Beating.

My boyfriend goes to a different school than me. Before we started dating, he told me how his life was a wreck. My first thought was, 'everyones life is.' but his is worse.

Just yesterday he told me he was walking down the hallway, to go to his next class, and someone he had no idea of punched him right in the face. Out of no where, just punched him. His friend told me he flew across the hall, and was knocked out cold. Later on in the day, i got a text in school saying "I'm in the hospital." My immediate reaction was, 'holy crap, what is going on. i need to know.'

So he texted me 3 hours after, i get another text saying he broke his nose. He told me his story, i was shocked. He later that night told me that he got a cat scan, saying that it wasnt very good. The results came back as he might have something wrong with his brain.

So had he another cat scan today, saying that he has 4 to 6 years until he reaches his capacity. I don't know what to do. I want to be there for him, and i always will be, but i dont know what to say to him. I keep telling him everything will be okay, but he wont listen. I'm trying so hard to support him, but its so hard. The only thing he thinks about is all the bad things in his life.

He had nothing to do with it. He wont do anything about it either. Hes been beat up about a billion times now, and wont say anything. He doesn't deserve this, he doesn't. I just wish i knew how to support him more.

I don't know if your religious or not but my advise.... Pray

I know you are supporting him and everything but you really need to tell him that HE needs to tell someone about these beatings because it isn't fair on him having to deal with these kind of things. Tell him that you really care for him and you want to be there for him but in order to do that he has to do something about it too. Tell him also to stop looking at the negatives him his life and try to focus on the positives. Many people have horrid lives and no one should have to deal with it..but they do in any case. :)
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I know, his parents figured out..
but i mean, he still wont say anything.
he wont fight back, hes too nice.

i've told him about everything i could say.
Every positive thing.

I haven't been in your situation, but I have been and still am in a similar one and I know the feeling of being usless and not being able to take his pain away no matter what you do. It's the hardest thing to watch someone you love hurt and know you can't do anything to stop it.
But all I can tell you is you have to put up with him at his worst to get him at his best. So hold on..things will get better in time hopefully. All you can do is be supportive 100% of the time.

Thanks Viola :]

Its the worst feeling in the entire world. I just wish i new every answer to his question, i wish i knew why it was him and no one else. I keep telling him that i'm not going to let him give up. So many people care about him, and i told him i'm not giving up on him. Its just not right..i'm still shocked.

What?

I agree 100% with Viola.

Just be there for him. Listen if he needs you to listen, advice if he needs advice. Or just someone there for comfort.

Tell him to transfer school, at least he wouldn't be bullied or smth anymore.

About the remaining years in his life, Idk. I could just say the same thing as the first commentor has said: Pray.

xxx.

If your talking about a cat scan do you mean mental capacity?? if so i mean hes better of than alot of people in that situation but as far as him being hurt physically, tell someone, yes he may be upset at first, but he will appreciate it in the long run.

Sweetheart you have to pray and just give him a shoulder to cry on and a hug. Maybe he will listen to you if you jsut let him know you will always be there

Please watch your language. Thanks Amanda

I agree that a catscan can not tell how long you are going 2 live. i don't now if this will help you in anyway but i think you should know this, my mom has had a long battle cancer, chrones disease, an unsuccessful spinal fusion and various other operations which have only resulted to more issues anyway the docter said my mom was going 2 die however, she is still alive, healthy and living her life to the fullest!!!!

i use 2 get beaten up in my old school but that was because i was hanging out with the wrong crowd who got me into drugs and just caused so many other issues in my life so when i stopped hanging out with them they thought i was going 2 black mail them about all the things they had done and so they would follow me when i was walking home and beat me up in the streets, at school and basically anywhere they had the chance 2.

the thing is that you need 2 talk to someone about it but to be totally honest the best thing 2 do is move schools, i did that almost 4 years ago and i can tell you that my life has been so much better and i am now in a way better environment.

no one ever deserves to go through that and you should know you are being an amazing and supportive girlfriend by creating this discussion and by doing this you really are seeking help. i really wish you and your boyfriend the best and hope that things get better. i will have you in my thoughts.

take care and hang in there, things will get better for you it just takes time and perseverance.

Yeah, the whole cat scan thing is a lie. I just asked my cousin, who is a nurse, and she said, Cat scans can only tell you what could be wrong with your brain, from there the doctors may be able to estimate your life span depending on whether you have a large tumor, brain damage, etc. But that is just an estimate, and have, like in the last commenter's situation, been wrong. You never know. Life's odd that way. I'm sorry your in that position, its hard, i know. To watch someone you care for in pain and to know you cant help them. But just let him know your there, and that you love him. Thats all you really can do. And you may not know it, but that can be the thing hes looking for. He might just need someone to be there for him, and not judge him.

Thanks guys. Well, they told him like how long until they thought about like the consquences. But they offered him lazer surgery. So he did, and it went well. But the beating still isn't getting any better. But hes starting to tell his parents and people are actually realizing this. The distance is killing me, cause i can't help him like an everyday person can. But i'm trying m best.

Thanks for all your advice and support. Its meant a lot, really. xoxo

Well they really have to get him away from those guys that beat him up, i mean i know its an awful thought but i highly doubt the people who love him would want 2 be left with the questions what if and if only, because bullies never really stop and usually it only gets worse. i mean this must have been hard enough.