Flirting Too Much?

So me and this guy named Chance have been dating for a little over a month now. Things have been going pretty smoothly. But.. there's just one thing that bugs me. Chance LOVES to flirt. With every one.

I am a junior in High School and he's a Freshman. We go to two different schools but are able to visit and hang out with one another every other weekend. I'm not going to lie, he looks great. There are a lot of girls that try to mess around with him and flirt with him all of the time. We will go to a store together and there'll be random girls coming up to him and telling him he's hot, etc. He texts 24/7. Tons of people. His friends and girls he knows from school.

The texting usually didn't bother me until last night. It was his first football game so he was gone all night. He finally called me at 11 pm. We were both tired but we tried to get some "us" time in. Every time I tried to start a conversation though, he'd start texting. It started to really bug me. Since it was late and every one was asleep, he couldn't put me on speaker. So if I tried saying something while he was texting he wouldn't hear me. So I just stayed quiet. Every time we'd get something started, I'd hear him pushing those damn buttons.

He was texting some girl. Apparently she texts him all of the time. Some senior from his school. 30 mins in I finally told him I was going and he kept saying sorry, he loved me, he'd call me tomorrow, and I finally got him to hang up.

I hung up pretty upset. I mean.. I hadn't talked to him all day and then he had to spend our entire conversation texting some other chick. I don't ask him who he texts, I don't tell him he can't, tell him what he can and can't do, but that bugged the hell out of me. I'm starting to think he just flirts too much. It makes girls like him even more than they already do. But he says when he flirts, he does it without realizing it. I dunno.. it's frustrating cause I'm a pretty jealous girl. I try not to be but it's really hard with him. Any advice?

Well it's only been a month and I'm pretty positive you don't love eachother, so why don't you just be honest with him and tell him that it's bothering you. Remind him that he isn't single anymore and the flirting and texting other girls has to stop. And if you don't really mind him texting that much then just tell him he can text, but when you two are together he's not allowed to be texting other girls, I think thats more than fair. If he can't stop doing that then just break up with him now because this is something thats only going to get worse as your relationship progresses if it doesn't stop now. Better to break up with him after a month when you just like him, then it is to have to do it after a year when you love him. Trust me.

Well, I'm sure you knew he was a flirt when you started dating. Some people just flirt, but you need to know that's all it is. Its not fair his "flirting" is getting into your personal time with him. You do need to talk to him about it if his flirting is to much, tell him to turn it down a notch or two and when you two are spending time together to take advantage of it and pay attention to you. Like I said, some people are just flirts, but you have to be sure that's all it is... He's young, he might have a big head from all the attention.

Well it's just plain rude to be on the phone with someone and be too busy texting to actually TALK to them. Hang up on him next time, see if he notices.

"Well it's just plain rude to be on the phone with someone and be too busy texting to actually TALK to them."

I agree completely. That is rude.

^^Agreed. Tell him how you feel. And the next time he does do that, hang up on him like the girl above me said. I agree with everyone here. What a jerk. You have every right to be irritated.

While you are sitting there trying to get some "you and him" time, he is sitting there txting god knows who and not even caring. That is rude and he deserves to know that. I am sure he will understand if he is any kind of a man. Ugh guys. lol

But one thing that you must always ask yourself is "who has him?" You do. You have your man. lol they can only wish they had him. And I'm sure it will stay that way for a very long time:)

I wouldn't worry too much. But I do think that you should talk to him about it. Just let him know that it hurts you when he texts when you are trying to talk to him. I hope I was help to you.

Thanks for the advice guys. Really, it means a lot.

Sooo.. we got on the phone again tonight. Actually he started texting me when I got off work. I said do NOT call me until you get people to leave you alone because I know you're talking to a bunch of other people too. Which was true. There was like 7 others. I wasn't lenient with him either when he would start texting while we talked. He hardly did it at all. I'm going to talk to him about the whole girls and flirting thing later but as for tonight I believe things went pretty smoothly.

And to the above poster, you're absolutely right. I AM the one that has him right now. But I know that in a split second that could change if Chance wanted to. He could have his pick out of the bunch of girls that are crazy about him. I guess knowing that intiminates me. So I get upset when he flirts with other girls. But I need to stop myself from that. He's mine and I know he wouldn't just leave me unless he had a valid reason to.

Thanks again, guys =)