Councelling - Good or bad?

Im about to start get councelling for the second time

the last time i went I didnt find it helpful n the person made me feel so rubbish
So i dont know whether this is gunna help me or not
So i was wonderin whether councellin has helped anyone alot or had the same thing as me?

Whats your experiance?
Did it help?

I absolutely HATE councilors. Dispise them with a passion. I've been to one councilor and a psyciatrist. Neither one helped me. Personally I think they are just there for the money and don't really care what you have to say or anything. But that's just my own personal opinion.

In like, two days I'm supposed to be going to ANOTHER councilor. But as I told my mother already, I don't need one. But oh well. It's either that or the psyhc ward. So I don't know. I'm kind of stuck. But I hope all goes well for you.

Ive been to one
I wanted to change but she was saying i had no reason to be depressed n should get over it which just made me feel like she thought i was just wasting her time

First every counselor is different and you can't judge the many by the few. A psychiatrist really isn't there to listen and solve your problems, they are for those who need to be medicated. I had to go through a few counselors before I actually found one I like.

We also can't forget, we like to sabotage ourselves, as Amanda said, you have to go in with a positive attitude. If you end up not liking them, try another.

A good counselor will not point out your faults, they will make you see what needs to be changed and try to give you helpful pointers to get you going in that direction, but you are the one who has to do the real work.

Personally, I've never thought counselling works.

But sometimes you have to find the right person who you feel comfortable with.

I believe it depends on the counselor honestly and how well you two connect. Some people are better by speaking through their problems while some are better through showing emotion in projects or such so if your concelor chooses the wrong method then it can effect your experience. I used to have to go atleast once a week to a professional and check in with my school conselor almost daily (I was on suicide watch) and while my school conselor was a great help, my other was not. The difference in my situation was at the school she encouraged me to talk things through, the other had my write things down, color or build things. so it all depends on you, your concelor and how you express yourself better.
best of luck to you

Well I have a counselor but she's also one of my best friends. Yea that sounds weird but she was my moms best friend. And she's just the coolest person that you could ever meet. And well she's not like regular conselors. ANd she's one of the things keeping me alive at the moment. So hey shes really cool!!!!! lol

Also did u find it was better wen you a had a councellor of the same sex?

"What the Beep does sex have to do with anything?"
-Actually it has alot to do with it... I went to counseling and due to my history, i didnt want to see a male therapist. I felt much comfortable with a female therapist.
But they only help, if you want to be helped...
It helped me alot... I couldnt see myself telling my family or friends how i felt... they would think i was crazy... But it worked out really well...
I am glad that I was able to talk to someone...
I did receive alot of help from my family and from a couple of friends...
I still go once in awhile... and it has helped me alot.

Please watch the language... thanks ~~Sher

Well i have battled anorexia, drug addiction, and am still battling bulimia. i had a hard time growing up because i come from a really broken home, the majority of my family died before i was born and then a lot more died when i was very young. the ones that are still alive don't really consider me as part of their family and so because of all the loss and issues i have had i saw so many counselors as a child and none of them helped me in any way at all to be honest.

however i am now seeing a new psychologist, who was my same psychologist from the rehab which i went to and she is amazing!! she has seriously helped me through so much. you just have 2 have an open state of mind because the thing is that so many people are just so negative towards the idea which is why it wont help them. counseling has really helped me so much and i really hope it can help you 2.

people may try and run it down but the thing is that people who actually go for counseling are the ones who acknowledge they need assistance in coping with a certain situation. i wish you all the best

I agree with Amanda...
THANKS for making all those good points...

So it does help.... but only if you approach it with a good attitude?

Well I mean that if you approach it with a negative attitude saying "this sucks and is not going 2 help me" then you are totally blocking it off and so no it more than likely wouldn't help but if you approach it open minded then I am sure that if you see the right counselor it will help you.

I use 2 be so anti it and found it so useless but that was because i was seeing the wrong counselor and i was just so negative and would never actually talk about my issues so it really didn't help but now that i am seeing the right person its great, i absolutely love her 2 bits, she has helped me through so much and so i really hope that the same can happen for you

Counselors aren't there to solve all your problems, they are there to assist you in terms of coping with your issues and helping you find ways to deal with various situations.

it is very true that healing starts with yourself and being honest with yourself. you need to become honest with yourself about what it is exactly that you wanna see yourself achieving by speaking 2 the psychologist, it helped me a lot to set myself goals.

"So it does help.... but only if you approach it with a good attitude?"

If you go to a contest and one person comes in with confidence & another person comes in thinking "oh wow, look at them.. they have this or that and I dont. How am I supposed to beat that??"
who do you think would win that contest?? the person who is doubtful wouldnt give it their all because they have already got it in their mind that they can't do it. It's the same with councelling. If you go into it thinking "this person doesnt know what I've been through, they can't help me." Then your right, they can't cuz you wont let them. You have to go in with an open mind otherwise they can't see whats happening or whats wrong.

