses it against me and whenever we have a fight or i get upset she says "why dont you go and cut urself again"
and it makes me regret even telling her so much, i just cant believe she would throw it back in my face so easily...
some people can be so insensitive and cruel, but i try to believe that dealing with these sorts of comments will only make me stronger in the long run...
has this happened to anyone else where you have told someone your problems and expected them to help but instead they use it against you?

I know that must really suck , but yeah thats why i dont tell anyone anything

I was once doing a traineeship for hairdressing and the girls i worked with were apprentices and they were pretty bitchy because i wanted to have this style in my hair and it had a pink streak in it which i thought it looked kool and i told them about it and they were swearing about it saying that its only going to keep fading out and that its too bright but they wouldnt listen to me as kept telling them that i was prepared to keep putting pink fudge in it anyways a few weeks later one of the girls stole my idear and got her hair done like that (the one who told me not to do it) so from my point of view some ppl will tell you not to do things because they are jelious and the punk and emo look is very popular within the hairdressing industry and hairdressers will do anything to find a kool style as their bosses pressure them so they go and steal other ppls idears. Meanwhile i didnt hold my traineeship for long because skool was interfearing so the traineeship was terminated so i bought some pink fudge and did underneath the blondes of my fringe and alot of ppl were saying that they loved my hair and some ppl were getting their hair done like that. Take my advice and dont bottle things in and if someone tells u wat to do put them in their place and tell them wat u are going to do not them.

Cheers

Thanks oh and if you put pink or any color like that in your i recomend using decolor first on the pert that you highlight then use chromo silk its the best it stays in good hard to get rid of sometimes but works really good i put it in my hair before when i colored it black and pink pee-a-boos it was so frikin awesome

I started expressing my emotions more. I started telling people things. I felt confident for the first time in a long time. But then my dad had to say, "if i knew everything about you, i would disown you". Thanks dad, love you too. You make me want to spill my guts. But, i just dont know what to do anymore. I dont know what I did, or didnt do, to make him feel like that. I just dont know anymore....

Dont pay attention to what t=your dad says he just being a jerk i mean i dont pay attention to what ppl say about me or too me unless its possitive ya know but yaeh some ppl only down you to uplift them because the have nothing else to do with there life and think it makes them fell better when really they end up with so much guilt on their contounus i know i spelt that wrong

and wine guy as long as you like your poetry thats all that counts if that thinks its that great or better or however you look at it than it is its your its what you want it to be

I dont pay attention to what most people say about me. They can say whatever the hell they want about me as long as they can say it to my face. Most of it isn't true anyways. But I wasn't expecting my dad to go and say something like that. Im mostly over it now, i was really upset at first, probably more than i should have been, but it doesnt matter. Im just going on with my life, hopefully, without me falling back into a shell again.

Good you should'nt and thats good that you're over it why dont you talk to your dad about how he treats you and how you want to be treated