Depressed Boyfriend

I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months and I love him dearly. Only one problem right now. He seems depressed all the time. I ask him what's wrong and he tells me nothing. I can always tell when something is up with him. His mom is pregnant too but I try to help as much as I can. It just feels like he's holding something back. Like he can't open up with me. I've opened up so much with him and I feel like he doesn't trust me. Can anyone help me?

Tell him that he should be able to trust yout to be able to tell anything but like in nice words ya know cause hes your bf tell him that if you can open up that he should be able to do that too that a good relationship deals with communicating with each other and telling each other things that nobody else knows about you and have trust one falls the other will catch

^^I disagree. The worst thing you can do in a relationship is push someone to open up. The more you rag on them, the more they will want to push you away. Just let him know that you are always there for him. If he doesn't want to tell you, then that means her's not ready and he doesn't want to tell you. Yes a good relationship has good communication, but not even on desprate terms should you force it. Just give him the little things like hugs, comfort, etc. Whatever is bugging him, it is obviously someting that hurts him. What he needs is to know that he has someone there.

I don't think it has anything to do with trusting you, maybe he is just a little down and doesn't know what's bugging him or maybe he knows and he is not ready to discuss it. All you can do is let him know you have noticed the difference and tell him you are there when he is ready or if he needs to talk.

I agree with beautiful chaos,
dont be pushy
but let him know your there for him

This coming from a guy.. DO NOT PUSH HIM.

Honestly, there will be a reason he doesnt tell you. Maybe he doesnt want to burden you or whatever, but yeh. As is already mentioned, just let him know your there for him.

Also another thing girls tend to do, is if the guy isnt telling them whats going on, they stop asking BUT they tend to close themselves off to the guy. And that makes it even worse. Because if the guy is depressed, when he feels you cant trust him with your problems etc. then theres no way in hell hes telling his.

Just hang in there, and always be there for him. It will take one or two times of being there at the right time and him opening up for him to realize he can talk to you about things :)

Well... sometimes guys like to be alone when they have a problem, sometimes they like to solve it all alone, and show their gf that they can handle anything, no matter what it is... but still show him that you are there for him, coz guys like to know that their gf are there for them when they need them../ but dont push him to talk, just try to show him that you are there for him, and let him know that he doesnt have to talk and tell u , unless he is ready too... that wud show him that u care... ...\

him not talking to you, does not mean he doesnt trust you...

sometimes guys dont like to talk about their problems

Things just got worse. he wont talk to me at all now. i dont know what i did. hes avoiding me. hell get on im and ill say "hey baby" and hell sign off on me! whats the deal?

Never mind. He broke up with me.

I am sooo sorry dear. My PM box is always open if you need to talk.

Sweetie i know how you feel i really do, his just a guy. one that obvioulsy needs to open up to you. i wish i could help. even if you say to him 'maybe you should talk to a councilor'. i don't know, i know it hurts darl. if he loves you he will open up one day, sometimes you just have to wait a little. xoxo

Give him time if he wants to open up to you he will, there's nothing you can really do besides just letting him know that you're there for him if he ever needs someone to talk to or just an ear to listen.

Give him a surprise and make him smile:)

My suggestion:
Dont push him to open up, just let him know you are there....

Thats all i have to say...

Yeahh, those are the signs of hes gonna break it off. Depressed, wont talk, wont touch, you knoow..i should know ive done it...

(note this is my friend that is writing this not me)

I guess everything is ok now. We're back together but he still seems somewhat closed off.

Did he ever tell you why you 2 broke up in the first place?

( note this is not my friend anymore.)

Oh! come on...
YOU ARE NOT A TOY IN HIS HAND GIRL!!!!!!!!!
i dont know if i'm the only one seeing this or what but he is playing not loving!!
boys should not be allowed to break up a lot with the same girl, you shouldnt show him that he has the right to leave when he wants then come bk when he feels like it!!
do not show him you are cheap because you are not...
when he breaks up he must understand that he may lose u for real...but he knows he wont because u r allowing him to play with you...
i do not mean to be harsh but i have a feeling that after a few days u'll post "we broke up again" and that wont be nice! but you are responsible for this..
i understand that when u accept to reunite it's because u missed him and love him and want him so much...BUT still you should play tough to get once in a while...he must know and understand that you are something precious and definitly not his toy...

(note this is my Friend)

I agree with her, really now. course there always a chance it wont be the same duuh. like ive said before those are the fucking signs that hes gonna break it off and i wont be surprised that you guys break it off again. ive been in the same position, but uuh im your xbf//bf position. i mean things will be okay for a bit but he'll start thinking that its not the same, hes most prolly doing because he wants to make sure he done the right choice.

Trust is always a foundation in a relationship....
If he doesn't trust you, probably there's something wrong. Try to talk to him...and fixed everything...I think, that's the best thing that you can do

Hey. We've been talking. That's why I haven't been posting! But anyway, I told him that he shouldn't feel inclined to keep me clueless about what's going on. He agreed and he's trying a lot harder to keep me informed about what's going on outside of school. We both love each other so we're trying to keep this as friendly as possible. We're trying not to fight or argue.

Well i'm glasd to hear that I'm going to rub this in my friends face. she thinks that just because this happend to he means that its going to happen to everyone else so this is solid evedence. =) thank you

I hope everything will stay as it is now...

Thank you to everyone who gave me advice!! John and I are doing good. We're laughing a lot more and he's happier. Thank you!

Give him time..