My heart is more then broken or disfigured

I know what most of you will say but please i need to talk not have things said ok please.
me and my bf broke up, 2 years and a half we dated, i broke up with him because we forght so much. i totally regret it though i really do. i love him, love is just not the word really. it's been a month and i still have to fake a smile, i just want to forget. he doesn't want to be my friend because i had ago at 1 of his friend, who changed him and yeah now i don't even have a friendship with him. i know you'll say you just need time but time i don't have time, i need to be happy i need my heart to be mended if that could be possible. :( please help

"i had ago at 1 of his friend, who changed him"

He had to make the choice to change, even if you blame it on his friend, it is his choice. It has only been a month and you went out for 2 1/2 years of course you are still upset. If you need your heart to be mended, mend it by moving on and accepting what is.

Only time can heal your broken heart, just as only time can heal broken bones.

it sounds trite, but it's true. There is no magical fix. It's just gotta hurt until it doesn't anymore. Get lost in something. Maybe poetry. A song. Just do something to help pass the time. Get into a hobby, or read all the time.

I once dated a guy and I gave him my virginity and all that jazz. Well, he just up and left me. Didn't write or call me. It was as if WE never happened. You just don't instantly bounce back from that. I wrote in a diary everyday and cried often. But eventually I'd wrote all the hurt out and was just numb to it all basically. I took this same practice later with another guy except I burned the diary when I was done writing. Made me feel liberated. Like I was released from the pain.

There comes a time when the hurt becomes a habit. You were used to loving someone for so long that when you aren't supposed to anymore, it's like stretching a muscle that hasn't been used in years. It hurts and because you are unused to using that muscle, it continues to hurt for on and on because maybe you are focusing on the pain so much because you want to. Because though you are hurting, you know you can still feel. But eventually you've just got to let it go. Let it heal.

Thanks pplz. it helped alot, even tho ive tried most of ur answers. i don't know what to say......all i can say is THANKYOU. :P if anyone has any other advice do write plz. i'm usually the one giving advice but i guess we can all need help sometimes ay. lol

Well...IN MY OWN OPINION...believe me "forgetting him" completly is not even an option!!
you WILL always remember him...
and time heals nothing, BUT when we say move on...it somehow means get busy so that u wont think abt him...u'll stay somehow broken till u'll find new love...so my advice...stop trying to FORGET coz u wont, just try to remember the little sweet moments & by time it'll be a sweet memory u once had...tell urself everyday that life wont stop just cos we broke up...life moves on and so should you...meet new poeple make new friends...try to..."renew" ur old life...go out A LOT with ur friends have fun everday...u wanna be happy so be happy...and one day you WILL meet a better person and who knows u may live happily ever after...take care of yourself believe me its not the end of the world...search for ur own happiness...

Thankyou NoUr, i think thats te best advice ive had, u should feel proud haha. but keep em coming theres never enough advice. i love you all!!! hehe

You know, I really like the chorus in Leona Lewis' new song. "I'm gonna smile because I deserve to." Love that line.

Basically, we've all been where you are. You are going to be OK, just remember that. NoUr is right, it's not that time heals it. It just that time is all you have. Just remember that there are those that take the heart right out of you and then there are those that put it back.

Ino what you are all saying :D and i'm so happy right now all today i havent thought of him and i love that part of the song to its so true. u no what i think i'm cured.........for this week lol. i think its good to bcoz ive been going to NSW alot this week, i think getting away is the best thing lately xoxoxoxoxoxox love ya all so much, wat would i do with out cha LOL. mwah