I need help

Ok well i really dont no wat to say. if people could bear with me and take the time to read this and write back it would meen so much to me.
well i am in germany on a school exchange at the moment i dont no what to think, i am 16 i come from new zealand and my girlfriend is also doing an exchange and lives about 150 kilometres from where i am. so heres the thing this weekend the 6/9/08 is going to be our second anniversary and i made plans and cleared them with my host family that she could come and visit me for 2 nights over the weekend of our anniversary and i was told it was ok. i then check if it was still ok and i was told she wasnt alowed to come any more, the problem is i was also questioned as if it was an interegation why i had chosen to do an exchange, i was then accused of only coming to germany to be with my girlfriend and that i was using them. just to clarify my exchange partner can speak english and so it was not a conflict of laungauge and i had told them the night before i had always wanted to do a school excange to germany but she was the one who encouraged me to and gave me the strength to follow my plan through. i love my girlfriend with my whole heart she meens the world to me and its such a change now having a long distance relationship because before in new zealand we are n the same school in the same class and i spend 7 hours a day with her and on the weekends she stays the night at my house on friday and i stay with her parents on saterday her parents like me and mine like her, i am just gutted because tonight i was lie to by my exchange and we have been good friend for the last 8 months and im on my second in germany not only was i lied to but i was questioned for useing him i was told by the host parents that maybe they arent the write family for me and i feel like im not welcome here and i might be sent home im so scared because i have been on school holidays for the last 8 weeks and i have my first day at school this monday and i dont no any one and i cant speak any german im homesick and now even my exchange wont help me im not allowed to visit my girlfriend on our anniversary and i feel lost i have no idea what to do any more i want to be here but dont have the support except my wonderful parents back in new zealand if any one has any sugestions or anything i am open to any thing

Hmmm....Did you explain to them you just wished to celebrate your anniversary together? The whole point behind asking is to get an honest answer from them and obviously their first answer was not really what they wished, so they should have just been upfront, instead of reversing it and guilty for no reason. I think all you can really do is discuss it maturely. Explain you think it is being blown out of proportion and you don't want the tension that has now risen between you. It might be hard to be away from your girlfriend, but these tests on your relationship are just par for the course. If you are really meant to last then it won't matter what distance separates you physically.

Yeah i agree that maybe you need to sit down and have a good and open talk with the family that you are staying with. explain to them and get them to understand things from your point of view. tell them how you are not using them but you are feeling home sick and all you want is to see the one you love for your anniversary.

explain to them how you don't want to case any controversy and you have always wanted to go to Germany but just explain things from your side and try to get them to understand your intentions and feelings.