Am I being selfish?

My boyfriend recently told me that he has feelings for another girl, the next day he broke up with me, but we got back together, and the girl he has feelings for has been flirting with him since we started dating and she recently told him that she has feelings for him. Am I being selfish for asking him to stay with me? should I let him leave me and go explore his feelings? I cant just let him go, I love him to much. what do I do??

He broke up with you for her and now they still have something going on, even if it is not physical, why would you want to be someones second thought? Get some self confidence and don't doom yourself to pine over someone who doesn't feel the same way you do.

He broke up with me because he didnt want to hurt me.

He broke up with you, which hurts you, because he didn't want to hurt you?

I know I was just as confused as you are. But hes scared that he'll end up cheating on me, but hes not the cheating type. I don't think he'd be able to cheat on me...hes to good of a guy

So instead of cheating he will just break up with you and then get back with you when he has gotten it out of his system?

I dont know if he'd get back together with me.

Lol you did get back together.

The bottom line is this, if he actually cares about you he won't cheat and he won't dump you to go after someone else. And if he does, you should have enough confidence in yourself to move on and realize you deserve someone who is going to appreciate you and the love you have to share.

Break up with him. now. thats rediculous.

Why would you want to be with someone who has feelings for someone else? I understand you have feelings for him but you're trampling on them yourself by staying with him.
He has feelings for her, and he just doesn't want to hurt you. Dump him, and find someone who's with you because they feel the same way about you.
Just because the dude can't respect your feelings, doesn't mean you should neglect yours yourself.

Don't let this boy play around you like that!!
Like the person above me said, why would you even want to be with a guy that wants someone else and is willing to ditch you in a heartbeat for someone else?

Really, babe. Have a little bit more respect for yourself and leave this guy. There are SOOOO many others out there better for you. You don't deserve trash like that. You deserve love and respect, not some a-hole that flirts around with other girls while he's with you.

I know it seems like love and all that, but really, you'll look back later if you do end it now and realize how much of a smart decision it was.

We offically ended it and he chose her...and its the most painful thing ive ever experienced...which is saying alot....

I don't get it, why do you invest so much and are care so much for someone who obviously doesnt return those same feelings?? Don't care about those who don't care about you.