My First Love

  • Jackie Bilson
    19 years ago

    Ok. First of all don't just come right up and say I love you. That's a little desperate and a little bit too on the stalker side.

    Did she just break up with this guy? Cuz if she did, don't be hurt by her saying she's not really into anyone at the moment. Maybe she just needs a friend...for now.

    Just be there for her and I bet she'll be impressed by that. Just tell her how wonderful she is (we all love that) and just hint a little bit at at time that you're willing to be more than "just friends".

    Sorry, I know it's not really good advice but, good luck.

  • Hope
    19 years ago

    Jackie, your advice is rather good in my opinion. lol, you took some of my points :(.
    John, I have to agree with Jackie regarding the "little desperate" point 'cause that is how i got my heart broken. The problem is that moving quickly into relationship brings it's inevitable end sooner. Do you know why??? It is because there isn't a strong foundation to begin with and you need one if you ever want to pursue a long-term relationship. Remember, love is like a ladder, you start from the bottom and work ur way up, but the higher you go, the more unstable the ladder can be, but if it is properly grounded or someone is there to support it, you can make it to the top. However, speaking from my experience more importantly, do not pour ur heart out on this girl just yet. That time will come later.
    Furthermore, from what i've read, the girl u like broke up with another guy recently. At this point, you should not start to make a move on her 'cause when you have a break-up, they are usually not in the mood for another relationship, which is why she may have said, "i don't like any1 right now mainly". So don't be depressed by her response. She will need time to think matters over and have a break from the guy thing, especially when it ended the way it did. Put urself in her shoes and give her time.
    My gosh Jackie u r good 'cause i also have to agree that you should continue to be there to support her, especially after a rough break-up. It is what friends do!!! There is also almost nothing better in a teen's harder side of life than someone who cares about you and is there for you when you need him/her the most.
    Therefore, John, to answer ur question, I wouldn't really advise to "impress" her or tell her "i love you" just yet. Be a good friend right now and be patient. Take baby steps. Friendships and relationship take time and don't forget about the ladder. Good luck and take care!!! 8)

  • Jackie Bilson
    19 years ago

    Right on Hope. I'd high five you but, My dad will kill me if I break our new computer screen. :D

  • Jackie Bilson
    19 years ago

    Before you say all of this:

    "If u don't like me is ok but I love u. Why not try giving us some times? I no that my heart is still not broken cuz it never will and I'll try my best to do anything to impress u...srry but i can't stop loving."

    try to find out where she's at. Did she really actually reject you? How did she react? Is she confused? Flattered? It could be completely different to what you think she's thinking. The best thing is to get HER tell you what's going on first before confessing your undying love for her. You might end up coming on way too strong. When someone comes on too strong, it makes the person feel uncomfortable.

    Check the facts before you act.