Please help!!

  • FaithHopeNLove
    16 years ago

    I broke up with my ex more then a year ago. And I havn't been with a guy since cuz I didn't like anyone enough. Now I found this great guy who's cute and charming, fun and outgoing, and who seemed interested in me. We were getting along well, until it came up that I used to drink. Now he is disappointed in me and doesn't really want to talk to me. I don't know what to do. Its in the past, and I told him that. So should I try to work things out or just let him go. I really like him, but if he can't accept me for who I am (I made a mistake, yes, and I regret it, but I also learned from it and am a better person now), then maybe he isn't worth my time. I don't know what to do. I am so confused.....please help. Ideas, comments,.... anyone?

  • Mimi Angel
    16 years ago

    I think if you really want to be with this guy you have to work things out urgently;you have to decide whether you want him or not in the positive case you have to solve this problem.
    you've said you've changed that's a good point so you have to take the right path and you must make him understand that you'll never drink again;that you are fully aware of what you did but it's no longer important because it belongs to the past now
    it's finished;forgotten:)
    I think if your guy can't understand that then you have to move on and forget about him and remember if we do really love someone we can forgive them and forget their mistakes; after all err is human.
    so talk openly to your guy then decide what to do.

  • NoUr
    16 years ago

    He should accept u for who u are, Talk to him, tell him exactly what u wrote between the brackets ^^, he'll take time, maybe he saw you this perfect girl who did nothing wrong! so ofcourse he'll take time, dont let go NOW, talk with him, if he's looking for a "perfect" girl he should realize there r no such girls!! we're human not angels...

  • Jaime
    16 years ago

    Honestly, I think he's over-reacting. Even after you discount the fact that more people than not drink underage, and it rarely even fazes people anymore, it's not like you still do it. Everyone makes mistakes, it's part of growing up. Tell him to chill. If he can't get over it, then that's his problem not yours.

  • FaithHopeNLove
    16 years ago

    Thanks so much for the advice! I did talk to him. I explained to him why I turned to drinking in the first place (I had a lot of problems and I thought my sister was dying) and he kinda blew me off for a bit. But in the morning I told him that I was just being honest about my past. Nothing had to change. Cuz I am still the same girl I was when we met. The past has made me who I am today. He thought that was a good point and decided to overlook it. So far, things look good again. And we have a date later today that I am looking forward too. Thanks again for the advice!

  • megan
    16 years ago

    Explain to him what you just told us, if he still doesn't get it, then he doesn't matter