Trouble trouble trouble....

Ok i dated this guy when i was 14. my dad didnt like him and made us break up. Now i am 16 and he is 19...and we are back together...just behind my dad's back...my dad would kill me if he knew. but i love this guy with all of my heart and he does everything that he can for me. and i know that what we have is real...but i am concerned about my dad finding out and making us break up again...what should i do? please help me out with this one...i dont know what to do... :(

Your dad must have a reason for disliking him.

Well...my dad dislikes him because i gave my virginity to the guy when i was 14. and i completely understand that...but he doesnt know how i feel about my boyfriend...i just wish that he would see from my point of view for once....

And you should see it from his view.

I don't know any father who would tolerate any guy that took his baby girl's virginity when she was just fourteen. If I had a kid, and they told me that they were having sex at that young I'd choke, too. You're living under his roof--but that doesn't mean he can protect you outside of that house, and that's what he's trying to do. Try and understand that.

If you're going to date, at least be up front about it because when he finds out (and trust me, they ALWAYS find out sooner or later) that you've been keeping something like this from him, you're going to lose your father's trust.

Frankly, I don't see how any parent could keep you from dating someone or break you up--but sneaking around isn't going to do you any good and will just bite you in the arse in the long run.

..__MiNDYY

Well...it is just that i love him and all...i dont want to lose him....that would tear me apart if that happened....:(

I think that you should listen to your dad. I was dealing with this same thing... it came out to be that my dad was right about this guy all along, like I was blinded somehow. of course, your dad could be different then mine. is he just extremely over protective? well, if nothing else, at least tell your father the truth, i doesn't do any good to keep things from your parents, especially if you are close to them... I know this from experience

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Just from you saying how you lost your virginity to your boy friend at the age of 14, is more than an enough reason for your dad to try and keep you from him. Try to see it from his point of view, you're his daughter, his love and his pride. You might think he doesn't understand how you feel about that guy is the reason why he's keeping you from him. Truth is i bet he understands more than you think.
I'm positive he doesn't want you heart broken by keeping you from him, you might think you dad doesn't even know him right? that's my point. Your dad DOESN'T know him, all he's got on him is that he took your virginity, not a very good impression is it? I think your dad would rather you get through this phase of a broken heart now because he can protect you, rather than see you get your heart broken later by that guy. You might think now he would never do that to you, but it happens whether you see it coming or not.

Yea actually I think your title of this post fits well because if your dad finds out, you can bet your butt there will be trouble. He sounds like a good dad. That means he's caring and he doesn't want you dating a deadbeat.

I absolutly and completely agree with That one guy. You know the answer to this and you know its wrong. For me, family comes first no matter what. I say your dad probably has a good reason for disliking him.

Do you have any idea how many people on this site "know" they are "in love?" Many many people on this site. Some are, some aren't. I'm guessing you are one of them because you sound immature. Sorry but theres some maturing that needs to happen. I think you should start with listening to your family and hearing what they have to say. Heres a crazy idea...your dad might just be right about him.