Ask Joe Column #7

Joe:
a ton of colleges were sending me information and applications.
after my semester grades came out they stopped.
i know i did quite poorly this past semester. it is the first time that has ever happened to me.
if i do better this next semester will they overlook that one semester?
i am currently a junior in highschool right now.
also is there a cure for senioritis?

K Thank ya much.

Hi Joe =)

I need your advice on this:

I'm completely head over heels in love with this boy. He's not the problem: My best friend is. She's ALWAYS flirting with him, she's all over him the entire time and it's simply annoying. I know she doesn't want him to be hers, she's got a boyfriend (far away though, long distance relationship...) and I know he doesn't want her. But still, I am not a jealous person or anything, but with her.. I don't know. The attention she asks of him and gets from him... it's pissing me off. I'm not jealous of her, but everything I do, she wants to top it. And not just with this boy, she ALWAYS does it. I don't mind much usually, but with him I do. He's told me that when we spent alot of time together he started liking me alot and now he just likes me. But I want us to be spending more time and I want to give him more atention and I want to get more attention from him, because I'm hoping something will grow from there. But she always comes in between and then I can't give him the attention I want, because when I tell him: "you look nice today" she'll be like: "OMG YESS!! You're so hot, OMG I neeeeed to touch you" and then she just does! And every sentence she speaks, she feels it's necessary to touch him and it just annoys the shizz out of me!

I know you're going to say: "Sit down with her and tell her how you feel!" Right? Well I did. Actually, I've done so a couple of times already. Everytime I tell her how I feel about her doing this and I ask her to back off a little and then she's either like: "Helloooo he's a friend of mine too!! I wanna hang out with him as well..." and then I tell her to be a little less all over him and blabla OOOORRRR she'll be like: "Yeah... I understand... I'll try not to do it anymore" and then she does! She just doesn't know when to stop.

So yesterday she was all over him again, touching him blabla and I told her I felt bad about her doing it and now she's giving me te silent-treatment, because she felt like it didn't make sense anymore, because we always have the same conversation and that she doesn't mean anything by it and I try to make her feel guilty. So we haven't spoken since and I'm furious.

Anyways, I don't know what to do anymore... Every other friend I would have ditched, but we've been best friends for 6 years. I can't just let that go!

Will you please help me? Thanks in advance =)

As the world falls down around me: This deals with your GPA (grade point average) more than anything. A majority of colleges and universties require a certian GPA. The average GPA which schools require usually varies from school to school. I advise you look at the school you want to go to and find out what GPA you would need to get accepted at that particular school. So yes, they will overlook your "bad" semester as long as you get your GPA higher.

Cure for senioritis? Not one that I know of, but if you want to get in a good school I suggest you put your mind and study habits in the right place. Yes, senior year is full of fun, but you have to know your boundaries with fun and work.

Pamela: Humans are imperfect, with imperfect minds, therefore we do not understand all levels of the true complexity of life in general.

There comes a time in everyones life where they come across a bitter relationship; however, take all those feelings that have gathered up and use them as inspiration as to what you want in your relationship with your friend.

As I always say, "Everything happens for a reason." This is basically the same thing the Jewish people said during the Holocaust, "Never again" They told themselves it would never happen again and they fought towards that goal and achived it.

As you stated, I would advise your to site and talk with her, let it be known what your feelings are, don't hide what you truely feel within, if you do you'll burst one day and might not like the outcome of what comes ahead from your outrage of emotion thrown at your friend. So even though you've all ready sat down with her and discussed how you felt on this particular matter, I would advise to sit and talk with her again. Get all the feelings out, both of you, scream, yell, do whatever it takes, don't take no for an answer, come to some kind of agreement.

I'll finish with a quote from Dr. Napoleon Hill - "Whatever the mind can concive and believe the mind can achive."

What do you do when you like a guy... AND you like his two bestfriends! and you like one of his best friends... and you cheated on your boyfriend.... and the guy you cheated on him with likes you back. so all of the guys like me. and i like them, so idk what to do! HELP!!!!!!!!

Kylie: First and utmost, you are young, and at that age guys usually think of one thing, sex. It would be in your best interest to forget they like you, and just go with what your heart says (whichever one happens to make you the most happy). Secondly, don't chose the wrong path in life, having this many guys like you at once is fine, cheating and being dis-honest isn't. Be who your parents brought you up to be, not some "girl" who will do anything for any guy. Think straight, there are better things in life than cheating with others.

Here are two quotes from one of the brightest man who has ever lived life to the fullest in my opinion and that man is Walt Disney. So here are the two quotes:

"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them."

"When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable."

I want you to read those two quotes, and ponder on what he is talking about. In reality, if you think about it, he is saying... why think of all the negitives that can happen? Why not think of positive aspects of what can happen if you pursue your dreams.

Think and dream big, and great things will happen. It is all about your mind-set, and how confident you are about actually moving foward with the process of making your dreams come true.

Thanks! :]

Joe, does it make you sad when you have no questions to answer? :)

XToBeWithYoux: hahaha...you know, it really doesn't make me sad. The reason is that when there are no questions left to answer, I know I answered in a reasonable amount of time, as well as in some cases helping others that are looking for help. So really to know that I answered their questions and have non left makes me happy since the person recieved their answer in a reasonable amount of time.

But on the flip side, I do indeed love writing answers to questions people leave me here.

Joe.
So I told my parents that I think Im depressed and Ive been thus way for the last few months....They don't care. They just think its another high school teenage drama thing.
What should I do? I want help but I won't be able to with their help. I don't have any access to a vehicle. I only have my permit.
Thanks,
Krista

Tetrisxxkrista: Talk to the school counselor, he/she should be able to get you the help you are looking for. Tell him/her what you told me just now.

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