He broke my heart again...</3

Well this summer me and this guy were dating but he had just broken with his X and they where together for 2 years, and his X lives in Ontario which is like 18 hours away from each other, but me and him live only 25 minutes away, i know distances shouldnt mather when ur in love but still... and he loves us both but his always scared to make the wrong decision, so everytime they broke up we start dating again, but everytime she begs him to go back with her he does and hurts me, but were like officially over now i think, but hopefully someday we'll get back together and he'll forget about her. Im so in love with him...
and his best friend, who is also one of my best friends told me that he had a crush on me, and like i dont really want to jump into anything, because their like really good friends and i just got heartbroken by the guy i loved and i think it would be awkard between everyone, but i keep getin the feeling i should atleast give him a chance with me since he really really likes me

Heyyyy, i read ur post and i think u shoud give the guy a try since he does like you but at the same time kinda of start loosely so u see if things could work or if ur still not over ur ex... but if ur ex always goes back to her and ur his 2nd choice then u should forget about him even if he swwettalks you no offence but you'l always be second best and u deserve better so find someone who puts u first in therre heart before anyone els<33

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I have to agree with the other posters.

Why would you ever want to be second best?

"he loves us both but his always scared to make the wrong decision, so everytime they broke up we start dating again, but everytime she begs him to go back with her he does and hurts me, but were like officially over now i think, but hopefully someday we'll get back together and he'll forget about her."

really? you shouldnt ever have to wait for someone to forget about someone to be with you. and being a back-up is probably lowering your self-esteem. and as far as his friend... id say as a rule of thumb dont date your x's friends it could destroy their friendship too.

Thanks for the advice everyone, and i i think i will take it slow for a while. my X's friend(who is also one of my best friend) also went out with one of my girlie friends, and I dont really want anyone to get hurt or to feel awkard.
everyone is telling me to kinda stay away from my X and they cant beleive that im still friends with him...but I am starting to really really like my X and my friend, and also starting to like this other guy i met not to long ago.But i think the only way i wouldnt hurt anybody would be to date the guy i met not to long ago?...

^^Yes, you should date this guy that you met not that long ago. I have to say I agree with everyone else. Going back to your ex isn't smart...he may tell you that he loves you but it's obvious that he's using you. I only know this because my best friend is in your shoes right now. She's in love with this one guy but he keeps breaking up with her for his ex who just happens to also be her friend so it always starts fights...if you were smart you'd stay away from him and not give him a second chance. There are plenty of other guys out there who will be willing to devote themselves 100% to you and not bonce back and fourth between two people. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped.

Alright ill take everyones advice, and broken hearts advice and ill try going out with the guy i met not to long ago, even though its gonna be hard to not think about my ex.
but like what if my ex was actually serious next time like what if he promises to never go back with her and love me forever?like if he was very serious about it?!?
so i will try going out with that guy i met to long ago, it would help.
thx everyone.

The best thing to do isn't always the easiest, believe me I know first hand how hard it is to get over someone you "think" you really love. Honestly the best thing for you to do is just get over your ex and try to give this new guy a chance. You never know this new guy could be someone really special if you just give him the opportunity to show you. Plus why would you want to keep running back to someone who's not even sure if you're what he wants, you don't deserve to be constantly thrown to the side everytime she begs him back. You need to realize your worth, you deserve more than that.