How do you keep from going insane?

Hey there. Ok, I just have a question for everyone, my fiance lives in a different country and things are getting complicated right now and he's having a hard time getting up here *I live in Washington and he's in Mexico*, we've been trying to find ways to make it work for him to come up here since June and it just hasn't worked yet, anyway that's not my question lol How do you pass the time and the nights to keep yourselves from going insane when your not able to be with the person you love for a long, extended amount of time? I really feel like I'm losing my mind because the nights are getting longer and more depressing and the days...well their a nightmare too lol Him and I talk every night on messenger and that helps but its only for a few hours. I know there's many that don't even get to have that blessing when it comes to the people they love but...what do you do? I've tried writing, reading, playing games, sleeping *which is getting hard too because its depressing going to bed alone and waking up without him there*, I can't talk to my friends for advice so please...advice would be great. And here I honestly didn't think I go crazier than I already thought I was lol

I can just give you some suggestions for things to do like join a sporting team, ask for more time at work, go out with friends more, watch movies, play computer games, keep fit and stay healthy or find a new hobbie

just some things to consider

Thank you for the suggestions John, I really appreciate it. I've tried taking up new hobbies, picking up old ones that I'd stopped doing, I'm doing beading, painting, now I have Christmas stuff to do to keep me busy but I still feel like I'm going insane and like the house is to small :P I don't hang out with many of my friends anymore since they just tell me to leave him, I've been doing more volunteer work and doing anything I can think of but even when I'm exhausted physically I'm still restless and have to do more to keep busy :P Thank you so much though for the suggestions, anything is appreciated

I am in a situation similar to yours. my bf of 5 months went to Virgina to stay with his dad and he wasn't planning on staying long.

he has been gone a month and I am about to go INSANE!!!!!!

before he went we saw each other everyday and barely spent anytime apart, well this has been very diffcult for me.....needless to say if he doesn't come home soon I am going to LOSE it and I will most likely have to be put in a mental ward LOL

I am not kidding...I blow off at anyone in sight and I can't help it. mention my bf and I compelety go off in a heartbeat!

sounds kinda the same huh?

If your still bored at home invite friends over to have a party or if you just want something to take your mind of things a nice good is always good

Yeh it does sound similar but im sure he isnt to happy about being apart from you either and you can always call him or if you both have one you could have a webcam conversation so you dont feel like your to far apart anymore

Hope i helped

*sighs* Indeed it does sound quite the same. I'm sorry you're going through that as well. Gosh I'd give anything to have only been going through this for a month though, I've been going through this for almost 14 months now :P

It does really feel like you're losing your mind doesn't it? And yeah, I relate very well to the blowing up at anyone and everyone thing, I feel bad about it most times but it gets to the point where you don't honestly care if you're hurting peoples feeling by going off all the time, just because you don't care all that much about anything other than wanting to be with him :P

Definitely one of the drawbacks to being so in love with someone isn't it? lol Hang in there and be strong

Thank you for the comments and advice :)

hahaha Angelina, I love your approach, thats great and made me laugh. I might just have to think about that lol

And Sluvious, thank you very much, I always value and appreciate your opinions and views. As always you have a very good point, one that I hadn't thought of completely like that.

So far I've found writing up a storm is helping, most of what I've been writing I'd never post on here but its a good form of therapy to get things out and then I can actually look at what I'm thinking and feeling clearly. Reading a lot, cleaning and house work is good too lol Thank you

Unfortunately, i can relate very strongly to this. *hug*

My moyfriend moved to Canada the first of August, and nothing has been the same since. I see him in everything i do, and I miss him so badly. Yes, we im, email, webcam, and talk on the phone, but its not the same. I miss his touch. I miss his voice. I miss his warmth..his smile...god, now im crying.

For me, there is no way to "pass the time". Jesse is in everything i do. I guess your best bet is to keep yourself occupied and busy with friends and odd things youve been meaning to do; but never forget that youve got someone out there - even if he's far away - that loves you.

Thank you so much Beautiful Disaster *hugs back*

I completely understand what you're saying. He's in absolutely everything you do, you can't look at anything, think of anything, talk about anything, without him being a part of it in some way. Kinda feels like I have a huge hole in my heart, slowly driving me insane :P *smiles a bit* Thats the only way I keep a little sanity, we email, im, talk on mics on messenger, on the phone, stuff like that mostly every night but its still not the same as having him at all :P

Indeed, I could never forget that :) Friends don't work for me, very few of them like him so their not supportive and helpful at all, they'd rather see it end then work out :P Reading a lot, I buy any little things that remind me of him or make me think of him and save them for when I see him, I buy cards just because and save them for him too, anything to keep busy and keep my mind busy :P

Hang in there hun