Why are we

So afraid of people knowing things about us? I mean we keep so many secrets in fear that people will find out. Ultimately the power comes from us being scared that it won't be secret anymore, if everything was just out in the open, there would be nothing to fear... would there?

I believe, if everything was out there in the open, whether or not people meant to do it, they would treat us differently. Not many of us want that.

^^^ thats what I see exactly. People are afraid of being treated differently just because of something that happens, or something that they think, so they keep stuff to themselves. I try to be the person that doesnt treat people differently because of something that they tell me. I know, that if they keep things in it will hurt them. So, Im the person that they come to.

^^^ I believe they not only fear, but they KNOW. For example.. if you had cut... wouldn't most people think of you differently? They would try to get you help, no? Then you would always be bombarded with all these questions from people that don't necessarily care. Your arms would constantly be looked at, shocked faces, sympathy. I believe... if i were to tell all of my scars... i would be judged, and no one would want to have someone as a friend that was so broken, or they would befriend me simply out of pity. I do not think that would be a good life, also, people can use your scars against you. For if they no how much something hurts you to talk about, they could learn the EXACT words, to make you feel like dirt. People don't want their hearts exposed, thats why they are hidden, at least thats why i hide things.

^^^ people would think of you differently because they haven't experienced it. They wouldn't understand and they have all these ideas about it, I get made fun of for it all the time, just because of the way i dress. If they knew that I had actually cut, the jokes would stop. People would step back and detach themselves, and if they didn't detach themselves, they would try to help and it would just complicate things, at least for me. And they can just use the scars against you, without a doubt. That is why im so catious, because I dont need people treating me differently because of my past. It happened, im done, for now, and thats that.

^^^ very well said. I completely agree. If those around me knew my past, my scars, and my wounds, i would never be treated kindly. I am also already judged for how i dress, or how i act around others. I don't want help, not now, not when no one can help, its a waste of time. And they dont care anyways.

^^^ people judge before they can actually see anything. They don't stop and think about what could be under the surface. Then they keep the ideas that they made for others. They care about themselves, and what people see them as, while the whole time they label people, never giving them a chance to prove them wrong. Its extremely unfair. Im not saying that no one cares, because there is always someone on the sidelines, but they're cautious, they dont want an image of someone to change.

^^^ True, when i said everyone.. i didn't mean no one cared exactly... just that those that do, don't show it, or tend to be another who gets treated as such. Labels truly are the most pathetic way of treating another human being. People, on rare occasions am i wrong, tend to only see what the WANT to see of someone, instead of what is actually there. And yes, it is extremely unfair.

^^^ they dont show it because they want to protect themselves from finding out something that they may not want to know. And if they are treated the same way, well i ended up being more caring and actually showing it, but they may just want to deal with their own issues instead. People generally only see what they want to see. If they don't want to see it, they don't really get the entire picture. I've worked to get to the point where I can see the entire picture.

I'm an expert in this, I used to be so shy and bottle up my feelings and secrets, hide myself away and it's not fear, one thing is I was sorta raised into it, another thing is I think it out and the consequences are unbearable and the third thing is I feel I'm stronger keeping them in, if I go telling them I feel relaxed and relieved but I become valnrable, cry, anticipate impossible consequenses and say random things that get me in trouble or in an uncomfortable situation.

People find things to fear. The fear of being judged by everything. People would then be ^vulnerable, and open to judgement and hurt.

Nightmare
i agree with that