I'm not sure what it is.

Ok, So obviously there's a guy and I like him. But we've been friends for 2 years and we've gotten to be really close. The first thing I noticed about him was his personality. He keeps others going. When he though I was upset he'd make me smile and laugh. He'd get me to talk about what was bothering me. I grew to like him and told him. He likes me to. It's been a few months and we've talked about getting together but we haven't yet. Lately I've had serious drama with a family member who started hangin out with my friends but it opened up my eyes to the riends that used my, lied to me, or talked about me bihind my back. And he is the only one that I had no problem with. I never questioned wether or not I could trust him but he's left just the other day and he won't be back for 6 months. I feel so empty as if I have nothing left. We had a connection I've never felt before. I now feel I have nothing left without him but I do not know what this feeling is? Is it love???

Sounds like it to me. I fell in love with my best friend. We'll be dating for a month the 22nd. Yeah, not that long of a time, you may think, but I've known him for about 2 years or so. Possibly 3. So it seems like we've been dating longer than we have, you know? So I know all about falling in love with your best friend.

If I may, can I ask where he went for 6 months? Would you have any communication with him over that period of time? Either by phone, computer or texting? If so then couldn't you guys work out a long distance relationship if you feel that strongly about him? (of course, make sure he feels the same way about you as well.)

Hope I helped. If you wanna talk or anything feel free to pm me. (:

Honestly, I don't think anyone on here could seriously tell you if you were in love or not. And if you were, you wouldn't have to ask us.

Ok, six months? Life is way too short to sit there and mope about ONE guy for six months. I say keep in contact with him, but find others as well. Meet new people girl! Life is what you make it.

I agree wit Loni

Thanks. I don't plan on moping I just... I don't know. Don't trust anybody around me anymore.

You can't trust anyone now that hes gone? You are going to let one kid ruin you?

He is going to be gone for six whole months. Find new people. And most importantly, train yourself to let new people in. My advice is to not let one out of a billion people have that much pull over your life. If this guy ever hurt you, just imagine how you would feel.

Learn to let more than one person love you. Better yet, learn to love more than one person.

It's not that I'm not going to trust anybody now that he's gone. It's just that I don't trust the other people around me. I live in a very small place and all the kids there are drama. I've never lived in such a small area.

And I'm not letting him ruin my life. He's helped me in so many ways with so many things.

I agree with Angelina...
You can wait for him if you really love him because real love never dies...and you will constantly be thinking of him, needing him, dreaming him.

The first thing I would do is call him and tell him how you feel...

What if he feels nothing like this?
Then those 6 months would go to waste...
So tell him how you feel and if he feels it too, then you're set for the most beautiful life together...
if not...
then you have a few weeks to get over him and keep on living life.
Loves.

Very true^

I think your situation is really complicated, feelings are mixed up inside you, you are in a total confusion, I suggest you to think it over and find out what you really want from this guy, 6 months it s a long period when we are in love, remember:
to love and win is the best thing, to love and lose is the next best thing so you have to see straight and be realistic, don t let your emotions get the best of you and you have to accept the reality.

Well I still think about him quiet a bit but I'm dealing with the fact that he won't be here for a while. At least he is still my friend and still a part of my life now... Thats what atters the most to me, him still being in my life..

Yeah, I hope you won t be hurt, waiting for someone is really difficult, try to forget him for a while if you can t do that you have to take chances and do every effort to be with him especially if he loves you back.

It is hard. It's getting better. I'm pretty much ok with everything right now. School will be starting in a week, so my mind will be too busy to think about it much for a while. I'll be fine..

I hope so, I know what I'm saying is just theoritical but I'm sure you are stronger than that and don't worry if he loves you he will come back, just relax and do smth else .
wish you good luck.

I actually got ahold of him and we talked for quiet a while. We didn't talk about us but everything else. Kind of the way we do things when we are just glad to hear each others voice and not talk about our problems and feelings. We didn't talk about any negativities. Just how we will miss each other and how we will keep in touch and all

^Second that. If it were love, you wouldn't have to come on here and ask a bunch of people on the internet.

Do you guys think that it could be my depression getting to me? Maybe because he was pretty much the only person here i never quetioned trusting then he left. Insecurity that I'd hav nobody to trust anymore??

I could very well be. I think that you need to now find others to trust.

Finding others to trust around me is hard. Not only because I'm afraid to trust people but because the people around do nothing but talk about each other behind their backs and gossip.

And there is a good share of girls my age here that don't care for me....

Don't worry it's just tomporary you'll get over this feeling remember that you deserve the best!!!

I've gotten over it. At least I got over ther hard part.It still hurts sometimes but it a feeling i learned to m,ake myself ignore...

Amanda what do I do then. Can you give me any advice?

You are so right about that. Everyone keeps saying I'm too young to have problems like this. Maybe they're right. But I also think I'm too young to have depresson. That's just kind of the world we are all livin in though.

You sound alot like me and i know exactly how it is to live in a small town surrounded by drama and "friends" who lied or used you. once i got into high school tho things got better cuz then i was the young one. the younger the person typically the more the drama so i surrounded myself with upper classmen and realized that the people used to surround myself with were not who i wanted to be associated with. just get away from the drama, that will be one less thing you have to worry about and things will fall into place once you dont have to worry so much.

Well I'ma sophmore and I hang out with mostly guys. Well around here I hang out with a couple guys that are already out of high schol because they act mature, don't hit on my or try to mess around like most other guys and they don't care for that drama crap. It helps me to stay away from it.

Thats important. dont let any guy use you cuz your comfussed. you seem like a good person and i hope no one will change that

Thanks. I newver plan on letting a guy suse me. Of course it's never planned. The last guy I was with tried to use me and broke up with me when it didn't work. I didn't know what he was planning but his friends told me about it/.