One Simple Text

I've been dating a guy named Josh. I have to admit, he is one of the sweetest people I have EVER met! He's so good to me, treats me better than any guy ever has, and I love him. I even trusted him with my entire heart, until...

The other day he sent me a picture text. It was of a really beautiful pink flower. The text read,"This is for you. I miss you and I love you." I thought it was so sweet and even put the picture has my background. I usually keep my favorite texts and that was one of them. Well, I was going through texts.. seeing which ones I should keep and delete, when I stumbled upon that one again. When I pressed back, it had another number attached to it. It made me so sick to my stomach. I had no idea what to think. I stopped talking to him for the rest of the night.. even had dreams about it. Nonstop worrying.

I keep thinking to myself, is he talking to some other girl like that? What's going on? I mentioned it to him and he just said that it was his little brother who's 12. I mean, yes, him and his brother are very close. And they don't live with each other, so I know he doesn't see him a lot. But does that really match up? I'm not sure what to think anymore..

I've been worrying myself sick about it ever since. Thought about texting or calling them, but I'm too afraid to. I couldn't imagine him cheating on me with a girl from our school. Cause we're ALWAYS together. Everyone sees us hugging and kissing, holding hands, stuff like that. I thought that it might be a girl from his old school (since he's new this year) but I dunno.. his background on his phone is my picture and my number in his phone is,"!!My Boo!!"

Any thoughts on the matter?

"I've been dating a guy named Josh. I have to admit, he is one of the sweetest people I have EVER met! He's so good to me, treats me better than any guy ever has, and I love him. I even trusted him with my entire heart..."

^ Wow, daja vu! My boyfriends name is Josh &, well, I couldn't have described him any differently! You took the words right out of my mouth!

Depending how long you've been with him. If it HAS been a long time & he hasn't done anything in the past to cause you any mistrust in him then you should believe him. Maybe it was his little brother, it only takes a minute to send a text & any minute his little brother happens to be around. He's also 12, who knows with kids let alone boys! If you HAVEN'T been with him very long or he has caused you to mistrust him then you should be be weary. Don't be too quick to assume but take care of yourself & if he is cheating, in some way, the evidence will show soon. Like I said it depends how long you've been together. (At first I figured that you two have been together for a while by the description I was admiring earlier, but then I remembered that some people give away their hearts too soon.) So, correct me please on how long it has been, it will help lol. :)

Call the number, you don't have to talk, just see who answers. or voicemail, whichever. itll put your mind at ease. relationships are all about trust

Exactly, TRUST. First off, why are you going through his phone?? I'm not saying that's right of him to have that but calling that number isnt too trusting either. You've been with him for so long and he's so perfect then why would he lie to you?

Look you need to trust this guy. if he has never given you a reason to not believe him then you should trust him with all of your heart. to me it is not nothing to worry about. girls sned my boyfriend stuff like that all of the time. but i know that he loves me and i know that it is just a friendly text. he has never cheated on me and whenever we are together he treats me the same. just trust the guy.

Im sorry but you guys can not keep telling her to trust her boyfriend, don't you think thats a little niave?? yes he might have been sending it to another girl, thats something thats very possible. Mainly more than anything you have to ready yourself for anything... call the number, see who it is, and if it gets back to him explain that you wanted to make sure you could trust him. I don't know you at all but I really don't want to see you get hurt either... you can't trust everyone, and you have to remember sometimes people aren't what they seem I can't tell you what to do, just remember if you don't want the honest answer, don't ask the question... By not believing him you might get hurt, is that something your ready for??

