I think i'm a lil paranoyed? i dunno how to start over!

So i was with this boy irv for 3.5 years.. he was far from a good boy!! and being with him so damn long, has really changed me.. and i got soo used to him fukin up all the time and having to snoop around to find the truth....
so now, when i start a new relationship with a new guy, i find myself getting awefully suspicious all the time! and i know i shouldn't treat a new guy like my old guy and bring in old issues to a new relationship but damn its hard!!
like, if my new guy doesn't text back, i'll assume its because he's on the phone with another girl or out drunk or something! i never think it's because he's in the shower, or sleeping or anything innocent!
or if he doesn't want to go to the movies one day, i'll think he's imbarrassed of me or doesn't want to be seen in public together...
how the hell do i get over this? i sound just crazy when i hear myself!

^Trying breaking the habit. I think you have some trust issues after your last relationship. And thats normal. It happens all the time.

^^Agreed, it also sounds like you have some self esteem issues as well. You just have to make the decision to trust again and believe you are worthy of a good and healthy relationship.

Like everyone else has said. Try breaking that habbit. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel and maybe what you had been through. Not everybody id the same. Learn to give new peole in your life a chance.

I know whow you feel i was betrayed by someone and it broke me in 2. There was so much betrayal that when a new relationship began it was really hard to trust but its something you have to get control of deep within yourself. You really gotta break that habit bc if you let a past relationship ruin this one its gonna ruin all your relationships like ciara says in her song so hard,"

One disappointment
One heart break
Too many mistakes in love I've made
I can't come with all this baggage,
Thinking he's gonna have it,
See I know I'm being selfish,
But I gotta let go
Close that chapter
Close that book,
Faith in love is all it ever took,
That's why I never gave up,
And I never gave in,
Cause I know true love is waiting for me again."

If you haven't heard it you should listen to it.

Thanks!!
yea i kno i gotta break the habbit!! its so damn hard tho!!
and yea, communication about this issue would probably help!!
i can't put this guy thru that kinda shit just b/c thats what i was used to with my x!