I just want her

So i have been on this site for a while and you guys give some great advice so i thought i would see what every one thinks i should do.
ok so i am a lesbian first off so that every one knows. me and my best friend dated for 2 years before we broke up yes we are best friends and we started dating which makes things wierd enough. we share a phone plan b/c we started it two years ago and i have never had any problems with it. we tell each other everything in our lifes i know more about her then her own family does. she shares secrets with me that she would never tell any one. the problem is i am still in love with this girl we have been friends for 3 years i have never had someone know me this well. she wants to be with me well part of her does she tells me that she can not take the distance (i am in the military and i am stationed in san diego she is in milwaukee.) she dates and dates and i am there for her and when i think she is in a bad situation i tell her to get out but i tell her that no matter what her happiness is the most important think in the world to me. she knows it is. i pick up the pieces of her heart when it gets broken like a true friend should do. we still say i love you to each other. i dont know what to do i really believe it is meant to be but i don't know what to do to make her see it. i have done nothing but love her for 3 years and she knows it she thinks i deserve better but the truth is she is the best not just lover but she is my best friend the person i could tell anything to and never worry about not talking to me again. i don't know what i should do please someone tell me something.

krysten

^i agree.

I know you love her, and I'm sure she loves you. But is distance really the problem? You can't be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. You two are close friends, and I'm sure she is afraid of hurting you, herself, and your relationship. But you have to ask, if you were home would she act the same way? She says she can't handle the distance but would she be able to handle it if you two lived in the same city? I'm not saying she doesnt want to be with you, but she does seem to have commitment issues. Would you want to go through all her problems physically there? Its harder to handle in person knowing its not you she's crying for. But I agree with the previous post, time tells all. Give her time, she should come around if her and your love is true. Who would want to lose that?

Distance should never be a problem i am dating my bestfriend too but he lives in a totally different city from me.. An hour in a half away.. if you put your heart to it, it will work.. i was afraid to get into this relationship b\c we are best friends and have known each other for 16 years.. but we decided to try it and we are so happy... i love him and he loves me.. Girl dont let distance be a problem for you and your love.. make it work.. ima send you a private message

One of the common problems of today's world: our bodies can't keep up with the distance our own lives can place between us. There's love that connects so much and then there's the so much more that we can't get by without. Bi, lesbian, gay, or straight, we all have needs. You need a friend to be more than a friend. What's left is just the weighing of needs verses the values that stands in the way of desires. Good luck :)