Parental Example

I have a friend who is afraid to be in a relationship because of her parents. Her mom got pregnant with her when she was 22 and her mom and dad were only married for a year. When my friend turned 6 her parents got a divorce and they hate each other. She doesn't want that to happen and she's convinced that it will. I tried to tell her that just because it happened to her parents doesn't mean it will happen to her, but she won't listen. I was wondering if anyone knew people who felt like this or could give me some advice on what I should tell her......

She has to come to the realization in her own time, that what happened to her parents can only happen to her if she makes the same mistakes. Avoiding relationships won't keep her from getting hurt in life.

Everyone is right here. She isn't her parents. She has a chance to do great things with her life, just like everyone else does. And she most definately has a chance at love.

My parents are divoriced and they can't stand to be in the same room together. Yet, I have the most exciting and strong relationship I have ever had at this point. Not saying that we will get hitched and have 3 kids, but what I am saying, is that for now, I am pretty content with this one and I know your friend can have the same :)

Wish her the best of luck for me

Thanks for the advice. I guess she really does have to figure this out on her own, but I just wish there was some way for me to help her

There is nothing you can do. She will have to find out for herself. Just keep doing what your doing...being supportive, giving her hugs, etc.

Tell her one day " v" drove a car an was hit an died, but that doesn't have to happen and wont happen to every one

same w/ her sit.

give alot of examples she can relate w/

otherwise just show how much ur there for he an care

no matter what
actions speak loudest

Thank you. that's some great advice. I'm gonna try telling her that today.