Councelling annoys me. I remember I went in for councelling once and the lady stared at me the whole time and it really agitated me...and when I cried she just blankly looked at me and smiled?? what the? how can you possibly be so expressionless when someone is pouring their heart and soul out on the table to some random and their just smiling back? I mean its ok that they are happy that the person is opening themselves but srsly?!! what?!!?! ...anyway the point is : it didnt work... and Idunno i still go by the theory
"You can only help yourself" in this sort of thing

But you must realize that not all coucellors are the same. Just because one person wasn't right doesn't mean there's not someone who is.

Yeah i agree, i mean i remember my first counselor . i was like 6 when i started seeing her and all i ever did was play with the fun toys in her room. we never actually spoke about anything which didn't exactly help, well the next woman was a complete joke, she showed me a cartoon of monkeys in a tree house and said how does that remind me of my family, the 3rd was this arb old man who looked as if he was about 2 die of old age during our session. anyway all we spoke about is movies which really did not solve any issues. but then i started seeing the same psychologist i saw when i was in rehab and i actually totally opened up 2 her. she has helped me so so much, i am so glad that i go 2 her.

The high school counselor has really helped me the past 2 years, but now my mom and dad are making me go to a real shrink. I'm pretty afraid cuz I went to one before and she didn't really help me so I stopped, but now my parents are making me go.

I think some of them want to help you and stuff but others are just there for the money. And it does also depend on how open you are to the situation.

In myself don't like councilors. I went to one who was always just... happy. I know, thats the point when your depressed but she was so peppy that it scared me and I hated going. I tried another one but I just found no use in going to the councilor. I do believe though, for some people councilors can work wonders. I've seen councilors help my friends greatly, but for me personally, I don't like them.

Thanks for the respons guys
If anyone else has a view feel free to share!

I HATED couselling (sp?). I was forced to attend counselling alot when I was really young and usually ended up getting extremely frustrated because of my inability to express exactly what I felt with someone whom I didn't know, and didn't feel obligated to answer to.

Personally, I didn't (and still don't) like it at all. I find that every counsellor I've been too (and I've been to several), tends to expect me to be able to explain dry cut what I feel is wrong, and I just can't do that, especially with someone I don't know. So yeah, there's my experience.

Maybe they'll be helpful for you, it depends from person to person I guess.

AMANDA - "I went to couseling for depression and past problems. However I went in as closed as a clam. I had a messed up view of going to counselling thinking it was bad and thinking that I was ashamed of it."

^that is exactly what i was like. (excuse the language please)i bullsh!ted my way through councling<SP> for 3 months before i even started to trust her, after that first connection with her it was easy - ish for me to talk about things close to my head and heart.

i had 1 counclor<SP>before the lady i have now and i think because he was male i couldnt talk to him, felt uneasy all the time, but i think that had something to do with my past and not being able to trust anyone especially men.

but the 1 i have now is great, she has helped me through so many oof my issues and put it this way, if she had of asked me on our first meeting that i would achive what i had of then i would of laughed in her face! i never thought id come this far and i have, im just realising that now, - i have come a very long way.not cured yet but on the road to, think i will call her tomorrow as havnt spoken in a while.

but yeah, its all about being open, and willing to try and help yourself, you have to admit that there is something wrong first though, seek help for yourself not because someone wants you to or has ordered you to, talking through your issues wont fix your problems in the first session its about trust and a willing to comit to the help given, like they have said up there ^ its YOU who does the work, they just guid you back to the path you slipped off.

PEACE & LOVE
I.B.E
XXX

Thanks =)

It helps and same tym it hurts,,
so its fair good and bad

Yah,,but the truth hurts ryt?
so if you wish not to hurt someone so its almost same as not telling the truth?lol
just my opinion

But what would hurt more? If someone neglected to tell you the truth and you ended up hurt because of it or to face the truth being told to you? And it'd be easier to take it from someone who doesn't know you personally because, well it wouldn't personal would it.

Ive had 4 different ones in 2 years as i go to a place where people going into that field go to finish up their degree, but i really like councelling. i go every tuesday at 4. and it really has helped me a lot

i used to have a couple different ones i HATED. and they just made me worse if anything.

you need to find one that actually understands you...

I got counceling... I nvr really opened up... just talked about little things... but even that helped... Mine treated me like she would a friend. she talked bout how she related and how my feelings were normal... i think it could help. but just dont get ones that r like old and creepy and make you feel cornered... they dont help at all

Ok

so you have to approach them with a gd attitude
be prepared to talk to them (even if onli a little)

and dont get an old creept one that makes you feel cornered :P

Thanks =)
This has reali helped
But feel free to add something if there is something someon hasnt already sed!

Councilors annoy the hell outta me after going to a councilors wen i was lil bcuz of sumthin and i told em everything...tht we promised not to tell my mom...and ended up spillin the beans lik the next day.....dnt trust em...not at all

^^ no no..i didn't even know why i was there in the first places..it was nothing serious, like I will kill myself or something. I merely expressed that I missed my parents and how they use to act. I had no intent or harming myself or others.

I didn't know I was there until the lady told me that my parents thought that something was wrong with me and she promised that she wouldn't say anything and I trusted her enough to tell my small secrets. They weren't even important..and she just told everything to my mother like gossip.....