My 'problem'

Ok so me and this guy have been 'talking' for almost a month now...and i dont know what to do...

heres my problem: we rarely talk.
he wont answer my txt messages or call back.he doesnt make a effor to call or txt either.
((it wasnt like that when we first started talking))

at school we have no classes together and i'll see him two times max between classes.but when we do see eachother he's incredibly sweet and charming..he holds my hand..gives me kisses..etc etc.
if i ask him to go somewhere with me..like walk me to the bus he'll do it...but ONLY if i ask him to.
he wont go out of his way to look for me..or to spend time together.

we usually spend fridays together because he has two jobs and they always schedule him for the weekends. i dnt mind except for the fact that...
he WONT talk to me...the whole weekend..until school monday ((if i go looking for him)) and we see eachother.

he says im all he thinks about..and that he's going to make it up to me.
but im just not convinced.
he says he's tired when he comes home from work and i completely understand that..
but if that WERE true..then he wouldnt be logged onto 'the space' all night.

idk what to do.if i call or txt to talk about it..he wont call/txt back.
...i really like him...and can tell he likes me to..
but..i just dont know.nothing turned out how i thought it would with him.nd im not really happy about having to go through this with him.i thought he would be different.

Try asking him why he doesnt txt or call back...
thats the only thing that i can say for now...

Well i did last night in a message... i was like: how come you never answer me back when i try to talk to you.
thats not cool.

nd he was like :im so sorry i just got your txt right now

i was like: right.

he never replied.
and we havent spoken since.

Mmm... What if he isn't interested in you, like you are in him... Let him call you, txt you and all... Let him look for you, show him that you are stronger than that, and deserve more respect... You have to draw the line to how much you can take

I can sympathize with you because I recently dealt with a situation like that. The guy was all into me at first. And then he just started ignoring me if I txt him or anything. When we see each other, he is charming and flirty. But as soon as he walks away, thats it. So I completely understand. I don't know exactly why they do it, but I think its some male flaw. Conversation is never really easy for them, and when they aren't there to see your reaction or control the situation, they just flat out don't like it. To the point that they will ignore you. The thing is though, do you really want to be with a guy that is uncomfortable talking to you? I understand that you really like him, but you also don't want to set yourself for a big heartache in the end. My suggestion: Ask him one day at school if you guys can talk privately after school somewhere. Then explain to him that you like him and would like to know where he stands. If he says he likes you too, then you can suggest that you guys talk a bit more and get to know each other better. And if he doesn't really give you a straight answer, then I am truely sorry, but it kinda seems like he is just jerking you around and maybe you would be better off finding a guy that is willing to talk to you. Nothing ruins a good relationship like lake of communication. But whatever happens, what ever your choice, I wish you the best of luck.

Some people honestly just don't like texting or talking on the phone. I don't know why, it's just one of those things. So I think you should ignore that and go by how he treats you in person. If you feel he doesn't want to be around you than maybe he doesn't. The only thing you can really do is ask him how he feels.

Try to keep this in mind though- if he's going to school and working two jobs than he probably doesn't have much spare time. I'm sure he has other friends that he wants to spend time with, or even just time by himself to relax. You need to talk to him, but make sure that you aren't being too clingy and try to empathize with his busy lifestyle.

^Or some guys are just stupid. lol and sometimes they don't even notice that you mind. It happens:) lol

I think that if he kisses you and holds your hand, then you are fine. You don't ask him to kiss you or hold your hand. He does it on his own because he truly cares about you:)

..idk. i just always thought if it was meant to be..a guy would 'go the extra mile' to win you over.

..maybe thats it..he knows he has me..nd thinks he doesnt have to try anymore...like i'll just be there for him no matter what.

btw-->>he still hasnt talked to me since school friday...i wrote him..saying it wasnt go to work out..but he hasnt even read my message

Wow... i think you've answered your own question several times. tell him that making up for one or two times isnt a big deal, making up for a whole relationship is pathetic. some things are understandable but at least talking should be a minimum.

..so he never talked to me after i said we should just be friends...

&&2 days ltr

i found out he had been talking to another girl.

no he holds her hand.
calls her.
txt her.
kisses her.

how do i know.?
i see them together everyday now.
&&she felt the need to tell my bestfriend.

>:[ !!!!!

Aw!!! i'm so sorry to hear that!!
what an ass hole!!
but i always look at things like that as a sign, things like not calling or texting back.. well i always assume its because they aren't interested or maybe even because they are on the phone with thier girl or around thier girl or something...
but hey, you learned from this i hope!?!?