Should I have told him?

  • DeathsRose
    16 years ago

    I wrote a letter to my friend (who is in jail because his mother and g/f framed him) and told him that his g/f was cheating on him and trying to get my b/f arrested by lieing to the cops and saying he tried to prostitution her off to his friends (but he didn't because he was with me on the day she said he did it). He then wrote to me and told me he's done with her. He also wrote a letter for me to give to her because her family doesn't let her get letters from him. I gave it to her by typing it on her myspace because she's avoiding me right now and there was no other way I could have given it to her at this point. I then also gave her a piece of my mind as well. Should I have told her b/f what she was doing or should I have stayed out of it? I kind of felt like it was my place to say something because I don't thinks she would have and I deff. thought it was important that he knew. Did I do the right thing?

  • Jessica
    16 years ago

    Yes you did the right thing! You were trying to help your friend and I think you defiently did the right thing. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you if your boyfriend was cheating on you? I would and I'm sure your friend feels the same way.

  • Beautiful Chaos
    16 years ago

    You already did it so it doesn't matter if it was right or not anymore. My real thought is why do you hang around such dysfunctional people?

  • Sorinity
    16 years ago

    Totally agree with Jessica, you helped a friend, of course you did the right thing. You saved your friend from a lot of pain & that's a great thing.

  • Jaime
    16 years ago

    Personally, I think you should have minded your own business. It's not your place to tell him about his girlfriend, and not your place to give her a "piece of your mind". But what's done is done, so now you live with it. I think I agree with Chaos, you need to surround yourself with better people, perhaps.

    Edit: And when I say better, I don't mean that your friends are bad people. I just mean people who would have a more positive influence on you.

  • Elizabeth
    16 years ago

    You cooould have stayed out of it, because sooner or later she'd slip being the cheater she is... But if I found out my friend was being cheated on by their spouse I WOULD rather tell them right away too as opposed to let them be used! Also, I wouldn't want them to find out later that I knew & didn't tell them, that could result badly. I know if that were to happen to me that I'd want them; my friends, to tell me if they knew too. Don't doubt your decision, you did the right thing, you were a true friend.

    Ps. Besides, it's not like you could really mind your own business when the girl involved you (your boyfriend that is) like she had.

  • dirtyhands
    16 years ago

    I think yah,,xD

  • DeathsRose
    16 years ago

    After reading all of your answers...I think I did the right thing, I just needed some time to think about it, but then again she did leave me a pretty nasty message on myspace before she blocked me. It's not like I'm really worried about her doing anything it's just that it is kind of annoying. I left my fiance a message on his myspace where I posted her message she left me. I think I'm going to stay away from her for good. I can do a lot better than her. And her b/f well ex is a good person so now that I've dumped her as a friend I think all my friends are the "good" kind.