If she went through her own phone how does she know he sent the same message to another person? Your phone wouldnt show that. And to the person above me (forgot who sorry) I know I wasn't saying to trust him, and I think a few were saying the same as me, there must have been a reason she was going through his phone, and my question is; If he's so perfect for you why are you going through his phone? Relationships are built on trust and honesty if you don't trust him and go through his stuff and if you two can't be honest and faithful to eachother why are you together?? As you said he has a younger brother, yes it could be him it could be a chic, if you call the number and his little brother's mom answered or one of his friends who had the phone you'd hear a girl and get made when it could of been his brother or his brother could answer and tell your boyfriend so he'll get pissed since you didn't trust him. We don't know you, we don't know your boyfriend or what kind of person he is. Only you do so only you can make the decision. But honestly, what are you going to do if you end up with the guy?? Check his phone email or whatever every single day?? What kind of life or relationship is that? Either trust him or leave him, it's that simple

Well, according to your profile, you've been dating since the middle of last month. so i guess only you can be the judge of this. if he says its his brother, do you believe him? if not....well maybe it's best to break it off now. call the number and see who it is if you want.

if you believe him though, stop thinking about it so much..

The text was of a really beautiful pink flower. The message attached to it said,"This is for you. I miss and love you." It wasn't a forward text because he took the picture on his phone himself.

I didn't go through his phone, guys. He sent that to me in a text and I pressed back and I could see all of the numbers he sent it to, and there was mine and another number attached to it.

I have gone through his phone whenever he was at my house, however. But not because I was wanting to see who he was talking to. I was just bored and looking at his pictures and whatnot. I wasn't like, reading all of his texts or going through all the numbers in his phone. I do have more respect than that. He takes my phone sometimes too and will text my friends that he knows. It's no big deal.

I did talk to him about the text again, though. I just wanted some reassure and told him about how much it was bothering me. He said it upsetted him that I thought something was up but he said the reason why he sent something like that to his brother was because he was in Colorado visiting his dad (they have different dad's).

So I feel a lot better about it now. There really hasn't been any other reason for me to not trust him. There are people at school that have been trying to cause problems between us though. Like his ex-girlfriend is mad that he got together with me instead of getting back with her when they broke up so she is spreading lies around the school. Like that he lost his virginity to her, he flirts with so many girls when I'm not around, he is such a horrible guy, etc etc. And you know how rumors are, they get around and every one ends up believing it. But I'm a little smarter than that.

Then ask yourself why you questioned it

I hate it when we have to go through thinking that and feeling it being so afraid that what we are thinking may be true but have no real way to find out because of course most guys if it is true won't tell you the truth they will just lie.

That is so sweet how you met him and how he is with you. I have the sweetest guy ever I have been with him for 1 year 4 months and 11 days a long time.

But even once I have had a thought. One time his best friend Shawn came to me and told me that Lance (My boyfriend) that lance and this girl Remi in his french class were passing notes back and fourth and that Remi said that was fun this weekend hanging out and stuff only we should do it again and you leave Brooke at home...I would of made out with you if she wasn't there and he said if I didn't have a girlfriend I would of too...and they kept on passing back and fourth...well I told him about it...

and all he said was oh I said I would never do it and blah blah that I don't want to talk about that cuz I am with brooke and will be forever...then a little bit later he changed the story...then I wrote her a long email telling her that if she didn't stop that she would have to fell bad about breaking lance's hear because I would break it off cuz I don't want to be hurt because of her.

It never happend and lance and remi never hung out again and he moved with my family and I to Texas but still to this day I still have not got the full out truth but I would rather not know it I just dropped it.

But anyways about you...Yeah that would be hard to tell since everyone know's you guys are together and you show it really well for what it says...I don't know if it would work

but maybe just you and him should sit down and really talk about it and maybe you guys can get it fixed and all better.

Wow... see, something like that would have really bothered me too. So I don't blame you.

But then again, people can say anything they want. That guy could have just been trying to start stuff, maybe he was upset with your boyfriend? Has a thing for you? Or maybe he just misread the letter and thought it said something it actually didn't. So many possibilities.

Thanks for the story though, sweet heart. It really does make me feel a little better about my situation. Because I know you two had that rough patch in your relationship, but you over-came it and have managed to stay together for awhile now. It's very sweet =)