Pretending love

Can you pretend that you love someone, while
you don t.
can you stay with them despite you don t really love them just because you fear loneliness.
can you be with a guy while you are in love with another and this one didn t take the first step but you feel that he loves you.

Okay yes you can pretend. But is it the right thing to do? No! You don't want to put a false sense of security out there for someone to fall into, and later on they may find out you didn't mean it.If you eouldn't like to be lied to about love, why would you lie to someone else about it? And yeah, agian you can stay with the person, but it isn't a good reason just because you fear loniness. There is virtually no lonliness. You have friends there, family too. So you are not completly lonely.

And agian, if you are really in love with another guy, why would you be with a guy who never even said that he loved you? Sure you can feel it, but feeling it isn't quite the same as hearing it. And hun, you contradicted yourself. Your scared of being lonely, but your with a guy, and completly in love with another. You not scared of being lonely, your scared of being alone. And you will be alone if you do not be up and front with tese two guys in your life.

Sorry, not trying to be mean or anything, I'm really not. But why would you let a guy waste his time on you, when you are soley in love with another?

Thank you for the trouble you ve taken to answer me,yes, you are completely right, I m confused a bit, in fact I was with a guy then we broke up then and now he wants me back, n while he was away I felt in love with another but this one didn t take the first step it s a kind of distant love, shall I return to my old flame or move on and try to be with the other guy.

Well if you still feel a connection with the other guy then go for him. Personally id rather be with a guy who knws he loves me. then a guy whod 'distantly' in love. oh by the way 'distantly' its just another word for lust. he dosen't love you if he dosent say it, or prove it to you in any way,shape, or form.

Oh boy, this is interesting.
You can pretend, granted its not the safest or best thing to do to someone, but in the end it is doable, and done too often.
About the lonliness, you arent alone, you just arent with what you want which makes you feel alone.
Hahaha now the last one is the tricky one for me anyways, yes you can do it. Lets just say I know what that ones like, yes, in love with one with one guy and not in love with the guy that loves you.

For me its different they both profess love, but one is willing to take me (and he happens to be the one i dont love) and the other wont do it.. God knows why..cuz i sure as heck dont. but in the end, it all ends up in hurt..

But now i have a question, pretending love is living a lie, so in the end, does the guy that you think loves you...just falling in love with a liE?

Yes, you are completely right he will probably live
a lie and we both won t be happy, it s complicated
because when you don t get the one that you love you lose hope and your life loses its gloss and becomes more and more gloomy.

I love that phrase, its complicated. it kinda symbolizes my life right now.
But dont worry hunni, we're in the same boat. i know..but there are things that can make your life just as enjoyable. maybe youll find that you dont honest to god love him, and that its jus a phase.

Thank you for your precious advice I will take them seriously I promise.
lots of love.

I have just read your answer Amanda thank you so much you've helped me to see things more clearly;
I agree on all what you've said,I'll give the whole matter a second thought.
concerning your question yes it's the same guy.
I've decided to get close to him as you all have told me I know it won't be easy!!!but I'll try.
XX