In love with the wrong person?

Ok...I have sort of a problem. Is it ok to fall back in love with somebody that hurt you? I currently have a boyfriend but I'm not sure if I'm really all that into as much as he is to me...I would feel TERRIBLE if I ever did anything to hurt him because I would break his heart and I know what that feels like and lets just say it sucks!! But anyways I got my self into this mess ...me and my boyfriend havn't been dating that long and recently my ex, (who my parents kind of made me break up with because of our age difference, but soon after he got together with my best friend) wants to get back together with me again...he was really what I would call my first love...and I still have some pretty strong feelings toward him. I'm not sure what to do here ..please help!!

He is your ex for a reason, not to mention he started going out with your "best friend" after you broke up. I don't know the age difference but I imagine your parents opinion has not changed, so why all of a sudden are you so willing to defy them when you allowed them to break you up in the first place? Seems like a whole lot of drama, make a decision and stick to it, you can't be that into your new bf if you are considering dumping him for your ex.

You shouldn't be with your boyfriend, and you shouldn't be with your ex. You're one of those people who I think needs to grow up a little bit before you start dating again. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being alone for a while- it's actually a healthy thing and it will help you sort out your head a little.

Well...I guess your right. Gah ..I hate the truth. I just felt something with my ex that I havn't experienced with my current boyfriend. Maybe I should just dump him and stay single for a while...there is so much responsibility and stress involved in a realationship.

I say go for neither of them.

1) You don't even have feelings for your bf so break up with him. You date someone because you actually have feelings for them. If you don't, then dump him, for his sake.

2) This guy is your ex for a reason. I know that it was only because of his parents, but I think that they should have a say in it also. They decided that you should break up. You did, you found someone else, and moved on.

I think staying single would be the best decision.

My pm box is always open if you need to talk.

Good luck

I concur dating your current boyfriend for much longer is a BAD idea because you will end up hurting him more if you play him. BUT you should not just dump him and not ever talk to him again. Let him go by explaining your situation. Remind him that you are his friend regardless, give him time (I recommend between 2 weeks to 2 months, depending on how in love he is with you), then call him once every couple of days the first two weeks, then slowly stop calling as often. maybe three months after the break up, call him and see how he is.

As far as the other boy goes? Let him go. Age isn't an issue to me because my mom married someone older than her dad, so I call my limit at ten years. However, it sounds to me like he just wanted to have a girlfriend that was about your age. It is possible that he was moving from infatuation to infatuation.

You should really just let go of this one, stay single, and see if you stumble across your lifebonded (soul mate) When you do, it'll probably be someone who is in need of a friend, you two happen to meet and you help him (the roles may be switched around, mind you). Then you will both fall in love quickly and be very timid about admitting it, then one of you will get the courage after a while, and you will both be gooey, gushy lovers who are all over each other and embarrass your friends. But that's just a guess :D Point is, dump them both and wait for the right guy.

Message me if anything else comes up or my advice doesn't work. I'm always ready to help.