Rape

Just wondering....How long does the memory stay with you....It's been a few years and it still haunts me..I wish it'd just go away..

Hiya, i dont think it ever goes away...erm, i think that the theory goes with, if you talk about what happened, then the memory is supposed to slowly become a 'normal' memory, rather than a painful one. Does that make sence?

Im not the best to talk actually, because things like this are always easier said than done, and me saying that is me being a hypocrite.

You can PM me though, hunni, okay? I kind of know what you're talking about, im there myself.
Take care, irisanne XxXxX

Yeah, i don't think that it ever goes away but i agree that talking (especially to people who have gone through the same thing) can really help a lot. i had a friend who was raped and she just kept it 2 herself which resulted in her committing suicide.

well i have never actually been raped but once this guy i thought was my friend got me drunk ( i mean it was a whole group of friends, at my house actually and you don't really expect that kind of thing 2 happen when with your "friends") anyway i came 2 bed because i had pretty much out done myself for the night and he short while later he came through. by then i had passed out anyway to cut a long story short i woke up with him feeling me and trying 2 take my top off.

another really good guy friend came through and got him away from me. i mean i know that thats not even close 2 rape but i guess if my friend never came through it probably would have been raped anyway if you ever feel like just talking then I'm always here. take care

It will always be there, the pain may fade over time, but you'll always have the memory. I was raped 12 years ago, still think of it.

Oh you poor thing!!!! I was raped by my dad about 2 weeks ago.....worst thing ever. But im here for you dear. Feel free to PM me. *hugs*

Yeah it never really goes away.

It will never go away.

The pain will always be there...BUT you learn to live with it. You learn to move on past it, you learn that while it hurts...you can move on in life.

It just takes time.

I just want to say that to all of you have been raped or sexually abused, i truly admire you all for your strength and support towards one another!!!

it really is a beautiful and selfless thing 2 go and use personal and horrible experiences you have faced in order to help others through their ordeal.

so i just wanna say that you are all amazing people and i really hope things get better for all of you!!!

I don't think it ever goes away, your past is your past and you can't change it. But you can always work on your future, helping prevent rape always helps you get over it or at least makes the pain go away.

Thank you all for your kind words. For those of you who have been sexually abused I'm sure you know that there are moments that make you remember those painful times. Again thank you for your support. It has been of great help

Okay this is weird.
Have any of you who've been raped / sexually assualted / abused actually reported the crime to the police?
The memory will always be there but it might help get a little closure when the perpetrator is locked up and unable to do it to anyone else.

And also, most cases that aren't reported, it's actually because the women enjoyed it. It's a bit sick to think of like that, BUT actually it's a lot of womens fantasies.
Thats all.

"And also, most cases that aren't reported, it's actually because the women enjoyed it. It's a bit sick to think of like that, BUT actually it's a lot of womens fantasies.
Thats all."

^ What about those who are only children, practically babies still? I doubt they enjoy it. I know you probably don't mean it like that, but just throwing it out there.

"most cases that aren't reported, it's actually because the women enjoyed it."

I think you need to change that word "most" Many don't report out of fear and embarrassment. I however reported mine, went to court and he still got off because his confession was inadmissible is court because he blurted it out before he was read his rights. Still glad I reported it, but I didn't want to at first.

I understand and I didn't meant to cause offense to anyone.
It's just that those are stats.
And notice when I posted I said 'women' had it as a fantasy. Not children.

^ Wasn't offended nor attacking you. Which is why I replied, "I know you probably don't mean it like that, but just throwing it out there." It had no reference to the information you gave, it's information on it's own.

And what Beautiful Chaos said too were, like-wise, stats as well as unfortunate experience.

Yeah i dont think that ever goes away i mean it happened to me afive years ago and it still wakes me up at night

Some women don't report it because you have to relive the experience again and it is terribly painful.
Enjoy it? Seriously?
Please note that rape is unconsented sex, so no they don't enjoy it.

The memory wont ever go away. You may come to be able to live with it, except it, and not be in so much pain from it, but the memory wont go away.

And enjoying it? You werent being serious were you? Like the comment above it is unconsented sex, how on earth is that enjoyable? There would be many reasons women dont report it. I didnt report it and im still scared to because of the constant threats made. Thats just my situation, just know that its far from an enjoyable experience.

Don't throw your toys out the pram. It was a comment from statistics. I am not saying everyone does and I am not saying that rape is okay.

I'm just saying that SOME women do enjoy it.