Don't Know What To Do

  • Shotput Girl
    16 years ago

    Hey guys. I seem to be leaning on you guys a lot but a lot is happening. My boyfriend is depressed and so am I. He may move away to Texas. His mom is also pregnant with her second child by the same guy. She's not even married. She now has three children. My boyfriend, Jace, and one that's coming. Sad thing is that he will be the one responsible for this child. He will have to take care of this little one and his baby brother. I think it's truly sad. But that's beside the point. He may lose his home and his mom might be moving him to Texas. I can't handle all of this along with everything else at home. I don't want to lose him. We've been together now for a year and two months. It's not like I can just let this go. We've gone through so much together and so many tears were shed. I just don't know what I can do to make him smile. I don't know how to make myself sane for his sake. I need to be strong for him. But I can't help but feel so sad and depressed. My own emotions need to be under control before I can even think about his. But I'm trying so hard. No matter how I feel on the inside... I always have a smile on my face for him. Please... Please help me... I don't know how to help...

  • Aimz
    15 years ago

    Okay, firstly, why on earth does he take responsibility for his brother and the baby?
    Secondly, his mother might not be married but if she has two kids with the same guy I am assuming they're in a relationship right? So it's quite secure.

    Thirdly, I think you are being a little dramatic. People move around all the time, best friends, family. My boyfriend is away at war right now for seven months, yeah I miss him and even when he comes back we'll have one weekend together out of every month.
    I think you need to stand on your own two feet and take some responsibility for your actions and feelings instead of moping around complaining about how bad things are.

    Just look how lucky you are to have someone so caring in your life.

    He might move to Texas, but it's not another country. He's not going to a war zone and you can see one another still, it'll just be a bit more effort.
    If you manage to get through a long distance relationship with him, then just think how strong you are and how much else you can achieve and how perfect you must be for one another.

    Cheer up, seriously, it could be a hell of a lot worse.

  • Aimz
    15 years ago

    And I must add, if your profile is correct and you're 15, then you seriously should be thinking more about having fun, studying and making a future for yourself than worrying about boys.
    It's just like having your best friend move away, you can still talk on the phone and over the internet.
    It's not like he's terminally ill.

  • Shotput Girl
    15 years ago

    Thank you very much for the advice... This is really old. He broke up with me awhile ago. Thanks anyway. I appreciate it.