Is everyone insane?

Why do people think they need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at every moment. Do people just date someone just to say they are dating. Does anyone just wait for the right guy/girl anymore? Some of the girls I know don't even like their boyfriends, they just stay with them because they buy nice things for them, like jewelry. Material products. And that is what girls look for in a guy now days. They look at what can be offered to them. And I don't even know what a guy looks for in a girl anymore, how hot they are, I imagine.

"Why do people think they need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at every moment. Do people just date someone just to say they are dating."

^ I've been wondering that myself; been wondering when peoples morals for & of themselves had declined! :S I actually have a friend who'd said that she was tired of being single & wanted to hook up. When I asked if she had anybody special in mind she said no & that she'd just say yes to the first guy who would ask... I find that rather sad & pathetic. I don't understand what's so wrong with being single. I guess maybe some people don't feel loved by family, friends or themselves and go in search of that other form of love, which I can't blame them for (it's a natural response; natural but not reasonable). Everyones different. For some people, I have to agree, they have to try dating a few people because, hey, how would they ever know who the right one is if they don't take a chance or at least give them a chance now & then.

"Does anyone just wait for the right guy/girl anymore?"

^ I did; I'm proof (so don't worry there's still hope yet)! :D I was happy being single. Of course I also wouldn't have minded if I had a boyfriend either, but I wasn't looking & didn't just hook up with any guy who happened to walk by, I waited &, as it turns out, walked passed the right guy waiting for me too! He was (& still is) my first! :)

"Some of the girls I know don't even like their boyfriends, they just stay with them because they buy nice things for them, like jewelry. Material products. And that is what girls look for in a guy now days. They look at what can be offered to them."

^ Sadly I know quite a few girls, too many for my liking, who are with guys they don't like & only for material products as well as social status. That right there is truely sad & pathetic. Where have the morals for & of oneself gone?

"And I don't even know what a guy looks for in a girl anymore, how hot they are, I imagine."

^ I couldn't really tell you. For each guy it is different. Only they can tell you. But from what I know (from what my boyfriend had told me) they (he does at least, lol, & I assume other decent men do) look for a girl with a great personality, who likes them for who they are, shares some interests & is smart. Physical appearance is only a minor requirement, for some not at all. But unfortunately there are some guys who who are truely shallow & only care about the physical requirements. They totally turn a blind eye to other qualities. You just have to make sure that you find the right guy! (This, referring back to waiting for "the one"! ;)

I don't understand either, how the NEED for a boyfriend/girlfriend has been blown so far out of porportion. I have dated, yes, but it is not necessary for me to have a boyfriend at any particular time. Yes, i do like having one, but i dont need one. Seriously, you have to have a really boring life if you need a boyfriend just so you can have company, or for what ever other reason it may be. And btw, YES some people DO just date to say their dating. Ive actually had a boy AND a girl, tell me, that 'i need a bf/gf.' and when i asked why, they said, 'im tired of being single, plus people are asking questions' WHO cares what others think? And my god, who gets tired of not dating? I would think you might get tired OF dating, if anything. Especially if your dating someone you dont even like.

I know SO many girls AND guys! who dont like their bf/gf for whatever reason, yet refuse to break up. I actually know a guy that married his long term girlfriend, because he felt OBLIGED to her. How screwed up is that? And guess what? She said yes for the EXACT SAME REASON. I mean... if you dont like someone, dont lead them on, dont tell them you love/like them if you dont, and just simply tell them that you dont like them like that. Yes it may be hard, but it can help a lot later in the future. AND they dont get the wrong impression!

I do believe some guys are self centered, pure retards that only look at the female gender as a prize or trophy, or eye candy. I believe that may be why 'sluts' or women like that are able to gain bfs. If not, why would any self respecting guy want to date someone like that, other then for looks or popularity? It makes no sense to me. From the GOOD guys ive dated, they've said that they DO Like women for looks, but that they also HAVE to have a personality, for if they dont, the guy simply cant stand to be around them. And thus, the relationship ends. They do say there are a few cosmetic needs but that for the most part it is simply based on personality, as well as how the girl allows the guy to BE WHO HE IS. And not try to change him. Many guys in fact, have said that was one of the main points that they liked about me, i cared about them, but i did not try to change who they are.

"Some of the girls I know don't even like their boyfriends, they just stay with them because they buy nice things for them, like jewelry. Material products. And that is what girls look for in a guy now days."

Um, excuse me, I'M a girl. And I don't date guys for anything other than love and affection. I don't need gifts, I don't ask them for anything. So I think you need to reword that sentence.

I'm a girl too. Don't take it like that. See how there was a 'some' at the beginning? I think thats what the original poster meant. That SOME girls are only after material items... and frankly, some are. Thats all. See? :)

^^thank you. I did say SOME

I have a friend who always has to have a girlfriend. He has a girlfriend and he told one of my best friends he wanted to be more then friends with her. Luckily I told her he had a girlfriend before he broke her heart.

Ugh this topics ticks me off. Lol because you are absolutly right. What is happening to relationships now adays? Not all girls are doing that. (like me) but i've noticed that they only care about how "hot" a person is now. It is ridiculous considering that is going to get them nowhere.

A select few, mostly the new generations, do this. The reason being is... "Oh look at Johnny, he's got a girlfriend and same with Mike and Tony...Guess it's time for me to get one to so I'm not left out and look like a dork or something."

^^That simple quote shall you is called, "Gossip" which in many ways is good, and in many ways is bad, the new generations can't grasp the concept of love and many other things due to the mear fact of how they grew up. Media, such as TV, Movies, Magazines, etc. surround teens/kids every single day with peer pressure.

I personally am 22, and haven't had a girlfriend for 4 1/2 years. It doesn't really bother me that I am by myself at the current moment, as I always like to say, "Everything happens for a reason." Eventually I will stumble upon a beautiful girl that catch my attention, and it will be all when I least expect it. That is how it almost always happens, when you least expect it to happen.

Yeah, find a guy that will call you beautiful instead of hot. "hot" guys, to me, are not that appealing

Teenage romance you need to chill she wasn't saying girls are terrible people or anything. and i think its a huge insecurity thing. i call my friend out on it sometimes. i dont always know if she realizes shes doing it though. it is dumb though. why be with someone just to be with them? thats so childish

I have a friend that thinks she needs a boyfriend consantly all the time. if she is single she complains to me and my boyfriend about not having someone and us having the "perfect" relationship when it is not! She thinks she needs a guy to make her happy. and she says things like "i need a guy" I want someone like that" and she doesn't give her self the time that she needs to herself.

my boyfriend and me lets her come with us out somewhere sometimes so she will not be alone but that doesn't seem to help at all. she keeps saying it all over again. and I love her to cause we have been trough hell and back but sometimes I think that I can't help her at all.

To find yourself you can't just snap your fingers & suddenly know who you are, it takes years; a life time, to find who you truly are 'cause you're always growing & changing.

"For how can you trust someone loving you back if you can't even do that on your own?"

^^ I completely agree.

Anymore, most kids really do just date to date, its so sad... the whole POINT of dating, is to find a life partner, someone you can stick with forever, is it not?? I mean.. i have a friend who switches boyfriends every week, and half of them she doesn't even like! She pities them, so she'll say, "Oh, but hes so sweet." and then break up with him the next day. Its sad.
I also hate the love thing, love is such a meaningful word, DON'T say it unless you mean it. To me, love is one of the most difficult topics, for so many use it so lightly... pisses me off. I've only told one person (romantically) in my life, that i love them. And even if i'm no longer with them, i still love them.

By "people" you mean a sizable majority of the global teen age girl population?

Yes

All the things ppl have said so far are right!

most ppl just want to b in a relationship for sex, security, to have a sence of belonging (u no the usual perks) and mostly coz its pritty much all anything is about nowdays.

tv progs revovle around relationships, music is nearly always about love, and ppl around you expect it. i know too manny ppl who r in painful relationships and it seems to me that nowdays its coz ppl just dont wanna b alone. ther too afraid of being on ther own and some times just plain bumb and go running around falling in love at every corner...

but wht can u do eh... i just go with wht i think is right, and only tell ppl i love them if i really mean it.

Same here. I would never say i loved someone if it wasn't true. It gives that person a sense of hope, where there may be none. I personally think its cruelty to lie to someone in that manner, i think if its true love, it takes time to build trust and build a lasting relationship, it doesn't come in a few weeks.